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People using 'bubbles' as a way of not social distancing

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lozjay · 06/01/2021 18:16

I'm getting so angry with rule breakers who keep justifying seeing friends and family by claiming they are in their bubble , as I was aware the whole point is not to have so called 100 bubbles of people that's why we are in this shite mess does anyone relate to these kind of humans ? 🤯🤨

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Bimbleboo · 06/01/2021 18:53

I went to the park today with my toddler and ended up leaving after a very quick push on the swings.

Group of eight mums, all gossiping away, had come to meet up in the park because ‘no one can prove we didn’t all just bump into each other’. I know this because one was on the phone to another mum-friend loudly trying to convince her to also come to the park, and was saying ‘we will be here a few hours yet, you can come and join our park bubble’

Park bubble.

Between them there must have been fifteen or so small kids running around, climbing all over each other, several with runny noses and coughing all over the playground equipment.
And in the same conversation, she let on that three of them have their older kids in school under a ‘Keyworker’ place. She seemed very proud of the fact they’d all
managed to get these places and said the school ‘knows better than to argue with her’.

If you are hanging out in the park for the morning, I’m not sure why you need a keyworker place today. Doesn’t that kind of behaviour just increase the risk of transmission for ACTUAL key workers who may then have to self isolate, taking them out of the NHS staff levels or other keyworker organisations?! They have no choice but to send their kids in, alongside yours who have been in a household that is mixing with how many others in a ‘park bubble’ because you want to socially meet up with your mates and have your kids all play together.

I’m aware that I will probably just be flamed for caring what other people do. And maybe it IS wrong to expect kids not to play together in a park and have a lovely time. But it made me so uncomfortable that schools are closed, kids education is being withheld from them, we are being told the NHS is now about to be critically overwhelmed...and people are just insisting on gathering all their kids together regardless. What’s the point? It being outside makes little difference if you are going to let them play that closely together for a long period, with a new more infectious strain.

Felt really awkward leaving as I didn’t want them to think I was hysterical and it was probably obvious why I left so sharply. Though she was so loud that it felt like she wanted everyone in the U.K. to hear her conversation and think she was such a bad ass.

Maybe I am hysterical. Half of MN seems to think it IS hysterical to think people should actually be bothered anymore.

Am also aware they probably aren’t breaking any rules or laws or whatever.

It still felt shitty to me though.

lozjay · 06/01/2021 19:11

Sadly I too myself have heard and seen this behaviour also even some of my partners family members lie and make up bubbles according to who they want to have coffee with during the week

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LincolnshireLassInLondon · 06/01/2021 19:40

This makes me cross too. We have DS under one so we're allowed a bubble, but we haven't made one because we're doing alright without and, whilst it would be nice, we don't think it is worth the risk. It makes me angry when people abuse it.

Mummytea24 · 06/01/2021 19:52

My brother and his wife have multiple bubbles (had 3 different households over for Christmas) but will use the 'your not in our bubble' as an excuse to not do something.

Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady · 06/01/2021 19:53

I agree with you OP. Bubbles fucking everywhere.

I have no bubble. I'm not entitled to one.

I'm not even allowed to visit my dad who has late stage cancer and have a coffee in the garden.

I have considered asking OH to move out so I can form a bubble with my parents

(Joking...sort of)

HesterShaw1 · 06/01/2021 19:55

This is why lockdowns won't work.

People won't be on their own any longer.

It should never have gone on so long in the spring and summer. That was ludicrous.

Spiratedaway · 06/01/2021 20:01

@HesterShaw1

This is why lockdowns won't work.

People won't be on their own any longer.

It should never have gone on so long in the spring and summer. That was ludicrous.

Totally tight should not have gone on so long in the summer people have lost faith I stick to the rules but have cried for 3 days running and sliding into depression I don't get angry about other people now it is exhausting
orangenasturtium · 06/01/2021 20:20

@Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady

I agree with you OP. Bubbles fucking everywhere.

I have no bubble. I'm not entitled to one.

I'm not even allowed to visit my dad who has late stage cancer and have a coffee in the garden.

I have considered asking OH to move out so I can form a bubble with my parents

(Joking...sort of)

I think you are permitted to visit your father on compassionate grounds, if he is terminally ill @Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady Flowers
Bimbleboo · 06/01/2021 20:21

@LincolnshireLassInLondon see we have always been ‘entitled’ to them too. Circumstances mean we could easily have several bubbles for childcare and mental health support.
Like you, haven’t felt I genuinely need it. I’m sure it would be lovely, but the extra risk wouldn’t be. I don’t think I trust anyone else to be as careful as I’d want them to be if I ‘bubbled’ with them and I can’t expect to dictate to others. So while I technically am entitled, it doesn’t feel right. And I haven’t bothered.

