I know IABU but I am totally fed up of lockdown

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So. I know I have an awful lot to be thankful for. My family are all in good health, we have no change in our income (yet), my husband is able to work from home, we have a big garden and had plenty of nice weather to enjoy it. There's just us two and our toddler in our house. We're a lot more fortunate than many.

But... I quite honestly don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm grieving our old life, missing my parents so much, and finding it SO HARD to keep my toddler occupied at home.

I just want to go back to normal 😭 and it doesn't look like there will be a "normal" for a while. It's all just so uncertain and indefinite. It feels like there is nothing to look forward to any more and every day is a chore.

Anyone want to offer some solidarity?

Oh god I can't imagine anything worse

Polls show people want the lockdown to say. See from page of guardian now. Goes counter to this thread and most people I know being really fed up now, but I guess that's the truth of the bigger sample.

Lockdown doesn't seem to be that unpopular according to this poll:
Fearful Britons remain strongly opposed to lifting lockdown
Just one in five want schools, pubs and restaurants to be reopened, according to new poll by Opinium
www.theguardian.com/world/2020/may/02/fearful-britons-oppose-lifting-lockdown-schools-pubs-restaurants-opinium-poll

Ah that's the poll I was talking about!
Difference between poll some views in this thread is likely is the effect of the larger and representative sample in the poll but it could also reflect a bit of people not being honest in polls - I think maybe some people are scared to admit they are over lock down and want it lifted cos they will seem like some crazy person (bit trump like). I don't wanted it fully lifted but I think the time has come for the govt to weigh up negatives of lockdown against its benefits in terms of stopping spread of virus and consider some easing of restrictions.

It could also be to do with what lockdown means. I would say I am against lockdown but I don't think pubs should open tomorrow, I just think we should be able to see our families or sit on park benches freely.

Thing with this is a lot of people think Furlough is great and will last forever. Some people just don’t think too far ahead and don’t worry about long term ramifications. Who did they poll? What was the age range. I can see a lot of older and more at risk people wanting to be stay cautious but young people I don’t get at all. Surely they have had enough of this and as they have little risk of dying from this can’t think of any reasons why they wouldn’t want to return to normal. If I was 21 again I’d want pubs, clubs and Ibiza holidays back in my life.

The long term ramifications for hairdressers could be worse than first thought

The above wasnt the only article on women and head shaving that i found.

@Seelowbrown, honestly, where do people read this shit, no one I know think furlough lasts forever, did you see that in fb or something?? And who doesn't think long term about the ramifications of this???

Of course young people want parties and pubs and holidays back, but they aren't bloody stupid, they know they might be okay ish if they get the virus but they can pass it onto parents and grandparents, so they will stick to the lockdown if they have to.
They aren't enjoying this, no one is!!

If it wasnt for the the PPE fiasco there would be no need for a lot of the lockdown measures. I think thats the main reason the gov daren't lift lockdown, because they have failed to adequately protect NHS staff and no amount of crap about 'heroes' or weekly clapping can cover that up.

As far as going outdoors is concerned, they could easily scrap all the constrictions on that now, get all places opened up again and encourage people to go out if possible and as often as they like. If people want to drive to such places, or drive and meet friends outdoors that should be fine.

That poll asked asked people whether they wanted these things open NOW. I am not surprised at the low numbers that said yes but a lot can change in a couple of weeks especially if the government goes for a phased approach with the less risky things opening first giving people more confidence over time.

lynda I find your post rather patronising. I doubt people are worried about not working or to some degree socialising! Spending months without seeing beloved family, elderly parents etc will have a huge impact on most people. That is without talking about friendship networks, support groups, therapy of varying degrees, feeling locked up and trapped with no access to most of what makes life worth living. It is rather crass of you to suggest that this hardship should be straight forward.
It is life changing for most people in the most negative way.

Minimising others feelings on a thread that has many posts of people really struggling with their MH is dangerous. You are seemingly oblivious to the pain of others.

@bluebrian this has got to be government propaganda! Mumsnet reflects a completely different mood and I know no one in my wider family or circle of friends who are not DESPERATE for lockdown measures to ease/end, including myself.

@lynda07 we might not die from not seeing friends but the fall-out in terms of collateral deaths is HUGE! Have you not read about cancer patients whose treatments have been 'paused' - effectively handing them a death sentence? Do you not know that A&E attendances for suspected heart attacks and strokes are 50% down? Are you aware thar people are sitting on potential serious illness because they can't get appointments or are too scared to attend hospital because of this virus?? It's not just about 'not seeing your friends'

Good grief, Lynda, Devora, I hope the empathy bypass didn't hurt too much!

