Are you visiting family now? Truthfully!

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another week another argument with OH he’s determined to bring the kids to his mums tomorrow they’ve organised it behind my back he’s just said to me now I’m going to pop over my mums with the kids tomorrow.

I feel like I’m being controlling but then my mum hasn’t seen the kids either. What are others doing?

No, definitely not.

I was going to say no but we have had some chats with my mum from the end of the drive (about 5m away). She lives around the corner. Also bumped into my dad in the Co-op queue so chatted while we waited to pay.

We have seen grandparents from a distance a couple times a week for a quick 10 min chat. My mum and dad pulled up outside my house they stayed in the car I spoke from the door. I have been inside my Mums house once a few weeks ago when she was unwell and alone but I classed that as a caring for someone vulnerable visit

I've seen my sister out of doors and staying more than 2m apart (go for a bike ride together). DD has seen her father in similar circumstances. My Dsis is self-isolating apart from the weekly shop, so hardly any increased risk. There is a risk from DD seeing her father as he lives with a nurse (hence why she can't go round to his house as the current rules say she could), but it's a risk we've decided to take rather than keep a child from any contact with her parent for months on end. If my other family members don't go back to work and continue to stay at home except for shopping, I would consider meeting up with them outdoors for a bike ride. I won't be travelling to any who live more than a bike ride away.

No, wouldn’t dream of it.

I have walked past my parents house on a couple of occasions on our allocated exercise walks, dc’s have stood on their wall and waved, shouted hello and we delivered some flowers to my elderly nan, I put the flowers on her doorstep and then stepped back, children stayed in the car and again shouted hello and waved through open windows.

Other than that the children have rarely left the house and I have been going to a supermarket once a week.

Those that are going to see family, may I ask why?? I'm gutted to not be able to see my family but I'm sticking to the guidelines

Yup

No and it’s been difficult not to meet my mum at our local park when ds1 has been crying a lot because he misses her.

We see PIL every 2 weeks roughly to exchange shopping and we chat outside. I haven't seen any of my family, but will see two of them in two weeks' time when one collects the student moving permanently home. We'll chat outside for a few minutes and DS chat to them. The transmission issue outside is distance, not whether it's one or two people, that issue is about police needing to be able to break up groups having a little party, so for a brief chat more than 2m apart I don't care. It's not like police could arrive in time to fine us anyway for a few minutes saying hello, it would be nonsensical to have PIL get a chat slot each with one of us while the other waits in the car then swapsie, which would fit the rules.

No.

The guidelines are we can see out of the household members outside and socially distanced isn’t it?
Genuine question.

No.

My family live abroad so there's no way we could, but we wouldn't even if they were here. We haven't seen any of our close friends either.

Yes, when dropping off shopping to elderly parents. But no touching or going inside the house. They are my only family. If I had a sister down the road or similar I wouldn’t.

The guidelines are we can see out of the household members outside and socially distanced isn’t it?
Genuine question.

You can see ONE person outside of your household (at any one time) outside and socially distanced.

In which case yes. I will drive to my dms and meet her in the park opposite her house.

Yes i am now, but outside. My mum is coming to do some gardening so we are at opposite ends of the garden but can chat

No difference to us meeting in the park and staying 2m apart.

No, they all live at least 3 hours drive away plus my parents are both shielded. I feel totally useless as the only thing I can do to help them is to stay away.

Yes I saw my parents today after 7 weeks. My df is disabled and cannot walk far,hes too vulnerable to go out and has carers coming so I went in their house but kept 2 metres apart.

with her shopping, in the garden.

I’ve said to him just talk on the drive but it’s not good enough he only wants to visit for a couple of hours 🙄 they live a 45 minute drive as well.

We don’t have any relatives (it’s literally just me, dh and the 2 dcs) but our next door neighbours who are in their 60s have had their daughters and their grandchildren round in and out of their house as normal ever since lockdown started.

Lots of people are ignoring the rules here (South Norfolk). When we go for a walk there are groups of teens hanging out together, men standing close together in the street chatting etc etc.

Yes have done for weeks, gone in and had cups of tea, DS has hugged his nan, we've chatted. Spent hours over there.

I'm working a 40+ hour a week job in the community, stressed up to my eyeballs, I'm a single mum. Something had to give before I did.

Yes suspect a lot of people will start to soon, but this is obviously not good. Bloody hard not to see family for months on end though - which is what it will turn into without a vaccine any time soon

No.