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Making isolating 13 yr old not leave her room for 10 days!!

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novaparty12 · 14/12/2020 18:43

My niece is 13 and on Friday she was told to isolate by her school as the girl she sits next to tested positive. She lives in London where transmission is really high. I spoke to MIL today who said that my SIL has told her she is not allowed out of her room apart from going to the toilet or having a shower. All meals are left outside her door for her to collect and my SIL went shopping and spend £50 on snacks and drinks so she doesn't have to leave her room. MIL is really worried about her she keeps phoning her in tears. My SIL is autistic and takes everything very very seriously but surely confining a 13 yr old to her room for 10 days is going a bit far isn't it??

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TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2020 13:39

When all you've got is insults, you're really losing the argument.

And what’s that argument?

That locking a child in her room, on her birthday, for a disease that she probably doesn’t have, would have minimal affect on her anyway and has a FR of well under 1% for the regular adult population is anything other than neglect?

Yeah, strong.

LittleTiger007 · 15/12/2020 13:43

Amen @TheKeatingFive

SpnBaby1967 · 15/12/2020 13:46

[quote DreadingSeason2020sFinale]@OliveTree75 We took the test more so we could reassure her she wasn't going to infect anyone. And Covid can sound scary with all these people dying. She was obviously shocked to find out she had it but happier she knew and then more so when she realised you can have Covid and not get sick.

Incidentally this thread and the fact that today is whats laughingly referred to as "Freeeeeedoooomm" (Braveheart style) day has prompted me to ask her about some of the points made by people in this thread. She snorted when I asked her if she had been bothered being in her room. She said, "Err naw! It's just like normal!" And rolled her eyes at me. (I can see the teen in her growing already)[/quote]
Okay, I find it so sad that her being locked away in her room alone all day every day she considers "like normal". Makes me wonder what on earth her home life is actually like!

My daughter is 11 and she wants to sit with her family, watch tv with us, eat with us, do her homework with us so we can help if she needs it.

Yes of course she also goes off to her room but no way would she consider being away in her room alone for 2 weeks as "normal".

You have WAY bigger family life issues than covid.

LittleTiger007 · 15/12/2020 13:52

@PerveenMistry the point I was making was about quality time together not sugar intake.
This whole subject is very sad. I’m a teacher I see it every day in our kids. What is best for these children seems to be the last thing on some people’s minds.
Shutting a child in a room alone for days on end is abuse and will damage that child’s psyche. If that is normal for a child, then they too are being wilfully damaged by their parents who should be guiding them to be mixing sometimes and interacting with others especially their family.
Poor mental health and suicide amongst the young was on the up even before covid. Exactly because of the break down in social interaction. Now those figures are through the roof.

LittleTiger007 · 15/12/2020 13:56

Okay, I find it so sad that her being locked away in her room alone all day every day she considers "like normal". Makes me wonder what on earth her home life is actually like!

*My daughter is 11 and she wants to sit with her family, watch tv with us, eat with us, do her homework with us so we can help if she needs it.

Yes of course she also goes off to her room but no way would she consider being away in her room alone for 2 weeks as "normal".

You have WAY bigger family life issues than covid.*

Exactly. I couldn’t have put it better.

ZenNudist · 15/12/2020 13:56

The fact that so many people are defending this is chilling. We receive our instructions from school and dc were told to isolate at home. Not isolate in their room like a prisoner. People can be crazy, and cruel.

livevomitlaugh · 15/12/2020 13:59

I’m not sure your sil being autistic is relevant

PerveenMistry · 15/12/2020 14:27

@bookworm14

‘Creating a wind tunnel’ to have a masked chat twice a day with your (presumably asymptomatic) 10 year old child.

I feel this should be preserved as some kind of monument to how insane the world has become.

I feel as of all the scorn heaped on people willing to sacrifice for the greater good will stand as a monument to how self-centered and science-denying many among us have become.

This isn't the ordinary cold and flu. Drastic times call for drastic measures.

TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2020 14:31

I feel as of all the scorn heaped on people willing to sacrifice for the greater good will stand as a monument to how self-centered and science-denying many among us have become.

You sound totally deranged now.

Tinselandbaubauls · 15/12/2020 14:35

Absolutely gobsmacked. I know loads of kids who’ve had to isolate, never heard of one being confined to their room. Your SIL is cruel!

WillSantaBeComingToTown · 15/12/2020 14:41

I feel as of all the scorn heaped on people willing to sacrifice for the greater good will stand as a monument to how self-centered and science-denying many among us have become. This isn't the ordinary cold and flu. Drastic times call for drastic measures.

