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My single neighbour has a woman round

287 replies

BumbleFlump · 25/10/2020 22:42

Neighbour is an eternally single batchelor - he appears to have pulled a woman and is getting her drunk in his living room (naaaice). He does this from time to time. I can hear them through the walls.

Without going into details he’s a selfish arse - should I report him? If I do l, he’ll surely know it’s me. Will anyone actually care?

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notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 08:22

Could everyone please stop attacking the OP. Calling the OP a bitch and arsehole when they asked for advice is completely unreasonable.

PhilCornwall1 · 26/10/2020 08:25

Yes! I feel a therapist, looking at the responses on MN, would see a lot of pent up anger.

Or just a lot of people saying "who really gives a fuck about this shit anymore".

diamondpony80 · 26/10/2020 08:25

If you live in a house that close to your neighbours you're going to hear things once in a while. I'm sure he can hear what goes on in your house too. I don't see that there's anything to report. It's not his fault the walls are thin.

Fawnfour · 26/10/2020 08:29

The responses on here are genuinely disgusting, calling the OP names, their messages should be deleted

notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 08:30

If you live in a house that close to your neighbours you're going to hear things once in a while. I'm sure he can hear what goes on in your house too. I don't see that there's anything to report. It's not his fault the walls are thin.

I think it’s the lack of social distancing rather than the shagging per se which is the cause for complaint. To be fair, if the neighbour is breaking the rules in a way that is more likely to get them infected, that does increase the risk for the OP.

Ignoringequally · 26/10/2020 08:34

Just wondering how close all your houses are OP that you seem to know exactly who all your neighbours are or aren’t in a support bubble with? I may just be spectacularly unobservant but I have literally no idea who my neighbours are/aren’t bubbled with or who visits them.

wanderings · 26/10/2020 08:36

Are you Hyacinth Bucket?

"What shall I do?! My neighbour Elizabeth has a man in the house."

My single neighbour has a woman round
Clandestiney · 26/10/2020 08:37

I don't think there's a need for people to be so savage to OP, but I also think that no, you shouldn't report it.

yeOldeTrout · 26/10/2020 08:39

I just don’t like him and that’s not a good enough reason to report

Glad you decided that, OP.

Grobagsforever · 26/10/2020 08:40

Gosh I didn't realise how many aspiring Stasi were on MN until COVID

vodkaredbullgirl · 26/10/2020 08:40

The responses on here are genuinely disgusting, calling the OP names, their messages should be deleted.

Why not report the posts if they are that bad?

MessAllOver · 26/10/2020 08:42

I just don't like him and that's not a good enough reason to report

No, but you could twitch the curtains and mutter 'scarlet woman' and 'jezebel' whenever you see her. That wouldn't be unreasonable and might succeed in breaking up the relationship.

ChaChaCha2012 · 26/10/2020 08:42

he appears to have pulled a woman and is getting her drunk in his living room (naaaice)

Is this woman not an adult or lacking capacity? Unless he's forcing alcohol down her throat I'd assume she is choosing to get drunk, women are allowed to do that.

Aside from your stasi like behaviour, your assumptions towards this woman are crass and misogynistic.

WouldBeGood · 26/10/2020 08:43

I think it’s that people are just really fed up of the rules and the grassing people up and the OP has caught it

ByebyeOcado · 26/10/2020 08:47

@BumbleFlump

TBH normally I wouldn’t give a fig. In fact other single elderly gentleman two doors down frequently has his lady friend round but he’s lovely.

The only real reason I even considered reporting my immediate neighbour is because he is in fact an arse, like I said.

So you would report someone because you don’t like them, yet you’d turn a blind eye if you got on with them? Arse? Takes one to know one...
MessAllOver · 26/10/2020 08:49

I'm thinking of starting a thread on the lack of social distancing in my DS's nursery...

AIBU to report the little charmer in the purple unicorn top who keeps trying to share the sandpit with him? She might only be 2, but doesn't she know there's a pandemic on... Anyway, there's only room for one woman in his life and it's not her...

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 26/10/2020 08:49

It would be your word against his that this was someone he'd just picked up vs being a long term girlfriend and therefore allowed if he or she lives on their own.
I very much doubt the police would follow up on this as you have no proof that they aren't in a bubble; and they don't have the resources in any case .

Rosehip10 · 26/10/2020 08:50

Looks like a load of sock puppets at the tail end of this thread!

Eaumyword · 26/10/2020 08:51

I think it stirs a response in people, because it's awful that someone is genuinely considering reporting people for something they may or may not be doing wrong and literally turns neighbour against neighbour. A mass party, yes. One person round, no.
I do follow the rules, I'm quite scared to catch the virus.
But unless someone would honestly be ok reporting their own loved one for a similar misdemeanor, like a lady having a friend over because she's lonely, they should leave it be.
I'm glad the OP has come back on the thread and admitted her reasons for doing it might not be ideal and therefore will leave it alone. Good, glad for that and well done for saying it 👍

notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 09:03

Just wondering how close all your houses are OP

This feels like a MN stereotype :). I am guessing you have never seen a terraced house?

Livelovebehappy · 26/10/2020 09:03

Probably on your street there are many many people breaking the rules. People are trying the best they can to get through this. You can’t report everyone.

DoTheMaccaroni · 26/10/2020 09:11

I don’t care if you aren’t allowed to mix households! This isn’t nazi Germany. Don’t snitch on your fucking neighbour and mind your own business!

MessAllOver · 26/10/2020 09:13

You can't report everyone

No, but we should all have a go at it. It's our civic duty. So far I've reported my sister for having her boiler fixed (I don't care what anyone says, hot water is NOT a necessity and she knows we're not allowed anyone in the house) and MIL for going dog-walking with her neighbour (they had FIVE dogs between them, making a group of seven which is NOT ALLOWED. She sent me a photo so I forwarded that to the police).

I'm on the fence as to whether to report next door... They've recently had triplets and, together with them and their older child, that makes six. But I've heard her parents sitting in the garden, which would be too many people. I'm just waiting for proof that the triplets are actually home from hospital before making my move... Don't want to look foolish.

GracieLouFreebushh · 26/10/2020 09:17

You seem to know a lot about a lot of your neighbours, visitors they've had, who they're bubbling up with. Get a life.

notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 09:18

I don’t care if you aren’t allowed to mix households! This isn’t nazi Germany. Don’t snitch on your fucking neighbour and mind your own business!

Although I hate to ruin the fun, the risks people take with covid are not their own. If the neighbour gets infected it makes it more likely the OP will be infected or even worse some granny innocently doing her shopping.