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I know IABU but I am totally fed up of lockdown

802 replies

detachablehoof · 28/04/2020 00:18

So. I know I have an awful lot to be thankful for. My family are all in good health, we have no change in our income (yet), my husband is able to work from home, we have a big garden and had plenty of nice weather to enjoy it. There's just us two and our toddler in our house. We're a lot more fortunate than many.

But... I quite honestly don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm grieving our old life, missing my parents so much, and finding it SO HARD to keep my toddler occupied at home.

I just want to go back to normal 😭 and it doesn't look like there will be a "normal" for a while. It's all just so uncertain and indefinite. It feels like there is nothing to look forward to any more and every day is a chore.

Anyone want to offer some solidarity?

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LilacTree1 · 28/04/2020 16:45

"Things will turn , but we're gonna have to live alongside the virus until there is a vaccine. That is the truth and it's hard as I know I don't want to hear it (let alone tell anyone on here! )"

I don't care about the virus. What I care about is food on the table and future rights.

In terms of all those things people mention wanting to do - I can't normally afford to do them but I hate that people are losing the ability to pay bills because of a virus that kills a tiny percentage of the population. I hate that children are having panic attacks and unable to do normal things.

who knew hysteria could spread like this?

LilacTree1 · 28/04/2020 16:46

It's come as a real shock to me how many people thought they were immortal. They are idiots with no resilience.

TinySleepThief · 28/04/2020 16:53

I've found my people. I'm on maternity leave and I swear to Lucifer if one more person tells me how lucky I am to be able to stay safely at home with my baby I may honestly explode!

Im not lucky. I'm worried sick about my key worker husband. I'm hating that I cannot physically see my sister and my mum or my friends and I'm bored shitless of everyday being the same.

I wake up each morning and the whole purpose of my day is to make it through to bedtime without crying. Some days are easier than others but sometimes the monotony drives me to tears. Sad

ScreamingKid · 28/04/2020 16:57

I forgot to say financial stability as well seeing as my husband will very likely lose his job of this goes on much longer. This is not a longterm solution .

PhilCornwall1 · 28/04/2020 16:59

They've warned us life don't return to normal. You won't be going to the hairdresser, Your kids won't be going back to school before September, clubs don't restart. No summer fetes, no concerts, no sports

Funnily enough, I think everyone on this thread realises that it won't be a line in the sand and it will go back to as it was, but that isn't the point of this thread.

People are expressing a specific opinion and to be honest this thread is by far the best I have read since this all started.

It's perfectly ok for people to come on here and say the lockdown isn't ok and they are fed up and struggling. As of yesterday I started to really struggle mentally and it shook me. That may sound dramatic, but it isn't if you consider I live day to day with a nasty health condition and have never felt like this in 48 years.

It really is ok to be pissed off with this and say so, it's not unreasonable, we are only human.

angelsonbareskin · 28/04/2020 17:00

"who knew hysteria could spread like this?"

Absolutely.

The question is when are we going to start asking for our rights back?? Because it seems that for the foreseeable the vast majority are quite happy to settle for this 'life'.

IvinghoeBeacon · 28/04/2020 17:07

“ I'm on maternity leave and I swear to Lucifer if one more person tells me how lucky I am to be able to stay safely at home with my baby I may honestly explode!”

I’m on maternity leave with a toddler and a newborn and a key worker husband. My frustration is with the “you’re just being asked to sit on your arse and binge watch Netflix”. No, that is not what parents of small children are being asked to do

Sunshinegirl82 · 28/04/2020 17:16

I’ve got an almost 4 year old and an 11 month old and everyday is relentless. My 3 year old is bored out of his mind and obviously doesn’t understand why everything is closed.

I get annoyed with the “so many people who don’t want to look after their children!” brigade. I adore my children but this is not normal parenting. No visits to the swings, swim club, soft play, play dates etc etc. Containing the DC inside the house and garden 24 hours a day, 7 days a week is not normal.

I think I would feel more able to deal with it if they at least told us what they were aiming for. They need new cases to be down, I get that. But how far down?! 1000 cases a day? 500? 100? 10?

At the moment it feels like they just keep telling you to roll a boulder up a hill with no indication of when we might get to the top of the hill (or if the top of the hill even exists!)

TinySleepThief · 28/04/2020 17:19

My frustration is with the “you’re just being asked to sit on your arse and binge watch Netflix”. No, that is not what parents of small children are being asked to do

Exactly what they have actually asked me to do is lock myself away from any family support or help and restrict myself from going to groups (which were starting to make me feel sane). Whilst simultaneously watching my family miss out on spending time with their first grandchild.

I've lost count of the amount of people who have helpfully told me the groups are pointless for babies and that their favourite memory of their babies first years was snuggling on the sofa. They all seem to miss the massive elephant in the room that they had a choice in how they spent their time and I don't.

RunningNinja79 · 28/04/2020 17:23

Im OK today, but there are days when I'm not.

