I know IABU but I am totally fed up of lockdown

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So. I know I have an awful lot to be thankful for. My family are all in good health, we have no change in our income (yet), my husband is able to work from home, we have a big garden and had plenty of nice weather to enjoy it. There's just us two and our toddler in our house. We're a lot more fortunate than many.

But... I quite honestly don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm grieving our old life, missing my parents so much, and finding it SO HARD to keep my toddler occupied at home.

I just want to go back to normal 😭 and it doesn't look like there will be a "normal" for a while. It's all just so uncertain and indefinite. It feels like there is nothing to look forward to any more and every day is a chore.

Anyone want to offer some solidarity?

We're not ones to go out that much socialising or whatever but I was upset my holiday was cancelled as not been anywhere for years and been saving up a while to go away for a week.
It's just the fact you can't go out for a pizza or the pictures makes it worse ; we are not big on it but when something is taken away you miss it more somehow. It's the nice things in life the virus had taken away.
Mostly I'm pissed for people losing their jobs and the young who are screwed again and rely on hospitality for jobs whilst at uni / college etc to supplement Uni loans.
It messed up everyone in some way or another.

I'm fed up of all of it to be honest.

I'm fed up of wfh. I'm a social worker and it's impossible. I don't know if my families are safe because I can only do doorstep visits.

My ds 7, is fed up and bored and refusing to do school work and this also makes working from home harder.

My dd 16, is sad her exams, prom etc have been cancelled and she won't get to wear her £300 dress (no refunds) and can't see her friends.

I want to see my best friend.

I want to go to the pub, get drunk and dance.

I had a holiday cancelled (meant to fly on Friday), 2 festivals and 2 gigs also cancelled.

I want to meander round the shops and go for a coffee/lunch with friends.

My brothers wedding, planned for 3 years, has been cancelled.

I have a right to be fed up. I understand why we are doing this. My dad is vulnerable and I worry about him. But it doesn't stop me from being fed up and sad about all the plans I and my family had made for this year being cancelled.

I’ve been really up and down with it, some days I’m ok and have loads of energy and others I’m just so low and have to drag myself through the day.

This is my final year of a masters, I’ve got loads of important work to do including my research project. I was previously well on track for a distinction and I don’t know if I’m going to manage it now. Trying to work in short bursts holed up in my bedroom with a toddler running around in the next door is never going to produce the same quality of work as a nice focused day in the library. I’m the only one on my course with a child and I feel really at a disadvantage.

Our wedding has been cancelled, my hen weekend, trips to see family, our first family holiday. DD is missing nursery and her grandparents and watching way too much tv. We don’t have a proper garden so have started running races up and down the little concrete yard at the back.

I’m just worn down and feel like there’s nothing to look forward to to help me get through it.

Feeling the same OP and others and I appreciate the solidarity!! Home with 3yo and 1yo. Small garden. My work (freelance) has died. I miss working and part-time childcare and my sister and friends... weirdly the thing that really got me the other day was how much I missed just going to a coffee shop and sitting down for a cuppa. I’ll never take that for granted again!
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I'm fed up of it today as well. Trying to combine a new job with home educating two children, one of whom has SEN so reques 1 to 1 to get anything done. I'm sick to death of the relentless tasks like the ever ending pile of dishes and the lack of alone time. As someone else said the fun has been sucked out of life. But also very glad my family are not I'll or working on the front line.

I think what a lot of these threads are showing recently is just how much resilience we have lost at an individual level. We talk a lot about it when looking at children but truthfully in the nicest possible way we have become spoiled. Many of us are totally out of touch with the kinds of quietly desperate lives a lot of people live.

We are creative people - there are ways around many issues as long as you still have an income and roof over your head. Using technology, using social distancing. Don't think too far ahead. Just take each day as it comes.

Its not about resilience. We are allowed to have a moan when our lives have been forcibly changed to such an extent. That doesnt mean anything more than just getting it off our chest. In fact as a nation I think we are doing pretty darn well.

