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Why don't students respect the stay home message?

283 replies

Propsneeded · 09/01/2021 23:17

Simple really. Universities are not open for the vast majority unless veterinary etc.....yet many are turning up already...

Falmouth 200 students back despite University not open....

Why don't they follow guidelines...

Aibu they can do what they like
Yanbu they should follow the guidelines and stay at home

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 10/01/2021 18:39

@mumsneedwine

Mine both have a dishwasher. In my student house we had to break the ice on the loo in the winter. I sound so old.
Yes dishwashers, tumble dryers-all mod cons. It's all very different. Grin It's not The Young Ones any more.
Firenight · 10/01/2021 18:41

Paying rent. No space to study at home. Would rather be living with friends than family.

HelloMissus · 10/01/2021 18:41

I’m interested to know which degrees can be done without access to an academic library.
Or labs.
Or studios.
My DS has to begin his dissertation soon and will need to read original documents.
Or should he just say fuck it and not bother?

HelloMissus · 10/01/2021 18:42

Also many many students have already had Covid. My DS and all his house had it in October.

singsingbluesilver · 10/01/2021 18:43

[quote mumsneedwine]@singsingbluesilver er you told me to 'crack on'. So I did. Please be careful with your language about our kids. I'm terrified for mine. And people saying they are reckless and wrong does my help. Everyone is doing the best they can.
And yes, my DDs Uni rooms (one in halls, one in a house) are much bigger than their ones at home. And they are en suite.[/quote]
My sincere apologies if I came across this way. I have had children in uni and I know what a worry it is. I was referring to another thread that I contributed to where the poster said her dd was in grotty accomodation where her daughters flatmates had contracted covid. I know that students are adult with minds of their own, and that however much a parent worries they will do what they want.

Sparklingbrook · 10/01/2021 18:43

Some student accomodation is indeed grotty, and no place for a sick student to go through covid miles away from home

Why the assumption all students are miles from home? I've not seen any 'grotty' accommodation for years. And why the assumption they are all going to have Covid?

Farewell2020 · 10/01/2021 18:44

Paying rent. No space to study at home. Would rather be living with friends than family.

Sums it up nicely.
Contributes also to the local economy by getting Domino pizzas and beers from the local Co op !

thefallthroughtheair · 10/01/2021 18:44

Oh dear God, haven't the young given up enough yet?
Most of them are abiding by the rules, just as most people generally are abiding by the rules.
The young will be paying the price for this shitshow for most of their working lives so perhaps we should just be grateful that most of them are so lovely and woke and caring, rather than worrying about a few who've had enough or are simply forced by circumstance - whatever that may be - to actually live in their own home.
Those of us who are older will have cause to be grateful to them in a few years time as it will be their taxes which will be paying for our care so perhaps we should stop being so unsympathetic and unpleasant.

HelloMissus · 10/01/2021 18:45

As for grotty accommodation - DS house is not too bad at all.
Warm, cosy, dishwasher etc - organic veggie Indian restaurant next door.
But most importantly his girlfriend lives in the house Wink

Farewell2020 · 10/01/2021 18:45

@thefallthroughtheair

Well said !

Sparklingbrook · 10/01/2021 18:46

@Farewell2020

Paying rent. No space to study at home. Would rather be living with friends than family.

Sums it up nicely.
Contributes also to the local economy by getting Domino pizzas and beers from the local Co op !

I think DS is keeping the local takeaways afloat nicely and would imagine they know his order by now. Grin
mumsneedwine · 10/01/2021 18:50

@singsingbluesilver I may be a bit over sensitive today as youngest has gone back.I hate all this. Need a rubbish film and wine tonight. Big hugs to you - it's a tough time to be a parent !! 🤗

jasjas1973 · 10/01/2021 18:52

@thefallthroughtheair

Great post!

singsingbluesilver · 10/01/2021 19:00

[quote mumsneedwine]@singsingbluesilver I may be a bit over sensitive today as youngest has gone back.I hate all this. Need a rubbish film and wine tonight. Big hugs to you - it's a tough time to be a parent !! 🤗[/quote]
Thanks for responding. I would never mean to offend or hurt anyone. I have one dc who I cant' see as they live so far away. Thankfully the other is at home.

