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Sons girlfriend going to Dubai

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Baileysforchristmas · 29/11/2020 21:19

My sons girlfriend is living with us at the moment. She announced she’s going to Dubai with friends (not with my son) she has to have 2 tests going to Dubai, none to come back to Uk and you don’t have to isolate. I want her to have a test before she comes back to our house and another test 5 days later, as I want my parents to be able to come round for Christmas. She thinks I am being unreasonable as she will have to pay £170 for each test. Am I being unreasonable?

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Offtothedogs · 30/11/2020 05:03

Ok, it appears I live under a rock. Who are "influencers"? Is that some sort of job now?

notimagain · 30/11/2020 06:52

Who are "influencers"? Is that some sort of job now?

It can be..it has certainly turned into a useful second stream of income for some..

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Influencer_marketing

megletthesecond · 30/11/2020 07:03

Yanbu.

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Baileysforchristmas · 30/11/2020 08:39

She has payed us once £50 she moved in the 1st September which she said is all she can afford and then lightly announced she is going to Dubai and a friend is paying for her. I am worried it is something like influencer, if she gets stuck in Dubai she will then expect my son to bail her out. It’s so hard not to upset my son and seem the bad one here but I can see it all ending in tears. I don’t really want her back at all after this.

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MotheringShites · 30/11/2020 08:45

Why would she get stuck in Dubai?

If a friend is really paying I would think she’s a lucky girl and wish her a great time.

bigbluebus · 30/11/2020 08:45

Aside from the fact that she is going to Dubai, she is going with friends - so mixing indoors closely with people she doesn't live with - which isn't allowed at the moment nor after 2nd Dec unless you live in Tier 1.
If she was freeloading in my house she most definitely wouldn't be coming back in without a test.

Mrgrinch · 30/11/2020 08:47

So she's not even paying to stay with you?

She needs a wake up call, what a selfish cow.

DelphiniumBlue · 30/11/2020 08:52

So if she's only paid you £50 since September, is your son paying her share of the bills, or are you subbing her?
Whichever, she will be putting the household at risk, you are completely reasonable asking her to keep away for a fortnight after her return and then do a test.

mamaoffourdc · 30/11/2020 08:56

Why is she living with you? Tell her to isolate at her parents house

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Baileysforchristmas · 30/11/2020 09:09

Her mum only rents a room so she has nowhere to go, she would have to stay in a hotel for 2 weeks which she can’t afford, so she says. I’m not sure what to believe, is someone paying for her? Who knows, the trust is gone as far as i’m Concerned. No my sons not paying extra so we are indirectly paying for her, if we split the bills equally it would be about £300 a month, the money doesn’t cover the water and electricity she uses everyday.

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Joswis · 30/11/2020 09:11

Your house, your rules. If she doesn't like it, she could stay somewhere else for two weeks when she comes here me.

Joswis · 30/11/2020 09:11

Comes home!

Mrgrinch · 30/11/2020 09:12

How old is she?

PurpleDaisies · 30/11/2020 09:14

Is anyone in your house especially vulnerable?

I wouldn’t be impressed with people making up their own rules over and above the travel quarantine rules set out by the government.

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Baileysforchristmas · 30/11/2020 09:14

She’s 21

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LiG123 · 30/11/2020 09:15

Your house your rules I agree.

Especially as Dubai is currently back to 'normal' although their cases are very low they can socialise and do as they wish.

PurpleDaisies · 30/11/2020 09:19

Especially as Dubai is currently back to 'normal' although their cases are very low they can socialise and do as they wish.

This is really flawed logic. They had 1200 cases and we had 12000 yesterday. She’s massively less likely to catch it there than here. Hence the travel corridor.

sofato5miles · 30/11/2020 09:24

She can get a PCR test in dubai the day she flies back for £35

sofato5miles · 30/11/2020 09:25

Dubai didn't have 1200 cases yeaterday, the entire UAE did.

IamTomHanks · 30/11/2020 09:32

Especially as Dubai is currently back to 'normal' although their cases are very low they can socialise and do as they wish.

We aren't back to normal at all. No gatherings, mandatory masks, social distancing, etc. Lots of the amusement parks are still closed.

The reason we aren't in lockdown is because of the high amount of testing and the fact that the rules are strictly enforced.

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Baileysforchristmas · 30/11/2020 09:35

@sofato5miles yes she can but she was complaining about the cost. I know she could still have it even after a test but it would make me feel less nervous about her coming back. My question was am I being unreasonable to ask her to pay for a test?

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RichardMarxisinnocent · 30/11/2020 09:36

A lot of influencers are struggling at the moment as brand deals & sponsorships are getting harder to come by so it’s no coincidence that there’s a bigger influx into Dubai by them at the moment.

Sorry if this is a stupid question, but what's an influencer, and why would going to Dubai make it easier to get sponsorship?

Frazzled2207 · 30/11/2020 09:37

Not at all. She is taking the piss living in your house for free- you need to tackle that.
If she was going to dubai with your ds and they were going to be careful and only socialise with each other that would be one thing but sounds like she will be partying without a care in the world? Totally irresponsible to potentially put the family hosting her at risk.

Redburnett · 30/11/2020 09:39

If she thinks it is acceptable to expose your parents to the risk of Covid (which she could easily pick up from the airport or en route) then I would ask her not to return to your house at all and to go to her own family.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 30/11/2020 09:39

@bigbluebus

Aside from the fact that she is going to Dubai, she is going with friends - so mixing indoors closely with people she doesn't live with - which isn't allowed at the moment nor after 2nd Dec unless you live in Tier 1. If she was freeloading in my house she most definitely wouldn't be coming back in without a test.
Exactly what I was going to say. And even if she is tier 1, she still has to social distance from them, which would make for a difficult holiday - not being able to sit next to them at dinner and having to keep her distance from them in the hotel room.