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Are you visiting family now? Truthfully!

198 replies

IsntThatYourThirdPlate · 12/05/2020 19:43

another week another argument with OH he’s determined to bring the kids to his mums tomorrow they’ve organised it behind my back he’s just said to me now I’m going to pop over my mums with the kids tomorrow.

I feel like I’m being controlling but then my mum hasn’t seen the kids either. What are others doing?

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cliffdiver · 12/05/2020 21:59

Delivered shopping to my Grandma in the next town.

Not seen my parents and brother who live 10 miles away, nor my sister and niece who live in neighbouring town (the other direction) since lockdown.

Unravellingslowly · 12/05/2020 21:59

No. I haven’t seen anyone since the first week in February. We had been due for a family celebration end of March.

youcancallmequeenE · 12/05/2020 22:02

Yes. Only my mum though and she's been coming here and sitting in the garden. We can easily keep a 2m distance outside and the weather has been good. Socially distancing as much as we can but sometimes not completely effective with having 2 very little ones but actually they understand a lot more than I give them credit for and have started to accept it

LST · 12/05/2020 22:03

We see my mum and dad all the time because we live so close to each other (over the road). Not been in each others houses, but I sat in my mums garden on Saturday while the dogs had a play.

TowerRingInferno · 12/05/2020 22:05

No. They’re 3.5 hours away.

Lurkingforawhile · 12/05/2020 22:12

Like many I've dropped off shopping for my mum, and sat outside on the lawn to have a chat. I've not seen my dad at all even though he's close by as he doesn't need any help with shopping etc. Looking forward to having a walk with him this weekend. It will make such a difference!

ESpressoNotEXpresso · 12/05/2020 22:15

No, but it's so hard. I did drop off easter eggs and an early bday present for my nephew, but that was just dropped outside and I chatted to my sister through the window for a few minutes. They live 10 minutes drive away and at the time, I'm sure I would have been classed as breaking the rules, as it wasn't essential, but I didn't take any risks or put myself or anyone else in danger.

Can't wait to see my parents who live an hour away. I could see them now, but we're just not sure if seeing each other and not being able to hug is actually worse than just seeing each other over video chat.

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userxx · 12/05/2020 22:30

Yes. I've also seen friends, obviously from a safe distance.

Hobgoblinz · 12/05/2020 22:36

Yes. We live in a small village and my parents are about a 2 minute walk away. They have a large garden that’s accessed from a drive way and my toddler and I go and have a chat with them in the garden, always a safe distance away, never go in the house or have a drink or anything like that. They haven’t left their home since before the start of lock down, and I haven’t been in any shop or any other building other than my own home either, and although we still take precautions I think the risk is low.

Inkpaperstars · 12/05/2020 22:37

No, haven't seen any family or friends since before lockdown, except for twice dropped off food for elderly relative but left by the door and then said a few words from the end of the drive.

IdblowJonSnow · 12/05/2020 22:38

Nope.

lazysasha · 12/05/2020 22:38

No, DH shops and delivers food to his shielding parents once a week. He leaves it on the doorstep, walks away and has a quick 2 min chat with them.
My parents live too far but I could now visit them in a day, but they've made it clear that they don't want me anyway near them as I still go into my workplace!

I see families and friends visiting other houses but it's not a risk that I'm prepared to take.

Jayaywhynot · 12/05/2020 22:40

Nope, we are key workers and going into work every day, hand on heart no one has set foot in our house or garden since lockdown started and we have not been in anyone else's houses. Not so much because we dont want to catch it but because we dont want to spread it to family

HairyToity · 12/05/2020 22:41

No, but my parents keep calling round as they go on a drive. We stand outside and chat about 4 metres apart. It makes me anxious as they are taking no precautions , and DH is vulnerable. They always bring magazines and treats for children, so there is the handling of goods. The kids never want to wait till I alcohol wipe. Angry

JellyFishSquish · 12/05/2020 22:42

Same as Hobgoblinz, but the other way around, I am the parent. First time today with DD, it was lovely.

Tiramisuiloveyou · 12/05/2020 22:44

Yes I have traveller 2 miles to visit my elderly mums front door, kept more than 2M’s away and stayed outside in her front garden several times since my father died at the end of last month. My mum doesn’t have the internet, FT or whatsapp etc. I visited on my own and collected and returned paperwork and photographs for the order of service, flower cards etc. Visiting under those circumstances and with my mum and myself in floods of tears and avoiding hugging was absolutely dreadful and so heartbreaking.

twinkledag · 12/05/2020 22:45

No!

monkeytennis97 · 12/05/2020 22:45

No... week 7 of not seeing my disabled DS in his care home or my other DS who lives away.

daisymay133 · 12/05/2020 22:49

No not family as they’re in 70s but I’m happy to see people my age and younger who otherwise have no conditions - under 40 mostly and have done regularly

buckeejit · 12/05/2020 22:52

Yes, as in leaving groceries over & sitting on the other side of the drive for a chat.

It's still socially distanced but don't know that we'd cope with doing that over winter. Would be hard not seeing them & having Christmas dinner.

However, I'd be terrified of unwittingly infecting them if we went into their house. I'm basically hoping they make some sort of big jump on the knowledge in the next few months. Unlikely I know.

If Boris says ok you can visit-doesn't mean that it's suddenly safe

SockQueen · 12/05/2020 23:09

No. Not an essential journey - particularly to my parents who live far enough away that a day trip is impractical (PiL are only half an hour away but still unnecessary). I work in the NHS so could potentially infect them, and they're all over 70/higher risk. My oldest is only 3.5 so wouldn't understand seeing grandparents without being able to run around/hug them.

It sucks, we all really miss each other, but I'd never forgive myself if one of them got sick after we visited/they visited us.

TheCatsBlanket · 12/05/2020 23:09

Yes, ever since lockdown began, been shopping/cleaning/cooking for my 93 year old aunt who is desperately lonely and said she'd rather die from it than be alone. Call me selfish, I don't care, but it's what she wanted.

bananaskinsnomnom · 12/05/2020 23:11

No. Finally seeing my dad in the park tomorrow at a distance! As we are a pair it’s fine. Still can’t see rest of family (nieces etc) as the group will be too big.

LAlady · 12/05/2020 23:20

No. Knowing two people who have died - a work colleague and old school friend puts everything sharply into perspective.