I know IABU but I am totally fed up of lockdown

[detachablehoof]

So. I know I have an awful lot to be thankful for. My family are all in good health, we have no change in our income (yet), my husband is able to work from home, we have a big garden and had plenty of nice weather to enjoy it. There's just us two and our toddler in our house. We're a lot more fortunate than many.

But... I quite honestly don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm grieving our old life, missing my parents so much, and finding it SO HARD to keep my toddler occupied at home.

I just want to go back to normal 😭 and it doesn't look like there will be a "normal" for a while. It's all just so uncertain and indefinite. It feels like there is nothing to look forward to any more and every day is a chore.

Anyone want to offer some solidarity?

[Alex50]

Yes the weather has changed, I love the sunshine, I felt angry yesterday even though I am actually enjoying lockdown but I feel so sad for my daughter, at 14, has her whole life ahead of her and it has all been put on hold. What scares me is what we will be going back to, lockdown itself for me isn’t to bad, I have all my family round me, they all seem to be coping pretty well. What is life going to be like after lockdown though? I loved popping to London for a meal, going to the theatre, I can’t even imagine getting on a train again, or going on holiday abroad, or going to my local pub and meeting friends. A lot of unemployment looks likely. Life is going to be very different going forward.

[justanotherneighinparadise]

The weather is crap but I still roll my eyes at these threads. The original post just smacked of ‘my diamond shoes are too tight’.

[Biscuit0110]

Can I just say thank you to op. I am unable to speak about any of this in real life, I am too busy holding the fort and keeping everyone happy and together.
It has made me feel so much better being able to put it all down, the misery and stress. It has been cathartic even. So thank you for posting this thread, and allowing us all the chance to be honest and open about our feelings when most can't for fear of dragging others down.

[bloodyhellsbellsx]

I feel the same OP.
I just want our old lives back, I want go out for nice meals, take my baby to hartbeeps and swimming, go out for afternoon drinks with the girls. I worry life won’t return to how it was for a really long time but I’m trying to just roll with it and not over think things because it’s completely out of our control!

[The80sweregreat]

It's horrible when finances are hit hard and even with government help, I know many will still really struggle especially those who are not getting any money or don't have family to help them. Jobs are hard to get and keep hold of at the best of times and this has made that doubly worse.

I'm fed up being holed up with three adult men. Dh loves going out and can't do hobbies , one is wfh and one goes to work. It's been horrible but money is ok for now , so I just hang on to that thought when I get down. Others on here are not so lucky and the debts will pile up ; I feel so sad for people with little children stuck in too. It must be hell trying to wfh and home school ( pretty impossible I would have thought)
It's a situation that feels almost surreal at times.

[The80sweregreat]

I know it's the mail , but today they are putting up a plan that might happen.
Schools may go back in June. Other restrictions may be lifted before then. Seeing other people and family may help this a bit. The rest is still crap though.

[Alex50]

I feel for people financially struggling, this is stressful enough without money worries, the longer this goes on for, the more people are going to struggle. Young families I think are the worst affected from lockdown and my heart goes out to them 💕

[Blackbeans]

Feel the same and especially worried for my kids. They look like they are coping but are badly missing school, friends or simply had enough of us (as do I of them).

I'm not sure how to see the light at the end of this tunnel. My job is dangling on the line and DH took a paycut over redundancy. Very unmotivated with my job, even if lucky to have one. In a very niche role yet can see it may take another few years for my area to recover and find a new job that will probably pay less too.

Will things go back to normality? In a long time maybe? UK is in knee deep and any easing just means (to me) social transmission rate goes up. I'm so much more worried about the economy and finances than the virus though.

[Ohffs66]

justanother possibly not the right thread for you then? No one is beating their chest and wailing how their life is so terrible, oh so much worse than everyone else's. Many posters have acknowledged that there are others in far far worse positions and that they are relatively lucky for various reasons and grateful for it. But people are still allowed to be fed up about the situation, about things that may seem minor and inconsequential to others, and to voice that. It's not a race to the bottom.

[Alex50]

I don’t think schools will go back in June I’m afraid, the news yesterday about children getting really ill, even though it’s a very small number, I maybe cynical but I think it was plastered all over the news on purpose to use as fear factor for when they announce they will open in September so parents don’t complain to much.

[Regretsandregrets]

Thank God, i have been really lucky so far. I live with my adult daughter who was working from home even before this lockdown.I planned retirement for the end of March so I am at home .My daughter has received a pay cut but her job is secure for the time being.
We will have reduced income with her pay cut and my pension but we are healthy and we can stay at home and enjoy a peaceful, quiet life.Sad to see so much pain and suffering around us.

[Frangipanini]

I am actually OK with it and if they came on the telly today and said it was being lifted on Monday, I would be a bit sad. I feel like I have wasted a few weeks at the beginning mooning around doing nothing but now I am into the swing of it.

We have blitzed the house, discovered our local countryside, taken up a new physical hobby, made our own bread, tried new recipes, had parties in our house. Last year DH and I were on the brink of divorce and now we are getting along really well as we have the time to hang out together and he is not travelling or working long hours. We are doing a major renovation of our garden.

I can see that it is a struggle for others though. All I can say is to try and get stuff done whilst you can now, so that when it is lifted you don't have chores or projects on top of your work and you can enjoy your downtime more. Prepare for better times.

