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Can’t believe what a friend asked me to do

118 replies

NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:16

So one of my closest childhood friends messaged me a few days ago asking for a favour. She is in a new relationship and her and the boyfriend booked a hotel and were due to stay last night. She messaged me Christmas Eve asking would it be ok if she used my address for the booking. You see she only lives a few miles from my house, not far at all, but technically her area is tier 3, and the new boyfriend lives down south and is also in tier 3. She told me they’re desperate for some alone time as his kids and her youngest son won’t let them have a moments peace never mind anything else (if you get my drift). Now for a minute I felt for them as me and dh have a toddler so it’s rare we get any time on our own, even before covid, but my gut instinct was to tell her no. Anyway she got really uppity with me and said it’s no big deal they just want some time together. Basically trying to make me feel bad. Anyway I said no and that was that but technically if I had have said yes would it have been illegal? Like falsifying of some sort? Just curious really. Oh and then she text me last night saying thanks for ruining her night. Seriously!

OP posts:

crankysaurus · 30/12/2020 11:09

She could have just falsified her address anyway though, without bringing you into it. She couldn't have proved it either way with ID so not sure why she felt she needed to ask your permission, and draw you into it. Therefore it's not you that 'ruined her night'.

tiredteacher100 · 30/12/2020 11:09

And if there was a Covid case at the hotel you would have to isolate because it'd be your address on the records.

Seasaltyhair · 30/12/2020 11:13

@inquietant

It is fraud to pass yourself off as another person.

They wasn’t passing themselves of as OP. They wanted to use their address. Which isn’t illegal especially as there was no financial implications.

IdblowJonSnow · 30/12/2020 11:13

She shouldn't have asked and put you in that situation. I don't really blame her for asking but she should have just accepted your response.

annevonkleve · 30/12/2020 11:15

It's very obvious by their accent when they arrive that they are from a Tier 4 area

Dear MNers and hotel owners, people move all over the country and have accents that do not "match" their home location.

I might have a Birmingham accent and live in Hampshire, or have a Devon accent and live in Scotland.

However, to go back to the OP's post, I wouldn't have let someone use my address either.

Orf1abc · 30/12/2020 11:15

And if there was a Covid case at the hotel you would have to isolate because it'd be your address on the records.

Absolute rubbish, why do people make this stuff up?

If there is a case in a hotel, then close contacts are identified, that's not going to be every person in the hotel! In fact it's unlikely to be anyone, reception is behind a screen, rooms are not being serviced everyday, and in the restaurant contact is very brief.

If you genuinely believe what you said, read up on how transmission occurs.

Seasaltyhair · 30/12/2020 11:18

@tiredteacher100

And if there was a Covid case at the hotel you would have to isolate because it'd be your address on the records.

No they wouldn’t!

They were not impersonating OP and they dont actually live there!

I really hope your not a teacher if your thinking is so stunted!

Hope4theBestPlan4theWorst · 30/12/2020 11:21

Op you've done the right thing

Can't believe she asked you to do that for a shag - she sounds totally pathetic and wouldn't be a friend of mine after this!

BertramLacey · 30/12/2020 11:28

I really hope your not a teacher if your thinking is so stunted!

Let those who are without sin cast the first stone.

She was a bit cheeky to ask but it's her reaction that is more of a problem. I'd have said no because something about it just feels off to me. I get that it's difficult - my OH and I live apart, nearby but in different counties, and he has a child at home with him, so time together is difficult. I don't ask people to break regulations for me though, still less get the hump when they won't.

SideboardOfDoom · 30/12/2020 11:39

I’d just politely refuse and if she wants to get all funny about it, that’s up to her.

BubblyBarbara · 30/12/2020 11:47

So your friend wanted you to break the law simply because she’s desperate for a shag? Grim.

PerhapsOverlyWorried · 30/12/2020 11:56

If her and her boyfriend have the time away from children to be able to go to a hotel for the night, surely they have the time alone to be able to have sex in their own home?

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 30/12/2020 12:25

So much pearl clutching on here, it's hilarious.
Of course she wants to have sex with her dp, don't we all, particularly when a relationship is new and exciting.

Good on them both for seeing the importance of not exposing their dc to any of it (I'm a teacher and sadly have much experience of children talking about parents new relationships)
They arranged childcare, presumably in their own homes and the logical place to meet is in a hotel.
If they see each other regularly anyway, nobody is at risk and I absolutely would happily help out my friend in your shoes!

Rhiannon13 · 30/12/2020 14:58

I’d have said yes. YBU.

And that's one of the reasons this virus is still spreading.

BubblyBarbara · 30/12/2020 17:02

Of course she wants to have sex with her dp, don't we all

Speak for yourself dear

Divebar · 30/12/2020 17:42

What a dramatic lot. People can stay in hotels for work purposes and education even in Tier 4. Big hotel chains are not going to be asking questions particularly in lower tiers - they need the business. Let’s hope you never need a favour from anyone.

Alonelonelyloner · 30/12/2020 22:35

What a judgmental and sanctimonious bunch so many of you are.

God.

SmileyClare · 30/12/2020 22:38

@BubblyBarbara

Of course she wants to have sex with her dp, don't we all

Speak for yourself dear

Barbara that made me laugh. Great comic timing

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