What has this situation taught you?

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Mine are

• Individually, we’re each pretty insignificant
• A lot of day to day shit really doesn’t matter
• There’s somethings that are so far beyond our control it’s pretty much incomprehensible
• There's an awful lot of selfish fuckers out there who think rules don’t apply to them
• There’s an awful lot of people out there who put others before themselves and do what they can to help

I may have already said this, TheJoyofBeingSingle, but I agree with you 100%. Being on my own is marvellous in this pandemic, I please myself what I do, eat, drink, sleep and when and nobody hassles me. We are the fortunate ones. Nothing smug about it, we're aware of the difficulties others face and are able to help out at arms length.

That I use my commute to decompress after a day's work and I need it.

How naive a lot of business owners are

That my house is not normally very clean

That putting all my effort into the next promotion to be able to earn more to be able to extend the house seems silly.

That I love being at home with my family and the days don’t drag just yet

That even if I have a full day with nothing planned I’m still not going to read all those books

That I miss seeing parents and wider family

The further into suburban north London I go the bigger the idiot factor seems to be getting.

Generally there are so many idiots

Hampstead heath is unbearable.

I love central london even more than i knew.

People like my wonderful friend who is a CCU nurse are amazing, she is SO humble and devoted and every second she is not working she feels guilty she should be. They give everything for us.

There are many people who are genuinely willing to help, even ones who you've never met. When we were all contaminated word got round and we got a list of phone numbers within hours of people we had never met offering help.

How important caffe nero is to me. It is my place of escape.

Living 24 hours a day with my husband and 17 year old son is like a form of torture. My son appears to hate me.

I may be come a chocolate eating alcoholic - I never previously partook in either!

Interesting, GlamGiraffe. I always had a yen for living in North London :-).

I don't suppose it's any worse there than in other parts. I live in the opposite direction and it's very quiet on my patch but I'm sure if I ventured out (which I don't), just a couple of miles I'd see more 'idiots'.

Just how very lucky I am, I have always wanted more, bigger, better etc and now realise it does not matter one bit.

Also how hard it is to lose weight/eat low carb without frequent trips to the supermarket

How fortunate we are:

• DH and I's jobs are secure for now.
• We have an allotment which is both a comfort now and will also hopefully give us some fresh fruit & vegetables later in the year
• We are still healthy
• We are together

that people only really care about key workers when they need them.

How amazing teachers are and how much over time i can physically do.

How disgusting some ppl really are who think that coughing or spitting at emergency workers is ever acceptable.

that i really love my brazilian juijitsu team and value their training

that i need to workout a minimum of 2 hours a day to destress

that i love spending what little time i have at home with my family

that my dogs are lazy fuckers abd basically sleep all. day unless walked

We must be eating vast amounts of calories outside the house because my shopping costs have doubled.

Online grocery shopping was saving me many hours a week. (Hours I can ill afford to lose now I still have to work FT and have no childcare.)

I got a lot more pleasure and comfort and interest from my random conversations with colleagues (and sometimes even strangers) than I knew.

The average ability (among my family and close friends as well as journalists etc.) to understand basic statistics or interpret data is surprisingly poor.

People who work in poorly paid service jobs can make those jobs heroic.

How small the world really is! How many little things I had been taking for granted.how life is precious and too short to put of doing things that you really want to do. That people really show their true colours in a crisis. To slow down and not stress so much about things that are out of my control. How amazing it is that my kids have adapted so well to this situation.

That we miss family and friends more then we thought we would.

Also that we need to be more prepared and have a store cupboard so that when this happens again I'm not so stressed about going out for food for my family.

That prepping is the way forward and I grateful for the brexit boards that taught me how to do it.

That I have no friends. In 3 weeks of being in isolation due to symptoms and then being shielded I have not heard from any of them.

That being a single parent is even harder when you have no time to yourself at all until they are asleep and then you're too tired to enjoy the peace.

That my children will eat a far wider range of foods then they'd have me believe.

That far too many people have very poor comprehension skills, no common sense, and are very selfish.

That many people have no resilience if they are struggling after being home for less than a week when they can still go out to shop and exercise.

That people like fluffy wuffy recovery stories and this affects the causes they support.

This explains why palliative care and the social care sector in general is so overlooked and under funded.

We need to address our national aversion to death because its contributing to many of the problems we are currently witnessing.

We need to address our national aversion to death because its contributing to many of the problems we are currently witnessing.

I agree. I've watched one grandparent suffer a horrible, slow (locked in) final few months and another have to fight with doctors to stop them from treating her when she was ready to die. Now watching a frightened and confused grandparent IL suffering through final stages of vascular dementia in a care home. Meanwhile I had to watch a friend in his late twenties die of cancer last year because the diagnosis came way too late and the treatment he needed was too expensive for the NHS to provide.

People are so gullible

People won’t accept death

Well, those things are a shock to me

The day to day quality of life stuff matters; I kind of knew that but now I know it more, if that makes sense.

People are stupid. I knew that, but not how really really stupid they are. All our progress must be driven by the top 0.1% of the population, the rest have just been along for the ride through history

People really can't cope with the concept of death

Maths is badly taught in our country

Another thing I’ve learned is that there’s far to many ghoulish, scaremongers out there who achieve nothing but making the situation worse.
Most of them on MN

Red on the money there again. The need for false hope with some people is nauseating, it’s far easier to accept what is happening and prepare yourself for all eventualities instead of burying your head in the sand.

Then again we are all different I suppose so who am I to judge. 😕

It is not scaremongering to talk about death and/or the possibility of death. Its just talking about death.

We should talk more about death rather than labeling talk of death as scaremongering.

Talking about death makes us better able to prevent deaths or to make deaths less traumatic.

But yes, "scaremongering"

It's funny how much language has been used in the past three years to try and stop discussions of difficult issues. It's a trend which has been used across the political spectrum and its one which is very troubling because it stops use confronting the hard questions in life.

Basically because some people don't wish to think about things because it upsets them.

Which is piss poor reasoning.

Some people are selfish bastards

Red “ We should talk more about death rather than labeling talk of death as scaremongering”

I used to be puzzled when people said this, but now I see how they panic about it, I understand.

I haven’t read the whole thread so apologies if this is s repeat of what someone else has said:

1. Lots of people want a police state or Stasi!
2. The nation doesn’t really care about mental health