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Can’t believe what a friend asked me to do

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:16

So one of my closest childhood friends messaged me a few days ago asking for a favour. She is in a new relationship and her and the boyfriend booked a hotel and were due to stay last night. She messaged me Christmas Eve asking would it be ok if she used my address for the booking. You see she only lives a few miles from my house, not far at all, but technically her area is tier 3, and the new boyfriend lives down south and is also in tier 3. She told me they’re desperate for some alone time as his kids and her youngest son won’t let them have a moments peace never mind anything else (if you get my drift). Now for a minute I felt for them as me and dh have a toddler so it’s rare we get any time on our own, even before covid, but my gut instinct was to tell her no. Anyway she got really uppity with me and said it’s no big deal they just want some time together. Basically trying to make me feel bad. Anyway I said no and that was that but technically if I had have said yes would it have been illegal? Like falsifying of some sort? Just curious really. Oh and then she text me last night saying thanks for ruining her night. Seriously!

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Gogglebox20 · 30/12/2020 07:22

I take it you’re in tier 2 and live further North (just cos you said the Boyf lives “down South”?) and that’s why she wanted to use your address?

Anyway, you did the right thing saying no and to be fair she shouldn’t have put you in that position. Plus then to text you and say you’ve ruined her night...personally, I would be re-evaluating that friendship.

Pearsapiece · 30/12/2020 07:22

Well you obviously said yes didn't you, and now you're worried about the potential fall out.
In reality, probably no issue. I doubt they would check. However, if anything did come of it you could always deny all knowledge and say she did it without you knowing.
I think hotels are going to be too greatful for the custom to check minor details like this.

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:24

No, I didn’t say yes.

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:26

Yes I live further North. She asked me,
I said no, she should respect that, not act like a child and throw her toys out of the pram.

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hettyhooverdoover · 30/12/2020 07:27

I'm with you OP. I don't lie and wasn't brought up to. She is being really cheeky .

hettyhooverdoover · 30/12/2020 07:28

You did the right thing imo

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:29

Don’t get me wrong I feel for her as I know what it’s like having kids a busy job and getting little time for your relationship, but then again we aren’t living in normal times and we just have to make do for now.

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2typesofjungle · 30/12/2020 07:29

Do you like her and want to keep the friendship? Personally I wouldn't.

Grooticle · 30/12/2020 07:30

I agree with you, you don’t want to help her to lie to break the rules. If she hadn’t asked permission though you’d prob never have known. Some hotels are asking for proof of address, but a lot of them aren’t.

Literallynoidea · 30/12/2020 07:31

If I were her I'd have made up an address.

Not fair to put you in that position.

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:32

My dh made a good point too. When we’ve booked hotels in the past we’ve had to give our contact details eg our address either online or over the phone directly to the hotel and on a few occasions when we arrived we had to show ID too. Plus there is track and trade to think of. If I’d agreed to this would she have given my telephone number too meaning I could be tracked and contacted.

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redfernsydney · 30/12/2020 07:32

I am not sure she's a friend.

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:33

Yeah I like her, she’s one of my closest friends, and usually a mature, rational and reasonable person. I don’t want to lose her as a friend over something like this.

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AnguaResurgam · 30/12/2020 07:34

but technically her area is tier 3

Nowt 'technical' about it. She's tier 3.

Yes, there are weirdities when you are very close to a boundary _ though a 'few miles' might not be that close.

You've done the right thing, and the boyfriend who made the booking will just have to sort it out. It's not your problem to solve.

It'll (probably) need to be a bubble arrangement at one of their homes? Even if they bend the rules to,achieve that, it's marginally preferable to being in a different location and possibly interacting with more people (and having those people clean after them, handle their bedding etc)

Bluntness100 · 30/12/2020 07:35

Personally I’d have said yes to this. What is it you’re worried about that made you say no? Yes tech breaking the rules, but she sees her partner anyway, and no it’s not Some sort of illegal act that would see you in jail.

userxx · 30/12/2020 07:37

I'd have said yes. What the big deal.

BethHarmon · 30/12/2020 07:40

I don’t get it, where would the kids be if she’s away at a hotel? Why can’t they just be alone at home while the kids are being looked after?

I agree she is BU

BlackCatShadow · 30/12/2020 07:41

I know someone who runs a hotel and they've had a terrible time with people lying to make bookings. It's very obvious by their accent when they arrive that they are from a Tier 4 area. They are really worried about the effect it will have on the local rural community if they are allowing infected people to stay as they don't have the hospital facilities in their area to deal with a large number of cases. In the end, they decided it was safer to just close the hotel, but it's been really tough on them.

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:41

I just didn’t like the idea of it if I’m being honest. I’m tier 2 so could go and stay at at hotel if I wanted to but I’m trying to limit contact and places I go, you know being a responsible adult. Plus like I said what it she went one step further and gave my name and telephone number and then I was tracked and traced?

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:42

My friends DM had agreed to mind her two dc and I’m not sure about her boyfriend’s kids.

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SycamoreGap · 30/12/2020 07:44

What was she planning to do the children?

userxx · 30/12/2020 07:46

@SycamoreGap

What was she planning to do the children?

Leave them at home with a box of matches for company.

lilyblue5 · 30/12/2020 07:51

Rude, I would’ve said no too. She could make up an addressed. SIBU.

IamMariahScarey · 30/12/2020 07:51

I’d have said yes. YBU.

KaptainKaveman · 30/12/2020 07:51

@userxx

I'd have said yes. What the big deal.
What a stupid question. What do you suppose the tier system is there for?