Wouldn't MN be a nicer place to be if we could all be kind to each other. I do appreciate the reply.

NataliaOsipova · 10/01/2021 19:07

The young have been utterly screwed by the older generation: on Brexit, on climate change, on housing.... It’s obviously all very complex, but - in a nutshell - there’s been a huge inter generational transfer of wealth which hits young people hard. So can you honestly be surprised if they don’t want to give up the best years of their life and their education to stop the spread of a virus that isn’t terribly harmful to them? I’m not. (No skin in this game either; I’m middle aged with kids in school.)

NursieBernard · 10/01/2021 19:12

Because they are paying rent and have every right to be there.

Abraxan · 10/01/2021 19:15

Do parents really want their children 100s of miles away in a hall or a grotty student flat with covid??

Hopefully dd won't catch it but we will deal with that at the time if she does.
DD's flat isn't grotty. It's a very modern apartment style full of everything she needs.

Plus the bottom line is she has face to face sessions due to the nature of her course - I don't need to be made to feel guilty that my 18y dd may have to be alone ill when we don't really have much choice. It's been a stressful enough year as it is. But thanks anyway.

Kazzyhoward · 10/01/2021 19:15

@singsingbluesilver

Uni is not their home though is it. Lets not pretend otherwise. It is temporary accomodation.

People will do what they want. Some people will bend and break the rules. Most uni students can continue with their studies from their home. Where they live. With their parents. Where they will return at the end of their studies, because it's their home.

But never mind - you keep doing what you are doing. Travel across country when you don't need to.

Err no. Many students won't go back to live at "home" with their parents after they've finished Uni. Many will stay in their uni cities to work, many will get jobs in other towns/countries. Given that the "top" jobs are concentrated in the major cities these days, I think it's becoming more normal not to return to your home town after you've finished your Uni course. Such students may well return to their parents' homes temporarily or for visits, but they'll regard their Uni town as their "home" for the duration of their course, and often, beyond.
SchnitzelVonCrummsTum · 10/01/2021 20:13

@RufustheSniggeringReindeer - no need to apologise at all, and thank you for the virtual flowers - it was my fault for not being particularly clear in the first place!

Wannabangbang · 10/01/2021 20:17

If i was paying as much rent as them then i would to. Until this shambles stops of them still being charged then i have every sympathy with them. They'll be paying these loans off in years to come.

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 10/01/2021 20:22

Thank you schnitzel

I think i was just a bit over excited at the number of positive comments 😀

DenisetheMenace · 10/01/2021 20:25

Presumably because they’ve paid their rent in advance?

Our son, Sixth Form college, not uni, hasn’t seen a soul of his age, bar 6 days in college in Sept., since mid-February. Doing it willingly and with very little complaint to protect other very vulnerable family.

Please don’t tar all young people with the same brush, they’re not an homogenous blob. No one age group is.

Maladicta · 10/01/2021 20:29

Dd and her boyfriend went back on the 28th as they’re both writing dissertations and can’t get the materials they need otherwise they’d have stayed at home. They took a ton of food and have self-isolated since getting back.

Ds isn’t going back to halls until he gets the go-ahead as he can work at home, his only mates who are back have good reason to be there.

From what I’ve seen, students have been a hell of a lot more responsible than many others...

HappyThursdays · 10/01/2021 20:33

My son has a far bigger room at university than he does at home. He's also got exams this week and all his books/equipment are there so he went back just before the lockdown. He had coronavirus last year so when others in his Halls came down with it, he cooked them food and made sure none of them became too unwell.

My daughter (last year) lives in the area she studies and has a rent contract for a private house with her friends till June. She's also got a bigger room there and 3 essays to submit by next week. She has student nurses in her house and has been making them packed lunches to take into hospital.

I don't blame them for wanting to be there. They went pre lockdown and are doing what they can to support those around them. I would rather that than them sat at home!

woodlands01 · 10/01/2021 20:47

Rent rebate for 2nd and 3rd year student in a private rental contract? I don't see how that is going to happen. And I (as many other parents) pay the rent. Fabulous.