Has anyone else lost the will to care?

[whatToDoHerre]

I have. I barely care about anything anymore. I don't know what we are fighting for - if this is life then is it worth living? We are not living, we are only existing at this point.

We could be in for months and months of restrictions and there's even talk of a third lockdown. Because the first two worked so well?

In a few short months a whole year of our lives will have been restricted.

If there is light at the end of this tunnel it's a very long tunnel, and I don't think we've travelled very far.

Control with fear. That's all they've got now. If people are determined to swallow the bullshit then we won't get out of this. It needs enough of us to feel the same way and actually do something about it. What, I don't know, but there are what 130,000 police in England and about 56 million civilians. How are we controlled if not by fear.

@hamstersarse

In my large town there are 284 people who have coronavirus right now in a population of 300,000

284

It would be really hard to actually catch it if I tried.

But we are ‘very high alert’

I’m so so tired of the gas lighting

Agree - 78 out of 100,000 in my area. So that's 0.078%.

Or put it another way, 99.92% of people don't have Covid.

Even in areas like Merthyr where it's "rife" with 1200 cases per 100,000, that's 1.2% of people with covid and 98.8% of people who don't have it.

It absolutely is gas lighting I completely agree with hamsters.

With the news today of further restrictions likely imminent I've reached my limit. I've had enough.

I dont know what the point is in carrying on any more. There is no joy.

@treening

With the news today of further restrictions likely imminent I've reached my limit. I've had enough.

I dont know what the point is in carrying on any more. There is no joy.

That's how I see it. It's just existing. Nothing to look forward to. Every day the same.

I used to get by focussing on small pleasures I could enjoy at home - a nice cup of coffee, Netflix, scented candles - but that's gone very old at this stage. Life is just a dull shade of beige now, and no sign of improvement any time soon.

And if we feel like this imagine what it must feel like as an 18 year old who can’t socialise with their friends , cannot study easily or enjoyably at uni and faces a future of reduced jobs abs high taxes. The impact on so many is vast and I cannot understand how we as a society seem to have accepted that if it’s not Covid it doesn’t matter

I hate to hear people say they feel like giving up, I wish I could do something to help you. Keep posting, keep interacting. I know it's only the internet but we are all here albeit behind our screens.

I'm in Lancashire. I'd be happy to meet anybody who is struggling and share a pint of Baileys 😀

Some schools are handling it far better than others. I have heard of bubbles containing 150 kids ?! our primary school is a class bubble of 30. Full stop.

It's not possible for secondary schools to keep kids in the same group of 30 all the time, especially in older year groups. Pupils all take different subjects at GCSE and so need to move around within their year groups from about Y9 up, hence the bigger bubbles. Not all kids in a bubble are always sent home when someone tests positive though.

I’m not finding it that bad. You just have to find stuff. I have two school ages kids and one pre schooler. I am busy as ever, just doing different things. I joined a run group and gonout once a week with them in the evening. I go out for a walk most evenings or very early weeken mornings with a mate. I found a sports class for my two year old to do in the week. My older kids do two different sports classes a week. I work part time. We’ve found a few Christmas activities to do. Mostly involve tramping about looking at lights but the kids seem happy enough. I go to the park a lot after school or meet a couple of other toddler mums with the little one. Yes am sick of washing coats and puddle suits. But hey ho. We get takeaway one or two nights a week to feel like we are treating ourselves.

@massivesalad
I wish I was near you as i would share or double your pint of baileys. I think we would get on well! 🥂
Sadly I am in the south east where they are suggesting they are going to cut us off! Goodness knows how though 😊

@Nerdygirl

And if we feel like this imagine what it must feel like as an 18 year old who can’t socialise with their friends , cannot study easily or enjoyably at uni and faces a future of reduced jobs abs high taxes. The impact on so many is vast and I cannot understand how we as a society seem to have accepted that if it’s not Covid it doesn’t matter

Yes, I think for the first time in my life I'm sort of glad to be middle aged!

Imagine spending a year at uni 'interacting' via Teams, and missing out on all that uni life has to offer. Or starting out at work without being able to get real support from colleagues and sitting in a dingy flat with no trip to the pub on Friday evening to look forward to. Sad.

@Nerdygirl

And if we feel like this imagine what it must feel like as an 18 year old who can’t socialise with their friends , cannot study easily or enjoyably at uni and faces a future of reduced jobs abs high taxes. The impact on so many is vast and I cannot understand how we as a society seem to have accepted that if it’s not Covid it doesn’t matter

Agree. And the virus is not likely to effect them very much. When I compare to my university days it’s bad. Hopefully we get through it in the next term - when phase 1 is done

I’m not finding it that bad. You just have to find stuff.

Real easy to 'find stuff' when most places are shut, isn't it?

