Can people please stop criticising people who are having to use parents, family members or friends for childcare

[Disneylover4321]

Can people please stop criticising people who are having to use parents, family members or friends for childcare.
They are not doing it because they want to but they are doing it because they have to.
They are doing what is best for their family.

They are doing it so they can continue to provide for their family.

I haven't heard of anyone criticising anyone for this - but if you have, I suggest you ignore them.

I didn’t actually know this was allowed.

No, people should follow the rules and not mix households. Simple!

I've been doing it for a month now and nobody has criticised me.

@etopp

I will.

@onemorepringle

It's not allowed but some people have no other choice.

Yes I've had to do this or we simply won't eat. It's only one other household and it's been visiting each other before the outbreak.

No one has said anything to me yet, who has been criticising?

@Singlemum754

What do you suggest people do then??

I would not be concerned about what strangers on Mumsnet say TBH.

No, people should follow the rules and not mix households. Simple!

That’s not true. Childminders can have children of key workers in their houses. That’s mixing households.

I’m an absolute stickler for the rules normally, but if the child is just going from the parent’s house to the same house to be minded, how is that any different from shared custody? The children of split parents are permitted to do so for contact. To be, a parent having to continue work, so sending the child to another house is no different. The risks are the same and if there’s confusion, that’s the fault of the government.

@superstressy

I've seen lots of people criticising it unfortunately.

I should add, that a child being sent to an aunt one day, grandad the next and so on, I would find unacceptable because of the massive increase in risk.

@creaturcomforts

Hello, I've seen loads of people on other forums and social media near us criticising it.

Don't worry about doing it though as you are doing what is best for your family.

I’ve not heard any criticism if that helps? I can’t see problem either. Paid Nannys are still allowed I assume?

No, people should follow the rules and not mix households. Simple!

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That’s not true. Childminders can have children of key workers in their houses. That’s mixing households.

Actually, childminders are only allowed to be open to two families per day at the moment. This is risk assessed and the care is managed to minimise the risk of cross infection.

Childminders are open at the moment, only some have closed. People should be using childcare rather than putting family at risk.

@hollysbush

Paid nannys are still allowed yes.

I don't think it is any different to children going between the households of separated parents, or children of key workers going to school. Good hygiene is more important IMO.
There is a lot of talk about using common sense but it appears that common sense is rare.

Why do you care?

In terms of having to keep a roof over your heads and food on the table, do what you need to do.

I do feel sorry for the people who are being relied on though, that’s a lot of pressure on them.

I went back to work this week after a 10.5 Month MAT leave. My DH works from home but has to go into work onto Thursdays and Fridays so my DC will be going to my friends on those 2 days.

Actually, childminders are only allowed to be open to two families per day at the moment. This is risk assessed and the care is managed to minimise the risk of cross infection.

Yes so mixing households then.

People should be using childcare rather than putting family at risk.

I do agree with this ^

Totally breaking the rules....but you carry on if it’s all you can do to put food in your children’s bellies and keep a roof over their heads.