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Can’t believe what a friend asked me to do

118 replies

NikkyD · 30/12/2020 07:16

So one of my closest childhood friends messaged me a few days ago asking for a favour. She is in a new relationship and her and the boyfriend booked a hotel and were due to stay last night. She messaged me Christmas Eve asking would it be ok if she used my address for the booking. You see she only lives a few miles from my house, not far at all, but technically her area is tier 3, and the new boyfriend lives down south and is also in tier 3. She told me they’re desperate for some alone time as his kids and her youngest son won’t let them have a moments peace never mind anything else (if you get my drift). Now for a minute I felt for them as me and dh have a toddler so it’s rare we get any time on our own, even before covid, but my gut instinct was to tell her no. Anyway she got really uppity with me and said it’s no big deal they just want some time together. Basically trying to make me feel bad. Anyway I said no and that was that but technically if I had have said yes would it have been illegal? Like falsifying of some sort? Just curious really. Oh and then she text me last night saying thanks for ruining her night. Seriously!

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laidbacklife · 30/12/2020 07:55

It’s guidance, not the law. If I were her I’d just have used any old address though. No one is going to check.

KatnissNeverseen · 30/12/2020 07:56

@NikkyD
It is rule breakers that are causing all these higher tiers and you did the right thing.

userxx · 30/12/2020 07:57

@KaptainKaveman Oh yes, because the tier systems have worked splendidly so far haven't they?

I'd be more concerned that my "friend" who is obviously a single parent needs a bit of downtime away from her kids after a fucking horrendous year. But yes, you're right, let's continue to judge each other and abide by the nonsensical rules 🙄

Mummyoflittledragon · 30/12/2020 07:57

If the friend’s dm was minding the kids, surely the kids could have gone to her mum’s house leaving a free house. Or maybe the bf’s place would be free.... unless he’s in a relationship and his partner / wife would be there. I wouldn’t have done this. It sounds as though they were angling for a short break.

GrumblyMumblyisnotJumbly · 30/12/2020 07:59

@NikkyD My friends DM had agreed to mind her two dc and I’m not sure about her boyfriend’s kids.*

If her mum had her DC at her house they could have time alone together at one of their homes if they are.a support bubble? They obviously see each other at their homes if they don’t get a moments peace.

If they paid by card the address would be different to yours and the hotel would have realised then.

You did the right thing OP. I understand your friend is fed up with the circumstances but she is being unreasonable.

HmmSureJan · 30/12/2020 08:03

"Can't believe what a friend asked me to do"

It's not that outrageous is it? You make it sound like she asked you to smuggle a kilo of weed into Thailand Hmm

Skipsurvey · 30/12/2020 08:04

difficult request.
i wonder if she used your address anyway

userxx · 30/12/2020 08:06

@HmmSureJan 🤣🤣 now that would be pushing the friendship boundary.

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 08:09

Yes I’m wondering if she’s already booked using my address and now she’s panicked in case i find out. I know there are worse things but she knows me well and knows I have stuck to the rules throughout and wouldn’t appreciate being asked to do this.

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KaptainKaveman · 30/12/2020 08:09

[quote userxx]@KaptainKaveman Oh yes, because the tier systems have worked splendidly so far haven't they?

I'd be more concerned that my "friend" who is obviously a single parent needs a bit of downtime away from her kids after a fucking horrendous year. But yes, you're right, let's continue to judge each other and abide by the nonsensical rules 🙄[/quote]
Judging from this post you have no issue with disregarding the rules and adopting an entirely selfish perspective. Well done you.

Skipsurvey · 30/12/2020 08:10

i think I would just let her

PurpleFlower1983 · 30/12/2020 08:15

Many hotels aren’t checking, even if people are from higher tiers and they are honest about their address. Lots of the hotels I follow on Facebook are referring to ‘advice’ but are seemingly not being strict on the rules.

nannybeach · 30/12/2020 08:17

Tiers are not guidelines, I can feel a total lockdown coming on!If your friend gets t & T, YOU will end up isolating for her.Is she going to pay cash, because any credit card details willl not match, every now and then Bank do a security check, keeps happening to my daughter for no good reason she bought some KFC, bank flagged it as suspicious activity

userxx · 30/12/2020 08:18

@KaptainKaveman So it's "selfish" to be concerned for a friend. Righto. You're one of those that can't see past the end of their own nose.

toodleloooo · 30/12/2020 08:21

How unfair of her to put you in that position. If the main point was alone time and childcare had been taken care of, why didn't they just stay at home?

leafygarden42 · 30/12/2020 08:22

It's not that outrageous is it? You make it sound like she asked you to smuggle a kilo of weed into Thailand

Grin Grin

I can't get too worked up about it either. People are going to break the rules. You can't control other people's actions - and judging them and being so angry all the time is fricking exhausting.

Have a Kit Kat -

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 08:23

I think her mum was looking after the kids at her house. Don’t get me wrong I get it’s hard to get time alone when you have dc but it won’t kill them to wait a while longer for a night away at a hotel.

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NikkyD · 30/12/2020 08:23

I’m only judging because she got mad with me for saying no.

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PegLegTrev · 30/12/2020 08:24

If she’s going to be fraudulent she would just do it anyway. I don’t think you agreeing or not changes anything. She’s the one who’s in the wrong.

Tinabn · 30/12/2020 08:30

We are in Tier 2, yesterday several pubs, cafes and hotels announced they were closing due to staff being intimidated by people from tiers 3 and 4. COVID cases are rising and we have an elderly population and one hospital. You did the right thing.

TheBigMelt · 30/12/2020 08:31

A bit cheeky to ask, but I can empathise with why she did. Her reaction to you saying no is out of order, though. Extremely rude.

Skipsurvey · 30/12/2020 08:32

she wont be giving your name though, so track and trace wont be relevant i guess, it will be a phone call if needed from t & t

middleager · 30/12/2020 08:38

I'd have said no too. This isn't fair on you, the hotel or others.

Jrobhatch29 · 30/12/2020 08:38

@HmmSureJan

"Can't believe what a friend asked me to do"

It's not that outrageous is it? You make it sound like she asked you to smuggle a kilo of weed into Thailand Hmm

Grin I couldn't get worked up about this either OP!
Viviennemary · 30/12/2020 08:47

You did the right thing refusing.