I know IABU but I am totally fed up of lockdown

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So. I know I have an awful lot to be thankful for. My family are all in good health, we have no change in our income (yet), my husband is able to work from home, we have a big garden and had plenty of nice weather to enjoy it. There's just us two and our toddler in our house. We're a lot more fortunate than many.

But... I quite honestly don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm grieving our old life, missing my parents so much, and finding it SO HARD to keep my toddler occupied at home.

I just want to go back to normal 😭 and it doesn't look like there will be a "normal" for a while. It's all just so uncertain and indefinite. It feels like there is nothing to look forward to any more and every day is a chore.

Anyone want to offer some solidarity?

Back to the question. YANBU.

Same here. So fortunate but the novelty has gone this week and the reality is awful. Talking to people today and it seems this week has been the wall hitting week

YANBU. I'm sick of it too.

Struggling too. 10 week old baby, toddler and a shift working key worker husband. I'm so tired. Obviously can't see family who are my support network.. Nothing is bringing me joy right now; I feel awful. Genuinely feel on the cusp of a breakdown.

I am so bored and over lock down. I work in the NHS (and remarkably still love my job!) so I know how necessary it is. I would never break it other than work, food shopping and a daily walk with the small people but I hate being in my house. I'm really so lucky we've all got our health, steady income as both myself and hubby still working and a lovely house and garden. However, the kids are used to being out 5/6 days a week, the 7 year old hates home schooling and is constantly sad/angry/emotional and verbally lashing out, and the 3 year old is picking up on his behaviour and developing her own mischief. I know I'm so much luckier than others just now, I really do, but I miss my family and friends so much. I want to hug my twin and her babies, I want to have a cuppa with my bestie. I don't want to sit at home terrified of bringing this virus into my home and hurting my kids and hubby, but still get up and go to work because that's just what you've got to do right now.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel. It seems like a very long, dark tunnel but there's a tiny speck at the end. If we can all hold on a bit longer, we can all be together again. The sun will be blinding when we reach it. Hang on in there people xx

Dinosaur really hope you are okay. You can call the Samaritans if things that bad? Are there any friends you can have a good cry with over the phone. Sending (virtual) hugs and hoping things get better xx

I see a lot of people on here struggling with mental health. I work in mental health services and we are all still working. Yes face to face contacts are limited, but still happening, as is phone/ teleconferencing too. Basically if you need help please get in contact.

Not wanting to derail a thread that I think has been helpful, but it is interesting that suddenly, after quite a number of supportive pages, there was a bit of a capital-letter 'ffs stay home' pile-in. I wonder why that happens.
The OP was not moaning - she said she felt she was BU. There is no evidence anywhere on this thread that people are not complying. People have to be allowed to ask questions and seek support. It is not a simple issue and it is not, for many of us, simply about being a bit bored.

I am thoroughly fed up listening to the screeching children next door please, please get them back to school. The children are getting more feral by the day..

I think I can manage to 7th May but that's it.
As we will need to live with this disease going forward its time that we start. We have testing. The app is coming. We have lots of hospital beds and many wonderful doctors and nurses etc. However we are causing a major societal breakdown if we keep up the suppression which will wreak much more havoc than the pandemic

@Dinosauratemydaffodils

I am so sorry to hear this and I think I remember you from a previous post recently. Do you have any local support, good GP, mental health services ( NHS or private) or even calling Samaritans to help you? There is support out there ( it may not feel like it) so I hope that you can find some help from friends, family or a professional service. Feel free to PM if you'd like.

Me
Working FT and homeschooling plus a pre schooler is literally breaking me
I have a full on role linked to a key work category and we are at peak.
I am averaging 4 hours sleep just to get everyone fed animals walked work done and food stuff washed up
Never felt lower

I'm just relieved to hear you all speak openly. I'm dying a little bit inside each day and am worried about the mental health and development of my 4yr old DS, we've no garden, small flat, I have health issues and am totally exhausted trying to keep him entertained each day as well as everything else, we're a nation of prisoners in our own homes with no sentence length, just ongoing

Winging that sounds really tough too. Can you let the homeschooling go for now? I have had to with my two - trying to do that and juggle work and domestic stuff too much. As long as they are reading a little think it’s fine. Mine have been playing games etc. Think sleep is the priority now to stay healthy.

Yes. Thoroughly fed up with it. It wouldn’t be so bad if I could muster motivation to do things, but I just can’t seem to do that.
I live alone and am so, so bored!

LittleGsmum

The Sopranos now that is a great binge watch!!

I don’t think Tony would enjoy the lockdown!!

I really sympathize. I think a lot of people are hitting the wall with lockdown. It's also starting to really hit that this is going to be longer. It's crap.

None of us asked for this, none of us caused it, but we are all having to suck it up.

For some people that's massive - huge health risks, death, grief, misery, unemployment, poverty.

For others it's stress at work, inconvenience, reduction of income, loss of freedom, loss of holidays.

Some people only have cabin fever, securing food supplies, extra time with immediate family and home schooling to contend with.

But knowing other people are worse off still doesn't make it fun. No-one I know is absolutely loving this. It's hard, it's an adjustment, it's not what any of us chose.

I'm glad for this thread because although I'm trying to make the best of it, it's still crap, and I still have moments of misery.

“ it is interesting that suddenly, after quite a number of supportive pages, there was a bit of a capital-letter 'ffs stay home' pile-in. I wonder why that happens.”

Indeed. And they don’t even try to bring in a bit of nuance. It’s like it’s programmed

Restrictions will be lifted gradually! There will be no return to normal for a longtime. Quite honestly I think it will be a new normal anyway

We all hit a wall of it sometimes. Feel the feelings, let them go and move forward one day at a time

Completely fed up, furloughed with no clear end in sight. So worried about life after furlough and what that looks like both financially and beyond. Also feeling completely brain dead, I’ve gone from spinning too many plates and being in quite a high pressured job to looking after a 2 year old all day every day (DH is still working full time) and honestly, I feel like I’m failing at it. The only thing I have to do each day and I feel absolutely terrible at it.

I think it's understandable to be feeling like this...I think most people are even if you have a house, garden and income it's still a very surreal anxiety inducing time. Worrying about not getting within 2 meters of other people while out exercising or shopping, worrying about friends and family's health, awful news every day about deaths etc and not being able to see friends and family and meet up....It's tough..but the only good thing that might come out of this is we won't take so much for granted ever again...I know wont. 😊

“ Restrictions will be lifted gradually!”

Everyone knows this, thanks for your input.

From my POV some restrictions are harder to live with than others. I want to see my mum. I can live without pubs and restaurants etc being open. So gradual easing is fine as long as we aren’t treated like children who can’t be trusted with information, and the restrictions that people find toughest Such as seeing family and friends being considered earlier

I am with you. I’m a single parent who works from home anyway, 2 kid’s to home school alongside a full time job. Haven’t seen my boyfriend since before this kicked off. My friend died 2 weeks ago and obviously funerals are close family only, everyone else is driving there to sit in cars and I can’t because I can’t take the kids. I am done :-(

I don't think that's unreasonable at all

If you're sociable and used to freedom and doing pretty much what you wish within the law, this sucks

I thought my teen was doing OK but yesterday she got really quite upset and said she is actually so sick of it all she misses school and that's literally unheard of

I don't think the change in weather has helped. Everything seems darker and greyer as we are literally stuck in now as it's been pouring here.

Hmm I can see that helping