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My single neighbour has a woman round

287 replies

BumbleFlump · 25/10/2020 22:42

Neighbour is an eternally single batchelor - he appears to have pulled a woman and is getting her drunk in his living room (naaaice). He does this from time to time. I can hear them through the walls.

Without going into details he’s a selfish arse - should I report him? If I do l, he’ll surely know it’s me. Will anyone actually care?

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Ignoringequally · 26/10/2020 13:50

@notevenat20

What interpretations?

Interpretations of the motivations and context of the OP.

The OP was clear in her motivations. She thinks he’s an arse. Nothing Covid related, she just dislikes him.
notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 13:50

Everyone? Highly unlikely.

The pandemic harms everyone and the virus is spread by human interaction. You might argue that the rules the govt have set don't restrict the virus spread. But if you believe they do then breaking them harms everyone.

balla20 · 26/10/2020 13:51

But yes the truth is I just don’t like him and that’s not a good enough reason to report

How can one interpret this any differently apart from the OPs motivation is driven by dislike?

🤦🏻‍♀️

notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 13:52

The OP was clear in her motivations. She thinks he’s an arse. Nothing Covid related, she just dislikes him.

He may be an arse :) But in this instance the OP seemed to be concerned by his (selfish) breaking of social distancing rules. At least that's how I read it. The OP was much more inclined to report him because of his general unpleasantness.

PhilCornwall1 · 26/10/2020 13:54

The pandemic harms everyone and the virus is spread by human interaction. You might argue that the rules the govt have set don't restrict the virus spread. But if you believe they do then breaking them harms everyone.

I don't think about it that deeply, as I couldn't give a toss about covid or the rules.

Ignoringequally · 26/10/2020 13:54

@notevenat20

The OP was clear in her motivations. She thinks he’s an arse. Nothing Covid related, she just dislikes him.

He may be an arse :) But in this instance the OP seemed to be concerned by his (selfish) breaking of social distancing rules. At least that's how I read it. The OP was much more inclined to report him because of his general unpleasantness.

‘But yes the truth is I just don’t like him and that’s not a good enough reason to report’

Clear as it can be.

Tigertotea · 26/10/2020 13:54

I actually rate OP for having the self awareness and honesty to admit that her motives were not justified.

vodkaredbullgirl · 26/10/2020 13:55

Sometimes I dont know why people are in here, if they dont like the language used.

PhilCornwall1 · 26/10/2020 13:55

He may be an arse :) But in this instance the OP seemed to be concerned by his (selfish) breaking of social distancing rules. At least that's how I read it.

Was she bollocks.

notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 13:55

How can one interpret this any differently apart from the OPs motivation is driven by dislike?

The way I interpret it is that the OP is generally concerned by a neighbour breaking covid social distancing rules. In this instance the OP interprets this as part of the man's general pattern of selfish behaviour which is particularly enervating and makes her more inclined to report her.

I don't know why everyone is being so negative towards the OP. We have people on my road who would happily start WWIII over someone parking (legally) outside their garage.

balla20 · 26/10/2020 13:57

So why isn't she concerned by her other neighbours?

balla20 · 26/10/2020 13:58

I don't know why everyone is being so negative towards the OP.

You don't get it, you won't ever get it. Lack of critical thinking I guess.

Ignoringequally · 26/10/2020 13:59

@notevenat20

How can one interpret this any differently apart from the OPs motivation is driven by dislike?

The way I interpret it is that the OP is generally concerned by a neighbour breaking covid social distancing rules. In this instance the OP interprets this as part of the man's general pattern of selfish behaviour which is particularly enervating and makes her more inclined to report her.

I don't know why everyone is being so negative towards the OP. We have people on my road who would happily start WWIII over someone parking (legally) outside their garage.

Again... ‘But yes the truth is I just don’t like him and that’s not a good enough reason to report’. If the OP’s primary motivation was the breaking of the Covid rules, then that in itself would surely be a good enough reason to report, no?
notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 13:59

So why isn't she concerned by her other neighbours?

She doesn't regard them as generally very selfish I guess. Or maybe she doesn't have to put up with the sound of them shagging?

Ignoringequally · 26/10/2020 13:59

We have people on my road who would happily start WWIII over someone parking (legally) outside their garage

Just because your neighbours are dickheads, doesn’t mean we all should be.

vodkaredbullgirl · 26/10/2020 14:00

@balla20 because the other ones aren't arses Smile

Cheeseandwin5 · 26/10/2020 14:01

@notevenat20

Whilst I don't agree with your reading off the situation, I feel ppl are giving you a very hard time for having a different view and trying to give the OP the benefit of any doubt.
I congratulate you on your attitude (although maybe not of your view).

balla20 · 26/10/2020 14:02

I interpret that the OP probably labels a lot of people's as arses.

IcedPurple · 26/10/2020 14:10

@notevenat20

So why isn't she concerned by her other neighbours?

She doesn't regard them as generally very selfish I guess. Or maybe she doesn't have to put up with the sound of them shagging?

Nothing to do with covid then.

You may be happy to live in a society where you get reported to the police for having sex and/or on the basis of a neighbour's subjective opinion on your 'selfishness'. I am not.

notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 14:13

I congratulate you on your attitude (although maybe not of your view).

Thank you :)

I will give up now.

november90 · 26/10/2020 15:09

The replies on this thread are awful... shame on you all. You're accusing the OP of being creepy, petty, weird.... well listen to all of you speaking to a complete stranger like this!!!! Just because you're on a forum does not give you the right to be so cruel.

Personally OP, given what you've said, I wouldn't report your neighbour.

PhilCornwall1 · 26/10/2020 15:16

well listen to all of you speaking to a complete stranger like this!!!! Just because you're on a forum does not give you the right to be so cruel.

And of course, the OP wasn't judging the neighbour at all. Accusation of getting his visitor drunk in his living room, well how did they really know that?

jessstan1 · 26/10/2020 16:21

Because she peeked through a crack in her neighbour's curtains I presume. Otherwise how would she have known the woman was round.

notevenat20 · 26/10/2020 17:02

Because she peeked through a crack in her neighbour's curtains I presume. Otherwise how would she have known the woman was round.

I just don't think any of you live in terraced houses.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 26/10/2020 17:02

This thread is nuts. Regardless of where you live - and we're in Scotland so no visits allowed - I just cannot imagine reporting a neighbour. Mine is a lone parent, and her boyfriend has been coming and going right the way through, plus her DC's dad. I just say hello when I see either of them.

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