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Has anyone else lost the will to care?

624 replies

whatToDoHerre · 17/12/2020 21:46

I have. I barely care about anything anymore. I don't know what we are fighting for - if this is life then is it worth living? We are not living, we are only existing at this point.

We could be in for months and months of restrictions and there's even talk of a third lockdown. Because the first two worked so well?

In a few short months a whole year of our lives will have been restricted.

If there is light at the end of this tunnel it's a very long tunnel, and I don't think we've travelled very far.

OP posts:
Vivana · 18/12/2020 23:42

I'm fed up to of wearing masks in everything I do and fed up of weekly covid testing I have to do for working in care. Now I have to train to do lateral Flow testing I just want normality back Sad

IrisAtwood · 18/12/2020 23:56

@Cantstandsmugness Thank you. Even some interaction on here makes a difference - even if it’s only a little. 🌈

autumneve · 18/12/2020 23:56

This is such an eye opening thread. I thought I was very much in the minority for my opinion but it seems everyone is at the end of their tether.

LimitIsUp · 19/12/2020 00:19

I don't like the change in me which this has brought about. I do very little other than a little light housework and watch TV. I'm apathetic and lazy and have never been that

Iheartmysmart · 19/12/2020 07:38

I know how you feel Limit. I’ve not been able to concentrate very well at on anything new so have been rereading and rewatching old favourites. Days consist of work, walking my dog, basic food and drink then sleep. Was never the most sociable of people but I travelled with work, met friends for dinner and coffee and probably went to the cinema once a week but all that’s gone. It’s just a tedious slog to get from one day to the next.

SnuggyBuggy · 19/12/2020 07:42

I feel like I've turned into a bad cliche of a 1950s housewife, bored, compulsive Internet shopping, obsession with local Facebook drama. It's not healthy.

RockPaperScissorsLizardSpock73 · 19/12/2020 08:15

It's like walking with a dark cloud over my head every day. Just seen the headlines this morning - new strain blah blah, all hype to scare more people. There have been so many variants already. I'm sure it's just a way to get more uptake on the amazing vaccine! As I keep saying I was petrified to start with but this is becoming a farce now. It's unsustainable and again why not plough the millions into the NHS and the vulnerable and let the rest carry on. My worst fear is a harsh lockdown in January because I won't cope. I hate January as it is. Now no gym classes etc etc I am scared I will just sink further. But I'm not allowed to feel like that am I because hey I should be grateful 🤦‍♀️ i feel trapped and with no light at the end of any tunnel.

Hellotheresweet · 19/12/2020 08:20

It wouldn’t matter if there was an apocalypse

As long as I have my two children with me - healthy, not suffering and with me, then I’m happy. Period.

So mentally - I’m not impacted in the slightest by the pandemic, because they ate happy and healthy.

BonnieDundee · 19/12/2020 08:24

rock you've summed up how I feel. The new morecdangerous strain just as people are starting to get lockdown fatigue in numbers Hmm I haven't trusted sage since they lied to us about the figures. Why would I? I dont trust anyone in my personal life who lies to me.

Have recently heard of a workplace who are insisting on them all over the site, even if you are outside on your own. That isnt keeping people safe. That's just being awful to your staff Sad

Hellotheresweet · 19/12/2020 08:28

@autumneve

This is such an eye opening thread. I thought I was very much in the minority for my opinion but it seems everyone is at the end of their tether.
I’m not drowning Just a different perspective

But I’m not even close to being at the end of my tether. And my situation on paper looks far worse than I suspect many posters on this thread (single parent, no family, ill health, made redundant)

Hellotheresweet · 19/12/2020 08:29

I’m not “crowing”

AlwaysLatte · 19/12/2020 08:32

If people had complied properly then it wouldn't be this bad.

AlwaysLatte · 19/12/2020 08:34

NB I've never agreed with schools opening fully the way they did and 'bubbles' of 100s of kids. The government were wrong on that.

MarshaBradyo · 19/12/2020 08:35

@AlwaysLatte

NB I've never agreed with schools opening fully the way they did and 'bubbles' of 100s of kids. The government were wrong on that.
They were right. Tg they prioritised education.
WishingHopingThinkingPraying · 19/12/2020 08:35

Back to the OP and thread title. I still care. I'm seeing friends my age (30s) with long covid. My parents are still as precious as they were at the beginning. It's deeply frustrating to see the numbers go up where they should have gone down after our circuit breaker (NI). But what on earth is the alternative??? Lockdowns are happening because no alternative and in my opinion, we are ending up in a lockdown situation because the gov has tried to give people freedom but it's all led to a worse position to try and fix. I really don't know who is to blame here.