And I'm glad you enjoy 'going for a walk' but for many of us that advice got old round about last April.

I’m losing the will also.

Press is reporting Oxford vaccine could be approved 28th or 29th so I cling to that.

@ATieLikeRichardGere

I’m losing the will also.

Press is reporting Oxford vaccine could be approved 28th or 29th so I cling to that.

Yes, I really hope that's confirmed, though to read a few very persistent posters here you'd swear the Oxford vaccine was poison!

If it does get passed - and surely it's only a matter of time - it has the potential to be a game changer.

@midgebabe

So with that attitude we end up with full hospitals cancelling procedures and scans

Yes, I am fed up of them repeating the failure of trying to balance economy and health, when the countries that are doing better economically have gone for very aggressive virus suppression policies

What attitude?

I’m not finding it that bad. You just have to find stuff.

My teenagers are a bit old for slides and roundabouts at the park. Everything they'd want to do - Nando's, cinema, bowling, coffee shops, hanging around Primark - it's all closed. Youngest DS's drama is all on Zoom because students aren't allowed to travel into the city. No extra-curricular at all. DD's last singing lesson was in March. DS had his 17th birthday in March, managed 1 driving lesson before lockdown and it's been on/off since then. In April/May we did go out and about a lot, we have an area near us with loads of wildlife and we were out most nights watching fox cubs and baby owls. But in case you hadn't noticed it's December and dark by 3.30.

It's a totally different scenario when you have under 10s who are happy with wee trips to the park.

*Or put it another way, 99.92% of people don't have Covid.

Even in areas like Merthyr where it's "rife" with 1200 cases per 100,000, that's 1.2% of people with covid and 98.8% of people who don't have it.*

Totally agree

Shutting down a whole country and depriving people of their ability to earn money for that is ridiculous and completely disproportionate. Obviously I understand exponential growth and hence why we do need some restrictions but what was wrong with places being open and the rule of 6. Clearly if numbers are going up it’s something else causing it as social venues have been closed or severely restricted for ages and numbers are going up

I drove past a cinema last night and it was so sad to see it all in darkness and an empty car park. It’s criminal, it really is.

I really wish there was a proper mechanism to hold members of the government accountable for the way they have treated the people of this country who put them into power. It’s criminally shambolic at best.

Also losing the will. Already go out walking with the dog three times a day so that’s not exactly a treat. Can’t see my friends or family unless it’s outside....in December....in the UK!
Have to say though that I’m really proud of DS who had had his A levels cancelled, his driving test postponed, had his 18th birthday the day we locked down and lost his apprenticeship during this debacle. He picked himself up and has had two temporary jobs and looks like he’ll be made permanent at one of them.

My DH have both hit a wall I think this week. We are both so lethargic (we are not ill) and snappy with each other. In the main throughout this we have been okay, making the best of it, but we live in a small flat, no outside space, both working from home since March. I think the spirit has left us this week. The time of year does not help, this is a bad time for me every year but as soon as New Year is over I normally perk up. I figure that the lights are gradually getting lighter, spring is coming even though we have a couple of colder months to endure. But this year it will be different, the prospect of this dragging on and on is sapping me. The lack of spontaneity and restrictions are a massive mindfuck and I am slowly losing it I think. I hate seeing shops boarded up, restaurants that have gone out of business. Then of course, BREXIT and unchartered waters there.

I try to retreat into different world with books, podcasts and music which helps a bit.

The repercussions from this are going to be huge, for us as individuals and for the country/globally.

@CoronaIsWatching

And it's ALL white, straight mens fault

Well done. Tarnish everybody with the same brush. Says more about you than it does them.

So don’t go for a walk. I just like going as it keeps me fit and I normally meet a friend and we have a few and a chat. I don’t spend a single day alone. But I have to be proactive about it. DH likes to go for a bike ride or got to golf. Find something else to do. The point is to be proactive. Gyms are open. I was always a gym lover before but my two year old prevents it as cant put him in the crèche. You can swim if that’s your thing! Whatever. Just be proactive and look for stuff to do. I have also rediscovered my kindle and getting back into reading. It’s not forever. We just have to make the best of it.

I realised I said proactive a lot!! Guess it’s the word of the day.

@Didyousaynutella

So don’t go for a walk. I just like going as it keeps me fit and I normally meet a friend and we have a few and a chat. I don’t spend a single day alone. But I have to be proactive about it. DH likes to go for a bike ride or got to golf. Find something else to do. The point is to be proactive. Gyms are open. I was always a gym lover before but my two year old prevents it as cant put him in the crèche. You can swim if that’s your thing! Whatever. Just be proactive and look for stuff to do. I have also rediscovered my kindle and getting back into reading. It’s not forever. We just have to make the best of it.

Could you be more patronising?

Humans thrive on variety and spontaneity

Posts about going for a walk again really fuck me off