Givemeabreak88 · 06/01/2021 20:29

Yes I’ve noticed this! People having numerous “bubbles” for different “needs” it’s a joke tbh 😒 I am on a single parents group and a woman was posting because she “bubbled” with an ex she hadn’t seen in a year; went to his house (clearly for sex) then hasn’t seen or heard from him since so she was posting asking if she’s right to be upset! When I pointed out how was he her bubble if she hadn’t seen him in a year and hadn’t heard from him since, seeing as how it’s suppose to be “support” bubbles not shag your ex bubbles, I asked if her or him had any other bubbles as you’re not suppose to be changing them to suit and she deleted the post!

Bimbleboo · 06/01/2021 20:39

@Givemeabreak88 ShagYourExBubble Shock hahahaha. God that even beats the Park Bubble. Bloody hell.

lozjay · 06/01/2021 22:35

My MIL uses the bubble excuse to see her newborn grandchild even tho she has another, a few months old who she's hardly tried to see (whilst lockdown was eased in summer) whilst my younger bro who lives with my 53 year old dad goes out and stays backwards and forwards at his gf house with the excuse he's in a bubble she's not vulnerable she lives with her mum 🤯🤯🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ another shag bubble !!

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XenoBitch · 06/01/2021 22:38

So, what would you propose as a solution to this?

Quornflakegirl · 06/01/2021 22:41

MIL is doing this. She has a bunch of bubbles and her bubbles have bubbles and she is annoyed because we won't form yet another bubble with her Confused

lozjay · 06/01/2021 22:42

Let's frigging say no more bubbles

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CoffeeRunner · 06/01/2021 22:46

A nurse colleague of mine posted pictures of her birthday party on FB yesterday - saying that before anyone complained it was two households in a bubble.

Trouble being, there were members of three households clearly in the picture inside her house. And not one of them is a single adult household in any case, so not even entitled to be forming bubbles 🤷🏻‍♀️.

So yes, I do think people are just using the bubble concept to get away with doing what they want.

lozjay · 06/01/2021 22:48

I think these bubbles may just be the reason it's spreading so bad

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PurpleDaisies · 06/01/2021 22:49

@lozjay

Let's frigging say no more bubbles
That would be utterly miserable for those that genuinely need them. It would have serious negative mental health effects.

I don’t know what the answer is. At least outdoors the risk is really low but people really need to act more responsibly and minimise their social interactions. Going into people’s houses is the big issue, especially without social distancing.

lozjay · 06/01/2021 22:51

No we need to suck it up and say no bubbles people will always justify their need and most people who genuinely need them ain't taking the offer up anyway which just leaves all the bubble abusers who are !! Young boys have their lives to save us in the war and we can't even handle a few months of hardship what we have endured is nothing compared to the trenches lets not act like it is the same thing !!

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PurpleDaisies · 06/01/2021 22:53

No we need to suck it up and say no bubbles people will always justify their need and most people who genuinely need them ain't taking the offer up anyway which just leaves all the bubble abusers who are!!

Maybe that’s what you’re seeing but I’ve got single friends whose mental health would be utterly destroyed by months alone. Those bubbles really are a lifeline for people that genuinely need them,

MercyBooth · 06/01/2021 22:55

@lozjay Cool. When would you like the mass strike from unpaid carers to start? Because all it would take is for a few of us to down tools on the same day, phone SS en masse and say we aint doing it any more, Do you fancy that during a pandemic? Because that would shake the NHS in non Covid times! Family carers wernt even considered for a support bubble till 2nd Dec. After TWO lockdowns.

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 06/01/2021 22:58

@Givemeabreak88 if she didn't see anyone else for 10days either side of that then she didn't break any rules. Maybe she thought they were going to form a bubble but he got a shag and changed his mind. Maybe she's breaking the rules. Who knows. I nearly formed a support bubble with a potential fwb, but decided my mum was a better support than a fuck buddy.

@lozjay I need my support bubble. And I'm allowed one. I can't promise that if they banned them I wouldn't kill myself tbh.

Athinginitself · 06/01/2021 22:58

I think the idea of bubbles is important and necessary for some people, I really feel its important no one is totally isolated but so many people seem to have a support bubble (which they chop and change) a childcare bubble and a bubble because they have a child under 1. It's too much bloody bubbling. I realise it's hard and people want to see all their friends and family I really do, this is a massive clusterfuck of a situation but I dont feel like we are going to get out of it unless people start thinking about the spirit and reason for the rules and use some common sense.

lozjay · 06/01/2021 22:59

Carers are totally acceptable but do you not see that these bubbles are causing havoc

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PurpleDaisies · 06/01/2021 23:00

@lozjay

Carers are totally acceptable but do you not see that these bubbles are causing havoc
It’s not bubbles. It’s people.

If the bubbles didn’t exist, they’d still be ignoring the rules. Do you honestly think suddenly they’d decide to do the right thing?

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