But I still care about our hospitals, my family and avoiding this nasty virus (which quite possibly would be totally fine in my house but I can't be sure).

RockPaperScissorsLizardSpock73 · 19/12/2020 08:45

@WishingHopingThinkingPraying the compliance ended for lots when Cummings did his eye test and they saw lots of those that preach doing the do as I say not as I do. Also the fact that there is no end in sight. It was declared the end when a vaccine was found - now it's not. All be over by Christmas - bullshit. Flatten the curve, follow the science - there has been no leadership whatsoever. The biggest lie - kids don't catch it or spread it, and schools are covid safe. He's a disgrace Bojo. Even this thread is winding me up now as it's been high jacked, because god forbid I may be fed up of the constant doom and gloom, and the moving of goalposts all the time.

southeastdweller · 19/12/2020 08:47

I couldn’t give the shiniest shit imaginable about rising numbers. The whole thing has been incompetence after incompetence. I think ‘fuck it all’.

Meerschweinchen1990 · 19/12/2020 08:47

Yep, incredibly bored and pissed off and frustrated and sad.

This just seems never ending. I mentioned on a Christmas thread I’ve been in pain for a year waiting for a surgery and it’s now been over a year since I was put on the waiting list. And now electives have been cancelled yet again for an indefinite period of time... I’m sick of this shit I just want to feel better :(

BonnieDundee · 19/12/2020 08:48

If people had complied properly then it wouldn't be this bad

Its handy for the government to spread this sort of propaganda to keep us from looking too closely at their role.

Compliance was far higher than expected. Schools, care homes, hospitals, workplaces and supermarkets are all open. do you really believe the govenment lies that it's spread by people breaking the rules?

MassiveSalad · 19/12/2020 08:50

Good morning everyone Smile

I have to go shopping today and I could do without it seeing as I strawpedoed a bottle of wine last night and my head hurts. Nothing nicer than breathing in your own hangover breath in the covid catching mask. 🤢

forwardsbackwardsrebound · 19/12/2020 08:52

@AlwaysLatte

If people had complied properly then it wouldn't be this bad.
Really, this is one of the stupidest comments I've read on here.
Hellotheresweet · 19/12/2020 08:54

@BonnieDundee

If people had complied properly then it wouldn't be this bad

Its handy for the government to spread this sort of propaganda to keep us from looking too closely at their role.

Compliance was far higher than expected. Schools, care homes, hospitals, workplaces and supermarkets are all open. do you really believe the govenment lies that it's spread by people breaking the rules?

How do you think?
SufferingFromLongLockdown · 19/12/2020 09:00

@AlwaysLatte

NB I've never agreed with schools opening fully the way they did and 'bubbles' of 100s of kids. The government were wrong on that.
Their mistake was not opening up in May and taking advantage of seasonality. They created a perfect shit storm by waiting until winter.
RaspberryCoulis · 19/12/2020 09:07

You lovely, sensible people.

Done with it too. As someone said way back at the beginning of the thread, it's almost as if some posters have discovered death for the first time. I could tell you all about the people I know who have died since March (none from Covid) and their deaths are just as important as Covid deaths. But the elderly mother of a friend was left to die scared and alone because the nursing home was shut to visitors because of Covid. It's inhumane.

My kids have missed out on exams, driving lessons, seeing friends - all the usual teenage stuff for almost a year. The charity shop where I volunteer is losing so much money because of the restrictions we have to operate under.

I'm done with it. We're doing the big stuff of working from home, not having house parties. But I have had a friend into the house for coffee every week, regularly cross the council boundaries for non-essential reasons (illegal in Scotland), DD is going to a friend's house to get her hair cut on Tuesday, I give my kids' friends a lift home.....

RockPaperScissorsLizardSpock73 · 19/12/2020 09:07

@SufferingFromLongLockdown exactly! Why not take advantage of the summer and warmer weather. Now insist kids back in school during winter when colds etc are rife anyway. The PCR test is useless anyway (but that's another post) I think history will look back at this and think what were they thinking...

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