Have you spoken to your GP? Lots have set up online wellbeing support, they can help you though your irrational fears.

DameFanny · 15/12/2020 14:54

For anyone who still wants to do the right thing, this is the information given by the NHS on avoiding transmission to your family if you've been told to isolate by test and trace - www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/self-isolation-and-treatment/how-to-avoid-spreading-coronavirus-to-people-you-live-with/

Including - "Try to stay away from people you live with
If you have symptoms, you should stay away from other people you live with as much as possible.

If you can:

stay on your own in one room as much as possible and keep the door closed
avoid using shared spaces (such as the kitchen) at the same time as other people – eat your meals in your room
use a separate bathroom - otherwise, use the bathroom after everyone else and clean it each time you use it, for example, by wiping the surfaces you've touched"

So maybe you can stop accusing the poster who's DD was happy to isolate during her birthday of child abuse, and other such sentimental cock?

Fine, you don't want to follow government advice, you think your (bad, limited) views on other children's mental health is more important than controlling disease transmission just say so. Own it. Just don't pretend you're doing it for anyone's sake but you're own lazy, sentimental self.

GabriellaMontez · 15/12/2020 15:00

I feel as of all the scorn heaped on people willing to sacrifice for the greater good will stand as a monument to how self-centered and science-denying many among us have become

You're a lunatic

SpnBaby1967 · 15/12/2020 15:11

Pot calling kettle black much!!!

You sound like you need some help for your own mental health.

The urge to shut your own children away is just not normal!

TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2020 15:11

stay on your own in one room as much as possible and keep the door closed

And this is specifically recommended for pre-teens is it?

Mmm hmm.

And yes, I think I know enough about children’s mental health to conclude that solitary confinement is damaging. It’s used as a punishment for prisoners ffs.

XmasLlama · 15/12/2020 15:11

@DameFanny

Isn't that if you have symptoms?

DameFanny · 15/12/2020 15:13

@TheKeatingFive

stay on your own in one room as much as possible and keep the door closed

And this is specifically recommended for pre-teens is it?

Mmm hmm.

And yes, I think I know enough about children’s mental health to conclude that solitary confinement is damaging. It’s used as a punishment for prisoners ffs.

Young children they suggest a parent isolate with the child. Do actually look at the guidance before you criticise it?
SpnBaby1967 · 15/12/2020 15:14

I just asked DS9 and DD11 what they thought of this and they were shocked. My son said "why do they think we're all bags of coronavirus?"

My daughter said "isn't that child abuse?"

Yes DD, yes it is.

DameFanny · 15/12/2020 15:14

[quote XmasLlama]@DameFanny

Isn't that if you have symptoms? [/quote]
Nope, it's if you've been told to isolate OR you have symptoms. Same guidance - look for yourself www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/testing-and-tracing/nhs-test-and-trace-if-youve-been-in-contact-with-a-person-who-has-coronavirus/

DameFanny · 15/12/2020 15:16

@SpnBaby1967

I just asked DS9 and DD11 what they thought of this and they were shocked. My son said "why do they think we're all bags of coronavirus?"

My daughter said "isn't that child abuse?"

Yes DD, yes it is.

And then the whole pub stood up and applauded?
Bollss · 15/12/2020 15:18

I feel as of all the scorn heaped on people willing to sacrifice for the greater good will stand as a monument to how self-centered and science-denying many among us have become

Crusty jugglers.

TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2020 15:18

Young children they suggest a parent isolate with the child. Do actually look at the guidance before you criticise it?

I wasn't criticizing the guidelines. I was criticizing the poster who interpreted them as isolating her 11 year old, alone. Who you then stood up for.

DameFanny · 15/12/2020 15:23

@TrustTheGeneGenie

I feel as of all the scorn heaped on people willing to sacrifice for the greater good will stand as a monument to how self-centered and science-denying many among us have become

Crusty jugglers.

Keep telling yourself that while you merrily vice-signal
DameFanny · 15/12/2020 15:25

@TheKeatingFive

Young children they suggest a parent isolate with the child. Do actually look at the guidance before you criticise it?

I wasn't criticizing the guidelines. I was criticizing the poster who interpreted them as isolating her 11 year old, alone. Who you then stood up for.

The poster who's posted a credible account of her daughter finding your concerns batshit?
TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2020 15:28

The poster who's posted a credible account of her daughter finding your concerns batshit?

If the child is real (and I sincerely hope she isn't), she's quite obviously a victim of long standing neglect, what with finding total isolation in her room 'normal'.

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