[SausageCrush]

I'm fed up today too. The monotony is beginning to make my life resemble the film 'Groundhog Day' - but without the humour!

Handholds to everyone who is struggling - hopefully by the end of this week there will be some light at the end of the tunnel...

[Alex50]

Why do people come on these threads just to say how dare we complain Everyone has different priorities, some are worried about health but a vast majority will be worrying about keeping a roof over their head and feeding their families. This is just as stressful as worrying about your health.

[Chillipeanuts]

Fully support the restrictions but yearn to just sit somewhere lovely and look at something different for a while, inside the car would do for now.
Like many, we’re going to have to shield until there’s a vaccine (though no idea yet how that’s going to work, living in a multi generation household that will have to go back to school and work at some point!) so this is going to be a long old haul. I’m fit and well but my husband is very vulnerable so it’s at home with online deliveries for us. I can’t really risk walks because Im afraid of bringing something home to him. Really hope restrictions on driving a bit further are lifted when it’s safe because I think that will help keep us sane.

[organisedmother]

I’m with u! Every single day is the same as the last, nothing to ever look forward to I’ve thought in my head to start to plan Christmas just for something nice and positive to look forward too... not sure for Christmas 2020 or 2021 🤦🏼‍♀️

[IndiaMay]

Me. We're really lucky. No effect in our income, outdoor space to enjoy and just me and my fiance at home so no children to worry about and we're enjoying time together watching TV and chilling. But I feel sick when I go outside. I dont care about catching coronavirus but the empty streets, shut up shops and general 'end of the world' feeling to the outside is horrible. People avoiding your eye and leaping out the way of you lest you come within 4 metres of them. I walk past all the pub gardens we used to sit outside and have a drink in the summer, where we would get takeaway coffees before a walk along the river, the restaurant we went for my birthday literally weeks ago and now everything has changed. I cant see how life will go back to normal, will we be queuing for the supermarket in the rain or even snow? We have had to cancel our wedding, will we ever be able to get married? (And I dont mean have a wedding, i mean literally get married, if our church is closed indefinitly?) Will I ever see my elderly grandparents face to face again? If we have children will they never meet my parents? I dont understand how some of these restrictions can go on forever or at least for a long time and we can still have a functioning society. They are saying we dont have antibodies after catching the virus. If that's the case, how will we ever have a vaccine? Vaccines are based on bodies retaining antibodies?

[Pomegranatepompom]

I’m hoping schools will go back in June- the symptoms mentioned yesterday should be monitored by parents. I really feel waiting until September will cause more problems and we’re no more likely to be safer then than in June- with protective measures in place. DD is really missing school, both FC are kidding friends and clubs.
We’re all struggling, despite having a good routine, I also go out to work (nhs) and although it’s really stressful, I feel better for being able to work.
I wish we knew when we could look forward to things again.
I’ve also gained 1/2 stone - annoying as I already had a stone to lose. Hoping to go for a run later, if the rain eases a bit.

[Leighhalfpennysthigh]

justanother we all know that things are still shit, but guess what? People are still allowed to be unhappy, bored, anxious and worried about their own futures.

We are, however, fed up with the lockdown police telling us that we are wrong, selfish and somehow murderers for wanting this to end.

I'm sick of it all. I'm sick of the puritanical bullshit, the fake concern, the mindless worshipping of people just doing their job. I'm fed up with worrying about my business and whether I'll ever be able to do the job I love again instead of being stuck in a shit job dealing with arsehole clinicians who think that they are more superior to everyone who is actually trying to find a way of getting their patients into hospital. I'm scared I'm going to lose my mother in law because her chemo - which was miraculously working this time - has had her treatment postponed. I'm worried about my nephew - a first year nursing student who has had his life upturned. I'm missing my partner desperately.

Yes I know I'm not in ICU but fuck it, my life is shit and I'm allowed to say so.

[Glittertwins]

We haven't been too badly hit with income however it's the lack of sports facilities along with the supervision of school work whilst we try to work ourselves that is getting to us. The kids have no escape and that's hard on them.

[IAmBeatrixKiddo]

@rainallnight I'm so sorry about your mum x

[PenelopePitstopping]

@detachablehoof Sorry but your are BU in my opinion.
You have a lot to be thankful for. Money, a home, a garden, one child who is healthy.

All of us are having to put life as we know it on hold.

My DH is in remission from cancer at the moment - touch wood- and we had hoped to make the best of this time with some little holidays or days out (he's also just retired) but everything is on hold.

I am hundreds of miles away from my 90+ year old mother who was recently widowed, my children live away, close friends live away....

I am sorry and I do 'get' your point, but you really have so little to moan about compared to many people.

[Pomegranatepompom]

*both DC are missing

[TheOneAndOnlyPedroPony]

I'm only fed up because I'm due in a few weeks. No partners allowed at the hospital except during the birth. I had a traumatic birth the first time round, and yet this time is already going to be much worse. I've no problem being at home with DD and staying in, but I am now dreading something that is supposed to be such a happy time. It's absolutely shit.

That, and when my partner goes back to work I'll have two under two and no support. My MH will be absolutely shot after this.

[missfliss]

I don't think this thread is going to do a lot for you when you say things like this:

The weather is crap but I still roll my eyes at these threads. The original post just smacked of ‘my diamond shoes are too tight’.

No one needs your permission to feel shit.