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fucksake now all DD15's friendship group has arranged to meet up!!

137 replies

fuckinghellthisshit · 11/05/2020 22:09

I have of course told DD she cannot go.

All of them (5girls 3 boys) are saying their parents say it is fine as long as they don't hug. I am really annoyed, why do people have to make everything harder.

Fucksake.

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Somerville · 11/05/2020 22:23

15 yr old DS's friends started that yesterday. They were organising a party in some barn to mark the end of 'stay at home'.
Dunno whether other parents are clueless at what they're planning or think it's okay. But I agree, fucksake.

WorraLiberty · 11/05/2020 22:23

You can't cure stupid so you might as well forget about it.

No point in getting annoyed, it's not worth the energy.

Floatyboat · 11/05/2020 22:24

Just focus on risk reduction. Eg outside for a walk etc rather than inside etc

TinRoofRusty · 11/05/2020 22:25

Young people are really paying the price in this lockdown.

Somerville · 11/05/2020 22:31

Despite understanding why he mustn't go to the party, DS was gutted when all the photos were flashing up on WhatsApp. Thank God the girl he likes didn't go, or I might have had more trouble keeping him compliant about staying home.

TP67 · 11/05/2020 23:26

I remember when I was that age, I broke every rule in the book as did all of my friends. I think these youngsters have been remarkably compliant on the whole so far.

howdidwegetheremary · 11/05/2020 23:57

The young people near my home have never ceased doing this, on the odd occasion I’ve been out I’ve seen several groups not from the same family with zero social distancing.

Agree with pp at that age I’d probably have done it too.

RyanBergarasTeeth · 12/05/2020 00:18

Teenagers are naturally rebellious and daft.

But to a pp. Young people arent paying a higher price than anyone else.

SonjaMorgan · 12/05/2020 00:47

Teenagers are paying a higher price though. I am quite happy staying in, reading and cooking. As a teen I lived at friends houses and I was out all day long.

darkforceofexcesszeal · 12/05/2020 00:53

Two of mine are meeting one other friend and going for socially distanced walks. And once a bike ride.

Coyoacan · 12/05/2020 01:03

I cannot imagine being a teenager under lockdown, life as a teenager is difficult enough without not being able to leave your house and meet your friends.

Dillydallyingthrough · 12/05/2020 01:07

OP I agree my DD (also 15) has had a row with me tonight as all of her friends are meeting up! She won't go but other parents not following guidelines makes it so much harder.

LilacTree1 · 12/05/2020 01:21

“ I cannot imagine being a teenager under lockdown, life as a teenager is difficult enough without not being able to leave your house and meet your friends.”

This. There are going to be so many permanently broken families after this.

LilacTree1 · 12/05/2020 01:23

I can understand it because the constant threat of going back to stay at home when the R number inevitably goes up....might as well as get some social stuff in now.

I’m grateful to those breaking lockdown- I can’t afford a fine or so would I.

avroroad · 12/05/2020 01:24

Teenagers are paying a higher price though.

I don't think they are. Some people have lost their jobs which will ultimately cost them their home.

I am quite happy staying in, reading and cooking. As a teen I lived at friends houses and I was out all day long.

But you are just one example. There are plenty people in each age group happy to stay in and plenty who are struggling. It's not any harder for one group.

RyanBergarasTeeth · 12/05/2020 01:28

Teenagers are not paying a higher price.

What about elderly people with limited time left who cant go out and enjoy activities or see their family? Like that 83 year old having chemo on the news last night who was crying because the highlight of his month was a trip to a restauant with his family and he cant go and may never get another chance.

What about children and people with special needs whos occupational therapies are on hold giving them massive mental and physical setbacks.

And people who are losing jobs and homes.

Teenagers do not have it the worst.

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 12/05/2020 01:41

Thank fuck my teenager is touch wood sensible.
He's been listening to the updates.
He says it's all a bit vague, and is wanting to stay in for now still.
WTF is wrong with some parents, are they just daft, or what?!
Must be so hard if some friends parents are saying one thing and the rules are another.
Nowhere did it say friends can meet up.
Ridiculous.

DamnYankee · 12/05/2020 01:46

I don't think we should even compare age groups. This was not even the OP's question.

Yes, I would be annoyed. However, if there was a chance to arrange a one on one bike ride or walk with each friend, or even a bring-your-own lemonade/soda at a safe distance, I would socially engineer Grin that with ok from the other parents.

My DD has resigned herself to "air hugs" at the moment...

LilQueenie · 12/05/2020 01:47

report them and where they are going to be. It could save one maybe several lives.

CloudsCoveredTheSky · 12/05/2020 01:56

"Young people are really paying the price in this lockdown."

They're not the ones dying or losing their jobs.

They have snapchat and a million other ways to communicate. Of course it's not ideal and it must be frustrating but it's not like they can't talk to their friends.

DamnYankee · 12/05/2020 01:56

Group stuff, though. No, not yet.
And them being told to consider elderly people and other vulnerable groups is ok, but I'm betting most will look at you blankly - especially when their friends are asking them to get together. Developmentally appropriate behavior.
Be prepared for push-back.

DamnYankee · 12/05/2020 01:59

report them and where they are going to be
They're not the ones dying or losing their jobs
Seriously? And this helps parents of teens how?

LilacTree1 · 12/05/2020 03:27

Clouds “ They're not the ones dying or losing their jobs.”

Give it five years, they’ll be the ones paying through the nose for this economic mess.

Starksforthewin · 12/05/2020 03:46

Teenagers have their whole lives ahead of them. A blip will mean nothing in the grand scheme of things, even if it turns out to be a year.

I feel, like a PP, most sorry for those people who are life limited. This period may hasten the end of their lives, and/or mean they are very lonely with time running out.

Zoflorabore · 12/05/2020 03:49

Ds (17) is refusing any sort of social situation even though he is desperately missing his large group of friends.

He has Aspergers and anxiety and has been so strict over lockdown and has questioned us many times ie: over necessary shopping trips. He reads the news on his phone and didn’t see his dad for the first 4/5 weeks or so as was convinced he would catch it.

Lots of ds’s friends have been in regular contact with each other face to face but ds is quite happy to do all contact over Xbox for now and the usual social media outlets.

It has taken him weeks to get used to this situation and I worry that when he goes back to college ( he is in year 12 doing A levels ) that he will massively struggle.
His friends have been trying to get him out but he won’t budge. I’m sort of glad but worried that he will become a bit reclusive.

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