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'the ban includes partners who live elsewhere'

194 replies

Muranoandizumi · 01/11/2020 22:20

Those of you who don't live with your partner and can't form a bubble, will you be seeing them as normal ? Do they expect us to only meet our partner outside and socially distanced for potentially months ?

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booboo24 · 02/11/2020 12:21

The 'twonk' visiting his girlfriend wasn't doing anything wrong was he, if he lives in England?

Nanny0gg · 02/11/2020 12:28

@Ecosse

What part of ‘Stay at home’ don’t people get. You are only allowed to leave your home if you are a key worker, to exercise once per day for up to 1 hour and food shopping once a week.

Other than that, you should be indoors. You cannot meet anyone who does not live in your household indoors or outdoors.

You can actually meet one person outside (not in your garden)
CuriousaboutSamphire · 02/11/2020 12:29

@booboo24

The 'twonk' visiting his girlfriend wasn't doing anything wrong was he, if he lives in England?
He was early on during lockdown, apparently. Latest information is hat he may have caught it when out on a stag party!! That could be gossip, but he is know to be a bit of a party animal!

Given that they work all over the country they have been continually asked to take additional precautions or stay on furlough. They have worked on the IoM, in Wales and some of the higher infections rates areas around the country. They are all very well aware of the current situation, updated daily, work rescheduled in Tier 3 places etc.

Their management has been really fair with them, treating them all as individuals as much as they possibly could. The twonk could have asked to remain furloughed due to his personal sitiation, others did and have had no negativity around their choices.

But this ONE person chose to do exactly what their bosses asked them not to and has caused the issues they were trying to avoid!

Nanny0gg · 02/11/2020 12:32

@booboo24

The 'twonk' visiting his girlfriend wasn't doing anything wrong was he, if he lives in England?
Yes, because he was going backwards and forwards in lockdown. And presumably when the tiers came in
MrMeeseekscando · 02/11/2020 12:32

I will be seeing him.
The last lockdown was very bad for my mental health. I was drinking heavily and bawling most nights.
I'm not going through that again.

VanGoghsDog · 02/11/2020 12:37

If they are key workers then their employer can sign up to the govt key workers portal and get tests done through that. Doesn't help though, due to the 14 day thing anyway.

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 02/11/2020 12:41

Last time I didn’t see my DP of 8 years for several weeks. The advice to “move in for the duration” coming from MN - where single mums are supposed to put their life on hold and never date anyone until the DC have all grown up and left home - is ridiculous.

We have 5 DC between us. We won’t be cramming into one house when we can comfortably live in two and see exactly ZERO more people in the process. It makes no sense. We will still see each other because we’re both low risk, my DC don’t see their dad, (so could conceivably be spending time in a whole other house with more adults and children if they did); we both work at home (and both need the contents of our home offices at our disposal) so would have to spend the days in our respective offices even if we spent the nights together with our children sofa surfing at each other’s house.

My DS is 20 so technically I’m not a single adult household, but he’s not the best company or support so I’ll be forming a bubble regardless and spending time with my DP as usual, and anyone who doesn’t like it can go fuck themselves tbh.

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 02/11/2020 12:42

Oh and while the DC are going to school every day and mixing with 1500 people I’m not giving up time with the person who makes me happy.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 02/11/2020 12:44

@VanGoghsDog

If they are key workers then their employer can sign up to the govt key workers portal and get tests done through that. Doesn't help though, due to the 14 day thing anyway.
Mmm! Infrastructure, telecomms! Maybe! They have a fortnight to find out Smile
booboo24 · 02/11/2020 12:53

Ah ok I didn't realise he was doing this throughout lockdown and attending parties etc. Yes he's a twonk then!

I however didn't see my fiance throughout the whole of the first lockdown, but we will be doing so this time. We are hoping he can use the caring route as he lives with his elderly mother who has quite advanced dementia, so during the day while he is at work she has carers in, but in the evenings he looks after her, he also does all her shopping, cleaning, etc. He is to all intents and purposes a single adult household in that she isn't any company anymore bless her, you can't hold a conversation with her, she is up a lot of the night turning lights on, talking to herself, trying to phone people, setting her panic button off, falling over, the list goes on, and he therefore genuinely needs support otherwise he would go insane.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 02/11/2020 12:58

@booboo24 No reason you could have known. I was trying not to write War and Peace Smile

Racoonworld · 02/11/2020 13:00

@Muranoandizumi if I were you I would do it for 4 weeks then if it gets extended then form an unofficial bubble. I wouldn’t judge you for that it’s unfair to expect partners not to see each other long term. But try doing it for 4 weeks, we are all having to make huge sacrifices for this.