@Screamingkid - absolutely. Those saying we need to be more resilient, that generation [insert name] are spoiled etc etc, others have it worse, how do you think people coped during the war and so and so forth, are missing the point. It’s all relative. Just because someone else has it worse, doesn’t mean that you can’t feel miserable about your own situation. It’s not a competition.

we're not all going to die of coronavirus. Most of us will have it or have had it. The elderly and vulnerable are most at risk and I shall not or have not been visiting elderly relatives. Most of us will experience no more than a cold.

@Brownyblonde Sorry but what you have posted it incorrect.
Where is your evidence that most people have it or have had it? Do you think you know better than the scientists? You are trivialising it to suit your own choices.

Most people will not die , that is right.

But you can't know who will.

There have been deaths amongst the young including NHS workers. it is NOT just the old and vulnerable who die.

Surely you can see how awful your attitude is especially today when we had a minute's silence for the dead- NOT all 80+ year olds?

I am shocked at your attitude. It's as if you feel superior and that the rules do not apply to you.

By visiting your mother in law you have risked exposing her to the virus. You may have it and not know. Yet.

As for 80 year olds wanting to 'live their lives' or whatever you said, that is not true- it's your opinion.

My mum is 93 and went into voluntary self isolation before the lockdown came into effect. She doesn't want to catch it or die.
She has had to give up her social life and all her friends.

As for me #bogging off'.

How dare you have the nerve to say you are ignoring lockdown, as and when it suits you and then come along and abuse anyone who calls you on it?

Hopefully ,neighbours will spot your behaviour and report you.

I'm ok, I think, if I think purely of my bubble. My kids are happy enough, they're enjoying each others' company on the whole and doing a little work. DH and I get on well and are used to spending more time together than many couples anyway. We have a house that is lovely, if a little too small, but a great garden. Outgoings not too high as we set up a business in the new year and tried to cut them back then. I'm a key worker doing one week in three around the corner so still being paid. DH has very little work coming in but we can manage, and the type of business it is will.pick back up again after lockdown. My parents are well and doing as they're told 😁

However if I think outside of that I'm sad. Sad for the kids who get a lot out of school and miss their friends, sad for my parents who love for seeing family and the kids, sad for everyone feeling scared or worried, sad for all the losses, sad for the curtailment of freedoms we took (rightly) for granted and wondering when or if we'll get them all back.

I don’t think anyone has a lack of sympathy for those saying they have lost their job and have money worries or are juggling with WFH and home schooling etc etc. I just rolled my eyes at the whole ‘ooooooh I know I’m very lucky to have a great job, a handsome DH, two beautiful children, a massive house with an acre of garden ..... but oh how I miss my artisan coffee each morning at our local independant coffee shop’ bullshit.

I just thing ODFOD.

If I could put myself into some sort of suspended animation until September I would do it tomorrow.

This is just relentless and I don’t want to do it anymore.

This is my final year of a masters, I’ve got loads of important work to do including my research project. I was previously well on track for a distinction and I don’t know if I’m going to manage it now. Trying to work in short bursts holed up in my bedroom with a toddler running around in the next door is never going to produce the same quality of work as a nice focused day in the library. I’m the only one on my course with a child and I feel really at a disadvantage

riotlady you can seek an extension to this on these grounds, my university is offering them no questions or evidence asked at the moment, ask early and soon, and flag up that you will need one, of course it is harder when you are trying to toddler wrangle to do a dissertation, but with an extension it may look more doable.

I am an exceptionally resilient person, have coped very well with lockdown, but it doesn't mean I can't be pissed off about it, and for the loss of normality which is coming. I'm not worried about staying in for another two or three weeks, I'm more worried that when I get out, life will be less fun and less nice and social contact diminished and I can't actually hug and hold my loved ones.

I don't think this is a lack of resilience!

Hopefully ,neighbours will spot your behaviour and report you.

