What has this situation taught you?

[Bearbehind]

Mine are

• Individually, we’re each pretty insignificant
• A lot of day to day shit really doesn’t matter
• There’s somethings that are so far beyond our control it’s pretty much incomprehensible
• There's an awful lot of selfish fuckers out there who think rules don’t apply to them
• There’s an awful lot of people out there who put others before themselves and do what they can to help

That my job has taken over my life.
12 days at home and I have spoken to friends and family on the phone, planned meals & eaten healthier, spent hardly any money on 'stuff' ...
Feel calm for the first time in years.
and scared to death at the same time

That you can't always count on your nursing colleagues to help you out in a shit situation. But that your neighbours are absolutely bloody wonderful people.

That aeroplane sound is really annoying- it’s so peaceful now
That I really love my partner
I am relieved of social responsibilities and that’s nice.
I love staying home - it’s my ideal situation
I’m at my best in a crisis and not so great day-to-day
That my job has almost broken me and I live in a dump
I’m sadly not a great prepper

That all I need and want is my friends and family. And that the nicest things to do in the world is just to sit and drink tea with a friend, or potter round the house with family. Simple, free and utterly perfect.

How much I can actually save if I put my mind to it. Those costas, visits to the pub, clothes I don't actually need add up. Ok maybe don't need to be strict as this and I do need to get out and have a treat once in a while but it adds up

That I'm rather lonely as a single mum. I am envious of those with family in the same household all the time. I imagine them having a great time! I know that's not reality but still. That it's incredibly scary how fast things change. That I miss those small interactions with strangers. Shopping is now an ordeal! My home is not my refuge!

I have learnt

• Not to take the little things for granted

• That some of the little things that make me anxious really shouldn't and you only get one life, like really, we only get ONE life and it has really hit me now

• That although there are still selfish and horrible people in the world there are also more kind hearted amazing people than I thought imaginable

• that we are extremely lucky to have the NHS and the incredible bravery of the people that work in it, from Drs, nurses to the porters, lab staff, caterers and waitresses and cleaners.

• That we have wrecked the planet and have never deserved it but I hope if this virus is going to teach us anything, it is to appreciate what we have and make the world a better place. I'm so sorry that is at the expense of so many people and could be any of us at any time.

I'm a wreck. I hope I survive this because I genuinely, hand on my heart will stop taking things for granted and live life to the full. I usually hate social interaction but I want to run out and hug anyone and everyone.

How lazy I am
How much I eat when I'm bored
How I'm lucky to have a roof over my head and someone who can cheer me up

That, just as I already knew, I work for a crap company who don't care about their employees.
That I spend far too much time worrying about work at the expense of my family.
That DH and DC are good company and funny.
That we work as a family unit.
That I love my close friends.
That time off the whole treadmill of work is such a relief even if I do worry about money/the future.
That I miss my parents .

That once this is over I need to get out of the NHS for good

That I’m a crap mum and an even worse teacher

That my DH is a lovely man

That I eat so much sugary rubbish when I’m tired and stressed

That no amount of clapping and pedestalling changes the vulnerability of risking your life and your children loosing their mum (even if she is a bit crap)

But you are hot as fuck theworstwife.

My lack of cleaning is not due to lack of time
I'm quite happy alone
I have an endless capacity for watching Netflix
I really miss cake

I have to get outside every day, I need to be outdoors.

I don't need to shower that often

As a family we eat a lot of food

More tasks than what we think can be done from home.

I've learnt how amazing our health care workers are.

I've learnt how stupidly privileged we are.

I've learnt my kids are super resilient and that I am strong !

I've learnt how good it is to actually taste food and smell stuff (lost during having caught the virus presumably).

I've learned:

Being alone is great
Staying at home is cosy
Television and Netflix are marvellous
Where I live is where I want to stay
People who deliver goods are heroes
I can be useful to others at arms length

That older people don't matter in this society to a lot of the younger generation.

Being hopeful, this marks a downturn on the ever growing narcissism of social media selfies, influencers, boasting, selfishness and making money from being nothing but an idiot.

That I definitely married well
That saving money is very important
That I am a homebody
That my dcs really enjoy spending time with us.
That immigrants doctors, nurses,Carers etc have been propping up our NHS.
We are very privileged in this country.

That there are some really remarkable people out there
That all the jobs with ‘fancy’ titles don’t mean a damn thing during a pandemic.
That I can do more to help others

I've never had mental health issues until now. I didn't think I was the kind of person who got down. But turns out I am.

That as much as I used to moan about going to work, I kind of need the structure!

I never had a very busy or stressful life before (by choice), never went out after work and just went hiking at the weekends. but when thus is over I think I will try and be a bit more sociable and do more

To live slow
To spend less
That I'm actually able to cook
That I can actually do my own nails
That family and friends are the most important things that we have
That I should be GRATEFUL for everything in my life and complain WAY LESS

and maybe not, the messages are all I, I and I... what have 'I' lost.

so OP with quite a noble, empathetic post on your part, all of these answers still contain I and me and my; so depressing.

Rules definitely don't apply to many many people, my parents & brother included!!!!

How selfish people are.

How inconsiderate people are.

How scary this world is.

How precious life is.

That me and DH didn't see enough of each other before and that's why we weren't getting on.

I miss other human interaction.

That we really need to look at how we treat the world. My father had finally decided to make the connection and stop eating animals. Bat/lamb/chicken, there is no difference in their ability to suffer. We will not be locked up forever, but millions of animals will never see the light of day, we do not have the right to buy their bodies.

That judging others is far too easy when we're all under pressure

How wonderful my own home and where I live is and how bloody lucky I am

How lucky I am not to have "comorbid" conditions and just how many people are living with challenges that I was blind to

That my cat is far too important to me

Audible is a gift from the gods

Democracy is questionable given how utterly thick and selfish some people have shown themselves to be (but still better than the alternatives)

Feeling of greater connection with people long dead who lived through Plagues and war and social unrest

How wonderful nature is

How lucky I am.

@drivemybluecar

Absolutely agree. Sick with the thought of the unnecessary shit I've bought!