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Do you think we’ll be able to see close family soon?

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Daybyday89 · 22/04/2020 21:57

I don’t care about anything else! I just want to see my family. I know probably everyone wants this but I’m really hoping when they review restrictions 7th May they’ll look at us possibly being able to see close family. What do you think?

I know nobody knows for definite and everyone is probably sick and tired of seeing threads like this but just a glimmer of hope and positivity right nowSad I need it.

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Sennetti · 22/04/2020 22:54

10 people!?!! Seriously?

Then expect round 2 to hit quicker

Isadora2007 · 22/04/2020 22:55

Maybe they’d relax the rules for local contact- as you’re not significantly increasing the risk if you stay within a given location surely... all the people going round the local supermarkets are mixing anyway. I see no difference being 2m away from my sister in the garden than being 1-2m away from a random at Asda. Whereas if people from a busy city with higher exposure to covid start to travel to smaller towns to see family... increase the risk surely?
I’m lucky that most of my family are close by- but not all.

nex18 · 22/04/2020 22:55

I was thinking 2 families of 5!

cherrybunx0 · 22/04/2020 22:55

@Sennetti what is up with your negative posts?

OneMomentInHistory · 22/04/2020 22:56

I suspect this is one of the early things which will be allowed, because as soon as there is any relaxation of the rules then people will visit their immediate (and geographically close) families anyway. So the sensible thing is to allow for that by making it within the rules. If that's not 7 May it'll be end May - but frankly more and more people will start to visit family through May anyway.

SpillTheTeaa · 22/04/2020 23:03

I hope so. I can't wait to see my mum and dad. I miss them so much.

BuffaloCauliflower · 22/04/2020 23:04

@Sennetti is it consistently? I’m sure less than 20 CV deaths in the UK have been people under 45?

Laniakea · 22/04/2020 23:07

This is quite a useful graphic wrt to the ages of ppl who have died from covid in England & Wales

Do you think we’ll be able to see close family soon?
AgeLikeWine · 22/04/2020 23:29

That’s an excellent chart @Laniakea. Every death is a tragedy, of course, but the number of deaths among healthy people under 50 is absolutely tiny in the context of a population of 66 million, so we should keep this in a rational perspective.

That doesn’t alter the fact that Covid is very dangerous indeed to people over 70 who are already in poor health. Sadly for them & their families, they will need to continue to self-isolate for the foreseeable future Sad.

HeresMe · 22/04/2020 23:35

At the next lockdown review it will have been over 6 weeks, I think the people who have been obeying the rules will start to get a bit weary if there is no end in site and will visit anyway if the relatives aren't in a vunrable group.

bedtimebrew · 22/04/2020 23:45

@BuffaloCauliflower - is that right? Where did you get that info (said with kindness, not as a challenge)

Have other counties allowed family contact yet? I miss my mum but then she's also works on the wards in the NHS so is more much likely to infect us than we are to infect her (we haven't left the house at all in 4 weeks)

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Daybyday89 · 22/04/2020 23:46

Thanks for everyone’s responses.

And thanks for the chart @Laniakea

I’ve just been doing some research on the death statistics for age groups. It appears overall there is 0.5-1% death rate overall for covid-19 but substantially lower for those under 70 with no underlying health problems. I agree with a few pp’s who have said people will just start seeing family who aren’t in the high risk category anyway.

By the way, I’m happy to stand corrected if my figures above are incorrect but its what I found online.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/amp/health-51674743

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Daybyday89 · 22/04/2020 23:47

But I’m really hoping we will be able to see family soon! I’m craving the tiniest bit of normality right now. I think I can cope until end of May!

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Daffodil101 · 22/04/2020 23:48

What about allowing kids to see their friends?

bluebeck · 22/04/2020 23:52

To be honest I think it will be another three weeks after this lot, but as you said, none of us really knows!

Can you not facetime/Skype in the meantime?

ImaPinkToothbrush · 22/04/2020 23:54

Are people not already visiting their parents from a distance? When I drop food off for mine, I stand as far away as possible from them and we have a chat.

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Daybyday89 · 22/04/2020 23:57

@bluebeck
Yes we FaceTime everyday but it’s not the same. Plus, I’ve just had a baby and it would be nice for them to properly spend some time with her.

@ImaPinkToothbrush
I’m sure there is people out there doing that but I haven’t been.

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Daybyday89 · 22/04/2020 23:59

@Daffodil101
There’s that tooSad bless them.

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blossomwilloughby · 23/04/2020 00:00

What do you mean by "close" family? Those who live locally or parents, children, siblings regardless of where they live?
I think it would be problematic if you could travel 10 minutes/10 miles/1hr/100 miles to see relatives but not let everyone see their relatives.
I feel we'd be fairly safe if we travelled the 5 hrs to my parents or the 4 hrs to my in laws as they have been at home for the however many weeks, so have we and so have our siblings and none of us any underlying health conditions. We could be a self contained group of 8 - 10.
Where it gets complicated is where people have numerous siblings with children and in laws and then the in laws meet up with their in laws or their are blended families and step siblings and suddenly you going around to see your mum, brother, sister and neices/nephews has exposed 100+ people

U2HasTheEdge · 23/04/2020 00:09

I think more people will just visit family and stay in the garden etc if this carries on much longer, and I wouldn't blame them.

People definitely seem to be assessing risk themselves now.

Peppafrig · 23/04/2020 00:10

Can people not see a difference to passing a random in ASDA to having a family member in their back garden. You don't spend hours with the stranger for a start you literally just pass them . You have family in your garden you will be less likely to keep to 2 meters , they will have a drink , they will use your toilet.

Bluebelle24 · 23/04/2020 00:27

Similar position here @Wakemeuuuup but seeing my family involves a transatlantic flight. I’ve broken down a few times at the thought of not seeing my parents again. I think I’ll really struggle to cope when everyone else goes back to normal after they’ve only spent a couple months from their families, and I will have much longer to go.

alwayshappy93 · 23/04/2020 01:12

Honestly one of the best things about this lockdown is not having to see my in-laws. I could happily go on like this all year

user764329056 · 23/04/2020 01:15

I too think people will start doing their own thing if this lockdown is extended

Easilyanxious · 23/04/2020 01:17

I was hoping this may be lifted next seeing family or friends but maybe just small groups and social distancing as much as possible still
And maybe even not being allowed to travel far and obviously not shielded or vulnerable people and symptom free of course
I thought I read one country somewhere was allowing gatherings of 10 ? But could be getting mixed up

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