I WFH, have a DH at home to help with the DCs schooling. Our incoming money has stayed the same yet our spends have gone right down (mainly due to fuel - monthly I would spend about £200-£250 on petrol, I spent £25 after filling the car up 4 weeks prior). I really should never feel sad or down about this, but I am.

I'm obsessed. Constantly checking the news and trying to read between the lines to decifer if there is any let up soon. I dont even know why I only want 2 things right now. The DCs back to school (before anyone jumps down my throat saying I dont love them etc, they are bored, they are fed up of each other, they need a break from each other, they are missing their friends, DS - in year 10 - is struggling with his work) and to visit family who live over 50 miles away.

I certainly dont want to go back to the office.

The problem is we have nothing to look forward to. We need some proper hope. Not just being told there is light at the end of the tunnel as with the last review. I can't see the light TBH. Once there is more of a plan in place that we can be aware of then we have something to look forward to.

The things I usually look forward to is Christmas (too far away), holidays (like Butlins in June or France in August are going to happen) and races/parkrun (will be very lucky to see either of these in 2020) and right now I have nothing else. I am just plodding along.

GoldenOmber · 28/04/2020 17:25

At the moment it feels like they just keep telling you to roll a boulder up a hill with no indication of when we might get to the top of the hill (or if the top of the hill even exists!)

Yes! We all know that things aren't going to snap back to normal in the short term (we do, glum dementors, we really do), but God give us SOME hope right now. I will put up with this for weeks if I know it's heading towards life resuming with a sound structure for testing and contact tracing but it's bloody hard to keep trudging on when all we get is "it isn't appropriate to talk about exit plans right now."

Brownyblonde · 28/04/2020 18:22

**virus that kills a tiny percentage of the population. I think this is what a vast majority of people are forgetting. Only a very small percentage of people will die from this who contract it (most of those poor folk would have been taken by flu or similar) we're paying a heck of a price to protect that small percentage and I'm not just talking about 'staying in'

Brownyblonde · 28/04/2020 18:22

Oh why can't I do bloody bold!

Brownyblonde · 28/04/2020 18:23

**bold

Brownyblonde · 28/04/2020 18:23

Nope can't do it!

disorganisedsecretsquirrel · 28/04/2020 18:29

I am interested to know how many of you will start to ignore the government rules and advice because of the boredom factor ?

Have any of you been out for anything but essential stuff in the last 6 weeks ?

No judgement. Just pure interest.

IvinghoeBeacon · 28/04/2020 18:31

You start, disorganisedsecretsquirrel. No judgement. Just pure interest :)

IvinghoeBeacon · 28/04/2020 18:32

Your judgement is already clear by saying “boredom factor” btw - and I’m not letting you get away with that one

Mikki2019 · 28/04/2020 18:34

I think they will relax a lot of the rules at the next review

All the people who are desperate for it to continue - they can stay in as long as they like , nobody is going to force them out

Brownyblonde · 28/04/2020 18:35

Yep will be flouting I reckon

Mikki2019 · 28/04/2020 18:37

@disorganisedsecretsquirrel not boredom , I am a single mum of 3 working full time from home , away from my partner and support network (mum / friends / sister )

disorganisedsecretsquirrel · 28/04/2020 18:42

I have no problem saying. It's a definite no from me.

That is because a 41 year old neighbour with 3 under 10s and no underlying health conditions died a couple of weeks ago after a 3 week battle on a ventilator.

Until then this hadn't t affected me.. and had that not happened I would probably be rebelling by now.

As it is, I am prepared to stay as I am as long as no more little kids lose parents .

Mascotte · 28/04/2020 18:46

@ disorganised They will lose parents through undiagnosed conditions, mental health and domestic abuse.

The actual death rate is very low. It’s sad when people die. But it shouldn’t affect the whole of society disproportionately for one disease.

Spidey66 · 28/04/2020 18:46

And another.

I'm a CPN, working part time and part time at home. It's likely that I will be working fulltime (well 30 hours which is my contracted hours.). I usually offer routine out patient assessments but these are cut back, so I'm redeployed to do the depot clinic. Which I'm fine with, I quite enjoy it. I have to go to patient homes to administer the depots. The PPE is basic, but it's not like working in respiratory care or ICU. However you can't socially distance when you're in a small council flat administering an injection.

I'm not looking for clapping or free coffees or to jump a supermarket queue. What I would love though is to sit in a beer garden with a couple of mates and a glass of wine, or a weekend away to a nice hotel with my husband and the dog, or even (gasp) a holiday. Even looking round the shops would be nice. But all I can see for the foreseeable future is work, home, and venturing out only to buy essentials or take the dog for a walk to the park. Its like being in prison. No choice, no treats, nothing to look forward to, exckept maybe catching covid19 from a patient.

TinySleepThief · 28/04/2020 18:49

As it is, I am prepared to stay as I am as long as no more little kids lose parents

The trouble is this is too simplistic it doesn't take into account that many will lose their parents because they will take their own lives due to depression, debt, loss of their job, businesses being closed down and that's not accounting for those who are in difficult domestic situations etc. You have to weigh up both sides of the argument.