Racoonworld · 02/11/2020 13:04

@Ecosse

What part of ‘Stay at home’ don’t people get. You are only allowed to leave your home if you are a key worker, to exercise once per day for up to 1 hour and food shopping once a week.

Other than that, you should be indoors. You cannot meet anyone who does not live in your household indoors or outdoors.

I usually agree with you on threads but actually your wrong here. You are allowed to wet one other person outside in a public place. There’s no time limit for exercise and you are allowed out for recreation too.
Racoonworld · 02/11/2020 13:04

Allowed to meet*

Ginorwine30 · 02/11/2020 13:09

I live with DP but if I didn’t I would definitely carry on meeting him, it’s ridiculous to expect couples not to see each other for months at a time. Mental health is very important too and many will suffer in silence during these winter months. There’s no way people will keep to it

RainbowParadise · 02/11/2020 13:24

I think the fact that some of the rules are so overreaching and cross the line of what is acceptable to ask people to do, unfortunately means that compliance is likely to suffer at an earlier stage than it perhaps would have done so, if the rules were more fair and sensible, and took into account what is reasonable (and also what is unlikely to have a massive impact), what has a big effect on mental health but also on long-term effects to people's personal lives and relationships.

700 people going to a rave in Bristol are selfish fucking bastards at the moment. Someone wanting close contact with their partner is not. Mental health is so important and as we've spoken so much about children's mental health and the need to keep them in school (I'd argue more for socialisation than anything else!), we also need to recognise that adults need to look after their mental health too.

Xenia · 02/11/2020 13:28

The rules have gone far far far too far and seem to be designed for married couples with 2.4 children only or for the rich who can afford to live alone rather than in shared houses with many others.

The sooner all the rules are moved to a voluntary basis the better. Only people like I am benefit (I prefer my own company so it is manna from heaven for me.... my son's school friend later this week cannot even come into our huge one acre garden which if course is much much less crowded than the park or street, any more never mind the house.....

Nanny0gg · 02/11/2020 13:31

The sooner all the rules are moved to a voluntary basis the better.

Seems to be how most view them already

etopp · 02/11/2020 13:42

@Ecosse

What part of ‘Stay at home’ don’t people get. You are only allowed to leave your home if you are a key worker, to exercise once per day for up to 1 hour and food shopping once a week.

Other than that, you should be indoors. You cannot meet anyone who does not live in your household indoors or outdoors.

Not that bollocks again.

It was tedious last time, and even more so this time (when, Ecosse, there is no limit to the amount of time you can spend on exercise, or on how many times per week you can shop for food. And if you are going to counter that you're not in the UK so your rules are different, then I suggest you say so).

I will continue to see my non-resident long term DP whenever I choose, as I did during the March/April lockdown.

LST · 02/11/2020 13:52

@Ecosse you're so wrong.. on every one of your points 🤣

CuriousaboutSamphire · 02/11/2020 13:58

As others have said

You are only allowed to leave your home if you are a key worker, to exercise once per day for up to 1 hour and food shopping once a week. Nope. BJ was quite clear that the rules this time round were going to be less onerous, at least initially! And this rubbish wasn't the case even during the height of the lockdown!

Other than that, you should be indoors. You cannot meet anyone who does not live in your household indoors or outdoors. Nope. He was at pains to say that meeting outside of the home was OK, 1 person, socially distanced.

I can't be arsed going through all of this misinformation again! Tiresome tripe!

MercyBooth · 02/11/2020 13:58

700 people at a rave? Thats just daft. Will they all get fined or just the organiser?

Woui · 02/11/2020 14:09

My DC was 17 in the last lock down. They are now 18 so my support bubble (DP of 2 years) has ended.

Not a chance.

DollysFlop · 02/11/2020 15:40

Yes we'll be seeing each other but not as normal. Probably less frequently and will be keeping it quiet.

HarrietOh · 02/11/2020 15:57

I spent weeks apart from my DP last time and really suffered, I was completely alone for weeks it was awful.

Luckily can now have a bubble, but even if there was no bubble rule I would still see him this time.

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