The positive mental health thread part 6

[Bunnyflop]

Morning all! Welcome to the new thread!

Arcadia - make sure you plan the mint in pots not the ground or it will take over your garden.

Yep we will @ExpletiveDelighted they will run rampant otherwise

Those tea things look lovely @Millie2013! Beautiful presentation!

I'm in the queue for Homebase myself now

Haha, the idea of a flour dealer made me laugh Spudlet!

Those afternoon teas look amazing! Such a nice idea.

Saw this today and thought it was appropriate for this thread.

Hello everyone hope everyone is ok today. I've been feeling much more encouraged by recent news. We watched the briefing with Jenny Harries and we both agreed that she was far less doom and gloom in her presentation than Chris Whitty - we felt she should do it all the time.

DH wanted to take the car out as well today as we haven't moved it since lockdown so we had a nice drive along the country lanes and barely saw another car, although lots of cyclists. We both agreed that it was lovely to get out and just feel free for half hour or so.

@Callybrid It’s crazy! She posted on the village Facebook group yesterday evening and had sold out by this morning

I had the bag of precious contraband hidden in my bike basket on the way home... but most importantly, it worked! 2/5s white flour and 3/5s wholemeal rose beautifully and didn’t sink - I can’t wait to have a couple of slices toasted for breakfast tomorrow It’s genuinely going to be one of the highlights of my day

Agggh last night I accidentally closed all tabs and lost this. Just had to log back in and find this via all the scarey threads!!

@Millie2013 your scone teas looked yummy - well impressive. So nice of you to deliver them around. Lovely.

I’m having an anxious day for no reason at all. Am fed up of reminding dh and x 2 ds’s to wash their hands, dispose of packaging being delivered, use a bloody tissue not sneeze all over my living room ( hay fever) nobody seems to be listening which isn’t helping.... I’m struggling today to keep a lid on my anxiety that the bloody vile thing is everywhere. Have achieved sod all today.
I’m going to cook a nice roast dinner now to cheer me up. I’d like to make a marmalade cake too but only 1 egg left 🥺

Well done @Millie2013 , that's also good to hear about the nurses.

Spudlet more examples of things that enliven our days that we wouldn't normally notice! Last night I was feeling very jolly and skittish! I couldn't work out why I had a slight adrenaline rush. Then I realised it was the after effects of unexpectedly getting a supermarket delivery slot about an hour earlier. My usual sure fire technique had been failing so far this week!

Hi all hope everyone had a good weekend. I've had a lovely one actually. One more week of furlough then back to work a week tomorrow! Kind of ready for it now.

Does anyone else have a nagging feeling of having forgotten to do something or having forgotten someone?
I feel like there is someone I have forgotten to contact, not necessarily someone in need but a part of my life that has been forgotten somehow.
I also feel like I haven't done something important.
Maybe it's just part of the disorientation, and a bit of returning to work anxiety subconsciously?

Arcadia thank you for mentioning Homebase today, I was at work when I saw your post, about 10 miles from home but finishing at 2 and there is a Homebase nearby so I popped in when I had finished work. Bought the paint we need for the kitchen, some compost and a few other bits and bobs.

Benji - sorry the anxiety got to you today, when mine flares up I get stressed by my family failing to live up to what I think is essential in terms of hygiene, its hard.

It's funny you should ask that Arcadia. My dsis was saying that exact same thing to me today on the phone!

Unsure if appropriate thread to ask this. But has anyone experienced some difficulty with regard to dysfunctional relationships usually kept to low or even NC terms ? On one hand is the being so starkly faced with our own on others mortality. And the time for reflection this situation brings. On the other, is the fear of getting wrapped up in that drama, fooled, hurt, and even just the accompanying headspace of the issues you had/ have there. Things have changed

@tobee interesting, I'm sure it's something like our brain trying to normalise things?

I'm not alone as such but feeling the lack of wider family, friends and colleagues. This article is quite helpful www.vice.com/enca/article/n7jap8/allostatic-load-is-the-reason-you-feel-anxious-stressed-from-isolation?utmcampaign=sharebutton

@ExpletiveDelighted glad you managed to get to Homebase!

Funny you talk about a sense of forgetting things Arcadia... I woke this morning from a dream where I’d forgotten to pick up all my DCs. Was happily having a chat about sports kit and checking listings in a paper that said everything was cancelled due to Coronavirus and then I suddenly realised I couldn’t remember where the children were or when their clubs finished, and then as I ran along trying to find my house to check if the 4yo was there, the landscape kept shifting - was first Harrods in Knightsbridge, then a dirty city street, then open green fields - and my feet wouldn’t move properly, so I woke up before I ever found my house...

@changemind not me personally but this came up on one of our earlier threads with a couple of regular posters having an issue with this.

changemind, I think the thing to remember is "Things have changed" as you say, but on the whole people haven't, so someone who was a drama llama who wrecked your life last year or the year before is unlikely to have stopped being a drama llama and is still likely to wreck your life. And at the moment it would be difficult to get away again if contacting them did turn out to be a mistake.

I hope this thread continues when lockdown is lifted. I am finding it helpful to read through. I am very anxious about going back to work (because of a bullying discriminatory team of managers) and worrying about how coronavirus has reduced the number of alternative jobs I could apply for. Its nice to come on here and get some distractions.

I am trying to focus on the fact that at least I still have a job when many don't and that my family are all still healthy when others aren't. I've been binge watching shows on netflix to keep me busy and doing some free online learning. DD has been busy home schooling and baking. Thank goodness she's 12 and not 6. That would be more difficult for us both!

@nuttymomma I can highly recommend ‘Everything Isn’t Terrible’ by Kathleen Smith. I’m reading it at the moment and it has a section on both dealing with managers and job hunting and how to act from principles rather than reacting due to anxiety.

I’m also job hunting, although haven’t applied for anything since lockdown. It’s helping me get more of a coherent plan instead of just acting out of panic/trying to do what might impress others etc.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.aljazeera.com/amp/news/2020/05/italy-leads-europe-easing-coronavirus-lockdown-measures-200504101525868.html

Italy easing lockdown with many people back to work today, and children back to school in Germany now. Obviously people are anxious about what will happen when restrictions ease but I think this helps us see we might all be doing a bit more in a number of weeks too - fingers crossed...

I am in a bit of a low patch at the moment - just struggling for energy and finding it hard to enjoy things. Home school’s been a bit fight-y today so going to have a rethink for tomorrow - try and be a bit less controlling and have some more fun with it.

I thought with time. But perhaps it giving me a little mental health issue. Things you think you are over resurface. I wish everyone was normal.

@Bunnyflop are you ok? I haven't seen you on here for a while

Hey everyone!

I had another good day. I'm keeping busy with lovely things and the news just seems to be more positive. It's such a huge relief. I am finding it so much easier to put up with the isolation of lockdown seeing other countries coming out of theirs and knowing we aren't that far off. I think every week now things are going to move towards a point where we have fewer restrictions and it's so good deaths are dropping. I know the situation is still serious, it's just not as dreadful as it all felt weeks ago.

I hope you all have a good week.