Making isolating 13 yr old not leave her room for 10 days!!

[novaparty12]

My niece is 13 and on Friday she was told to isolate by her school as the girl she sits next to tested positive. She lives in London where transmission is really high. I spoke to MIL today who said that my SIL has told her she is not allowed out of her room apart from going to the toilet or having a shower. All meals are left outside her door for her to collect and my SIL went shopping and spend £50 on snacks and drinks so she doesn't have to leave her room. MIL is really worried about her she keeps phoning her in tears. My SIL is autistic and takes everything very very seriously but surely confining a 13 yr old to her room for 10 days is going a bit far isn't it??

Let’s take my younger child at the bottom end of primary school. I still don’t understand how on the one hand she can go to school, we can go to a restaurant, we can go swimming, we can go to the hairdressers etc etc despite having no idea who we’ve been in contact with or if they have it but if she’s suddenly “a contact” (she’s probably been “a contact” unknowingly multiple times) then people are seriously advocating putting her in solitary confinement for ten days in her room by herself. If this is really such an extreme pandemic situation then why on earth is soft play open?!

This is batshit crazy. It would never ever occur to me to isolate one of my (late primary/year 7) dc in their room - I can’t believe people are doing this. Agree completely with those saying it’s abusive.

Guidance for people who need to self-isolate due to CONTACT (not symptoms)

www.gov.uk/government/publications/guidance-for-contacts-of-people-with-possible-or-confirmed-coronavirus-covid-19-infection-who-do-not-live-with-the-person/guidance-for-contacts-of-people-with-possible-or-confirmed-coronavirus-covid-19-infection-who-do-not-live-with-the-person#:~:text=Your%20household%20does%20not%20need,handwashing%20and%20respiratory%20hygiene.

Nowhere does it say that the person needs to be kept in a room alone. The only time it says to stay away for anyone is of there's someone CEV. But even then it doesn't say anyone should be shut ina room alone.

THIS is what the person who's been a contact has to do/not to do
Self-isolation means you must stay at home and not leave the house. Do not go to work, school, or public areas, and do not use public transport or taxis.

Do not go outside even to buy food or other essentials, except in certain specific circumstances. Any exercise must be taken within your home, garden or private outdoor space.

So stay in the house. Not 'stay in your bedroom'

I was pointing you at the NHS advice. You know, the NHS?

No way I’d do that. Though my 13yr old would be quite happy as wouldn’t be too different to a school holiday for her! She’s a hermit. But I wouldn’t enforce it; unless I had someone highly vulnerable.

@DameFanny Genuine question, can you point out where it says on the nhs website where children should be left alone in bedrooms for days on end? It would be helpful to read that.

This? The 'how to avoid spreading' link goes to the keep to a separate room advice.

Clear enough?

Both of my dc’s (year 10 & 12) have had to isolate as a result of contact with positive cases. Other than not leaving the house they have been free to mix with us and each other as they please. I would never dream of making them stay in their rooms. Neither developed symptoms. How ridiculous.

This @Nicknacky, linked from the previous page I screenshot

@DameFanny Thanks for that but that doesn’t answer my question. I guess it’s because it doesn’t say what you seem to think it does.

I don’t think that’s correct. She needs to self isolate but doesn’t has to from others in household - unless she starts to develop symptoms herself. Then the whole household has to make provision to be away from her and not share stuff etc ...
of course the safest thing would be for her to isolate on her own. But that’s impossible for a child and could cause more issues. Which is why the rules are that she self isolate from the world, but not household. They just need to take extra precautions.

It doesn't say children should be left alone no, but that's the interpretation some rather goady child-abuse screamers have put on another poster's account of her 11yo's quarantine

Absolutely @Nicknacky

@DameFanny You are one of the most vocal posters that thinks it’s ok to isolate a child.

It’s just terrible parenting. No other excuse for it.

I cannot actually believe the lengths people are prepared to go and they call out pearl clutching ha. No way is this normal or acceptable. This pandemic is going to see damage beyond repair to a generations mental health.
Any parent or teacher @Bluegreen70 who thinks this is OK needs to have a word with themselves.

It’s indefensible so stop trying!

No way is that right.
My ds was also a contact but not so close (in same classroom but not sitting near the person). He had to SI for about 10 days once school had been notified etc but he went around the house as normal - no way would I have shut him in his room. Think he would’ve gone barmy!

Have to laugh at some of these posters acting like I padlocked my screaming child into a room and slid meals under her door. She's been out and about today and guess where she's spent most of her time? In the room, chatting on some cross console game with her sister in the other room like they like to do a lot.

Have you all had that bloody Track and trace call? It goes on and on forever! Just telling us the million things of what to do and what not to. And yes, the advice is that, if possible, the child should stay in a well ventilated room with the door closed and not using shared spaces. They also tell you that they need to keep and use their own towels, keep their toothbrush in the room with them or at least separate from the rest of the family's toothbrushes, they need to use their own plates and cutlery, plus loads more. There was even something about keeping laundry separate.

Then they ring the other adult in the home (DH) and another person tells him the same things except the providing meals and laundry thing. Probably because only the wife needs that wifework info

Disgusting my 13 yr old was in the same position and was. It treated like that

@DameFanny

This *@Nicknacky*, linked from the previous page I screenshot

It specifically says if you have symptoms on the link you posted!

@DreadingSeason2020sFinale I’m sure today’s nice day makes up for her masked, socially distanced birthday.

Stop with the backtracking. It’s so, so transparent.

Where am I backtracking?

no not had any contact with the £13 billion track and test scheme, no one i know has, we've all been contacted by the schools working track and test - and nowhere were we told that well children should remain isolated in one room. for the 4 weeks dc have missed school since sept.
we had builders in for a couple of days - they requested dc stayed out the way under the circs- so from 8-3 they did stay in their rooms- i felt awful, its a grim thing to do to a lively child.

Actually, don't bother. I don't actually care for your opinion.

@DreadinfSeason2020sFinale So does she normally stay in her room and never leave it (pre covid)?