My single neighbour has a woman round

[BumbleFlump]

Neighbour is an eternally single batchelor - he appears to have pulled a woman and is getting her drunk in his living room (naaaice). He does this from time to time. I can hear them through the walls.

Without going into details he’s a selfish arse - should I report him? If I do l, he’ll surely know it’s me. Will anyone actually care?

@BumbleFlump

Secondly, don't raise the stakes in an uncomfortable relationship with your neighbour. You have to live there!

Yep he’s already an arse, I definitely don’t want to make him any worse

I think you are describing the wrong person as an arse.

Is this not allowed then? Serious question, if you are single are you allowed to date during COVID?

@Topseyt as an aside, on the eighties a boy tried to woo my friend by playing her that song. (It didn’t work)

How would you feel if it turned out to be a sex worker?

It may be that he is utterly crap at having relationships, and that this is a one off. You never know, he might be in a better mood for the rest of the year.

I hate nosey neighbours

@BumbleFlump

Are you shagging him?

Hell no! 🤣😂

Do you want to?

The only real reason I even considered reporting my immediate neighbour is because he is in fact an arse, like I said.

He probably thinks you are too, I'd agree with him too.

Did you have to buy a new set of curtains after the last lockdown? All that twitching must have worn them out.

Get a life.

@user102740264923

You're publishing commentary on another person's private life online. What does that make you?

Much the same as most people who start threads on Mumsnet

He might be less of an arse with a nice lady in his life.

Or he might still be an arse.

See it as a social experiment and report back in a few months

You want to report him because you do not like him
but you will not because he will know it was you ...

Does (1) him being an arse, and (2) having poor sound insulation between your flats mean that your neighbour is never entitled to a relationship and/or sex with another consenting adult?

@BumbleFlump

TBH normally I wouldn’t give a fig. In fact other single elderly gentleman two doors down frequently has his lady friend round but he’s lovely.

The only real reason I even considered reporting my immediate neighbour is because he is in fact an arse, like I said.

You sound like a bigger arse tbh

@Love51

If he's eternally single by choice you might be doing him a favour - he might be concerned she's going to want to stay over, and he might not want to keep seeing her. "I'm sorry you can't come over again, my neighbour is the Covid warden" could be his perfect get out card!

Lol'd at this

You sound like a nightmare. My neighbour is the same, not covid related, but comments on everything I do, and it creeps me out. Like when she says hello what have you been up to, ill reply and she will say oh yes I know, I saw you doing x in your garden, or oooo I noticed you hadn't been out much. It makes me really uncomfortable. Mind your own business.

@Butchyrestingface

No! Why would you do that???

Because she hates him. Can't you tell?

Fine line between love and hate

You sound nasty.

What the hell is wrong with people. Op, get a life!

Oh ffs, leave OP alone.

Probably wouldn't report OP as he might know it's you, not unreasonable to want to get your own back on a horrible neighbour though.

It's non of your business what your neighbour does in his own house,
How about you go get a life of your own? You sound quite sad and lonely.

@BumbleFlump

TBH normally I wouldn’t give a fig. In fact other single elderly gentleman two doors down frequently has his lady friend round but he’s lovely.

The only real reason I even considered reporting my immediate neighbour is because he is in fact an arse, like I said.

If he's an arse he's going to be a whole load more of an arse when he realises that you reported him.

Let him enjoy his shag!

Let him enjoy his shag!

That's the OPs problem. He's getting a portion and she isn't.

It’s not true that it’s only his business, sadly. If he infects someone else or gets infected himself, that increases the risk for anyone who goes near him/her which in turn increases the risk for everyone.

I wouldn’t report him, but only because it’s important to get on with your neighbours.

Who would you report it too? The police? Surely they have better things to do than knock on doors because one person is in a house. The rules are stupid. You can have a cleaner in the house, your children can sit cheek by jowel with others , you can walk around a supermarket or sit in a pub but you cant have someone in your house.