Sorry to disappoint you but the police couldn't give a shit if a poster on here has visited their mother in law.

@PenelopePitstopping I and most of my colleagues have been tested (not saying where I work) a good proportion of us have had it and we're not unduly unwell. I didn't comment on the elderly living their lives and I also didn't visit my mil so stop attacking me personally and being so arsey

I suppose I'm gently pointing out that there are ways of reframing things that will make this easier to cope with. So yes I can't have a coffee with friends in a cafe but I can have a zoom coffee or Fri night drinks. It's ok to whinge but I suppose a lot of us have become used to an exceptionally high standard of living that isn't available to billions of people including many people in our own country. Maybe people just need to vent but sometimes venting is counter productive. Just be extra kind to yourself on the bad days and usually the next day is better, that's my experience anyway.

@PenelopePitstopping you seriously need to calm down. I haven't broken any rules. And for your information in my job role I am pretty sure I know more about the facts of coronavirus than you do. Stop personally attacking me please. You're the only one being abusive. If other posters read my replies and yours I'm sure they'll see how the abusive one is

Everyone round my way is playing by the rules. I bent them slightly at the weekend and took the kids to sit at the end of my parents' drive for a chat. Stayed 2 metres away but I know many would frown. We also went for a walk on the beach having not left our neighborhood since before lockdown, a few people there but all following the he guidelines.

I don't necessarily mind schools not reopening etc, but would like to be able to extend the household bubble a little. Be able to have coffee with my parents sensibly, meet the kids' friends for a play at the park or beach etc.

I just miss my DH.

I think I’m coping well but my daughter isn’t. I worry for her and her friends, their futures are uncertain and gloomy. They may lose the right to travel internationally, it will be hard for them to find work.
Apparently she has been approached by a friend to join a MLM scheme which they all seem to think is a good idea. Which I plan to put a stop to. I think they are very vulnerable and fragile atm.

I've had it as well. I'm Nhs staff. So so sick of changing services constantly, running to keep up with changing requirements and standards, washing my hands till raw, pressing the effing lift buttons with my elbows, everybody under stress so some people are behaving badly and no end in sight. It just sucks. I can do it, I'm lucky to have a job etc but it sucks. The older kids uni courses are fucked up. They can't see their blokes. I don't know when I can see my family again. I don't even know when the roses ive ordered for the garden will arrive. It SUCKS.
I'm so jealous of countries coming out of lockdown. And I agree people are reaching their limit for what they will put up with. It's not selfishness, it's what's needed for mental health, security and hope. We are struggling for both.

I'm totally fed up too, I'm off today as in my key worker (from home) job we're now doing shifts to cover weekends. I'm working 12hr days when I do work with fuck all to look forward to around it.

I've already had to cancel a holiday and likely zero chance of a summer or autumn holiday. I should have been to a wedding, a hen do, weekend away with friends, our anniversary weekend with my boyfriend, birthday nights out with friends - all cancelled. No idea when I'll see any of them again properly. I miss my mum and dad. I live alone so I haven't seen anyone properly including my boyfriend for more than six weeks. I haven't touched another human being for 43 days (yes I am counting). Many people increasingly seem to have forgotten what lockdown was for which is pissing me off and it seems to have brought the worst curtain twitching, judgy pants, Stasi informant behaviour in some people.

But I'm healthy, my family and friends are healthy and I'm still getting paid so it could be worse.

I'm so fed up with the news. No I don't mean the tragic deaths of so many which brings me to tears every day. It's the endless reports from here there and everywhere. Those bloody reporters running around the country and standing very close to other people. Weather reporters talking about 'bad' weather. We need rain you absolute fuckwits. And yes TV people you are employed and get paid well. And after all this is over news people you will feast on other tragedies.
Rant over

Do you think you know better than the scientists?

I can think of one so called "scientist" who should not be advising the government as there is compelling evidence that they have been very wrong in the past, on more than one occasion.

But I guess as they are classed as a scientist, we should bow to their so called superiority.