What words of comfort would you like to offer to those suffering terrible dental pain who are unable to access treatment until who knows when?Or cancer patients who have had their treatment put on hold for an indefinite time? Or people who risk suffering serious illness or death because they have been put off seeking treatment for anything that is not Covid? Or those who have suddenly, overnight, lost their income and face financial devastation? Or the kids who have had their exams cancelled and face massive uncertainty over the implications of that for their future? Or those women and children whose abusive family lives have now been made a hundred times worse?

So I suppose I don't feel that six weeks being together as a family, no real food shortages, is such a burden. There are no words. You're all right so we should all get over ourselves?

@Lynda07 I don't think those who are thinking of taking their own lives are doing so just because of "a few restrictions".

your toddler will be fine at home with you and your husband, like a lot of other children the same age

Were you addressing a specific poster with this? I, for one, have neither a husband nor a toddler. nor a job, nor any income, thanks to lockdown

TheOnlyLivingBoy. So true.
But nothing matters apart from Covid. The government has to keep down Covid deaths - albeit not making a great job of that either - because they are the ones being counted; and so many people are in such a disproportionate panic about this one cause of illness and death that it can only lead to blindness to anything else.

I don't think most people against lockdown are saying lift it completely, I'm not at all but as of Friday I am seeing my partner again in his home . This is a choice we have made.
Does that mean I agree with pubs and restaurants reopening? No, I don't as you can't social distance from strangers. But at some point we have to learn to live with the virus, it will not go away, furlough will not keep being extended and neither will mortgage holidays. The economy needs to kickstart and life saving operations and medical care need to continue once again and people need to be allowed to see their family

@iamapixie TheOnlyLivingBoy Completely true, apparently anyone suffering from any other medical issue just doesn't count right now. It seems unless it's Covid-19 a persons needed medical care is irrelevant. I'm assuming the people who think like this are the ones who don't need to worry....

well Lynda07 let me tell you what has changed in this house

I'm back on ADs because my MH has gone backwards, OH is now unemployed and the chances of him getting something else in the forseeable future is not looking good (he has epilepsy so has always been at a disadvantage in the job stakes) and my daughter and her partner may lose there flat because they can't advertise the spare room, since their flatmate left to shield with her parents. So excuse me if I'm not doing happy dances right now.

@iamapixie completely agree to that! There is tunnel vision at great cost to all else. It's immensely frustrating

Completely true, apparently anyone suffering from any other medical issue just doesn't count right now. It seems unless it's Covid-19 a persons needed medical care is irrelevant. I'm assuming the people who think like this are the ones who don't need to worry....
This

It's a really difficult one for me...

I'm absolutely terrified of when lockdown will be lifted/eased. It's become apparent that cases are still growing at an alarming rate but we are only classed as 'past the peak' because the NHS has capacity. To me however the fact that over 5000 people are still testing positive per day is worrying.

Has my MH suffered, absolutely, not seeing family and not being able to be out and about has been very very hard but on a deeper level my fear of catching the virus is greater.

The fact that this time next week we could all be allowed to go out and about is a major worry. I personally feel the government will have to give very very strong and accurate reasons as to why it is suddenly safe to go out. Look at Italy, they've only just had it eased slightly and it still isn't as liberal as the UKs.

I also find cancer patients a difficult one. When you have chemo your immune system is seriously 'damaged' realistically if you were to catch covid it's game over. Hospitals have been major hot spots and due to the nature of covid you wouldn't be able to tell people had it until the last min, meaning they could pass it on without even realising. As has been said it's not the flu (although that wouldn't be good either!) and it was a choice between pausing treatment or risk hundreds of cancer patients dying from exposure. Either way a terrible decision and I feel now that we have better access to testing we can go back to treatments etc.

Obviously this is all my opinion and I fully understand everyone is different but this is my take.

I feel much better reading this thread. I am sorry that loved ones are dying but having lost my parents and other relatives at a much younger age than I “should” have, I struggle with the being terrified sentiment. Cancer.

No one wants to lose a much loved grandad at 96 (for example) but we have all got to die sometime. It’s sad but not tragic. What is tragic is a friend loosing her daughter to a rare cancer age 5 (some years ago now).

Yes the virus can kill younger people but statistically it doesn’t.

This half life is not a life. I would rather take a risk and get back to normal.

And yes, I am thankful I have my health, my job, my house etc. I can’t say this in real life so it helps to say it on here.

This totally sums it up for me