Losing the will to live..

[Woman31]

Anyone else?!

My mental health is at breaking point. I can’t take painting with the youngest anymore, I can’t take trying to teach the older two anymore. I can’t listen to Dh playing the guitar anymore.

I want to go shopping. I want to go to a national trust property. I want to be free! 😩

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Not even slightly helpful when dealing with MH, otherwise no one in the west would ever suffer with their mental health.

Sometimes people just need their feelings validated, not to be told it could be so much worse.

TW distressing videos but theyre hidden. Even just reading the tweets is probably enough to make you realise how lucky we are
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Finding your post quite offensive. Many people today are fighting for life and you can’t cope with a healthy family living loudly. Suggest you grow up.

You clapped really enthusiastically at 8pm, didn't you.

@Pishposhpashy i suffer with MH and have for 30 years. I have PTSD, anxiety, agoraphobia. It helps me to think this way. It might not work for everyone, it was only a suggestion.

OP can you do anything nice just for you?
Bath in peace with a G and T
Read a book for an hour while DH has the kids
Go for a walk and sit on a bench watching the world go by.
Just something nice for you?

I think so many of us are struggling right now one way or another. It’s bloody hard

Mental health is so underplayed. This morning, severely autistic ds angrily kicked his bathwater across the room, listing all the sad characters he recognised from TV listing and one with the same name as his grandma because he's pissed off with it all, even though he doesn't understand what it is, and he's understood that he won't be seeing grandma at Easter.

Finding your post quite offensive, how insensitive. There are people out there who were already struggling with their mental health before this hit, who are now in a very dark place with (due to social distancing) even less support from friends, family and the NHS to boot (let's face it mental health care on the NHS has never been high priority but even less so now) , whilst also having the weight of homeschooling/being stuck in with their kids indefinitely on their shoulders. Just because others have it worse doesn't discount other people's struggles. Op, have you looked into online help? NHS are running online CBT courses for free in our area. My inbox is open too x

@Pishposhpashy although that’s irrelevant as OP didn’t say anything about having MH issues, just that she was sick of painting with the kids, teaching the others and listening to a guitar in isolation.
If they had said they had MH issues then maybe my suggestion would have been different.

Stop worrying about teaching kids and tell your husband to stop playing the guitar or you will shove it up his arse.

This obsession with teaching kids currently is mind blowing. Just shove the tv on and let that watch that. Mental health of everyone is far more importantz

Go shopping? Why

There are true MH issues and there are people who are bored, irritated, annoyed that they can no longer do what they want. The later is not MH issues, and people moaning about their frustration are trivialising the issue for those with real problems.

I'm not saying that is you OP, however so many people lack resilience, but coat it as MH problems.

Oh, so now existing MH issues need to be publicly declared to warrant a bit of sympathy and understanding being given. Was that a new law announced today that I missed?

Some of the posters on here need to take their smug sanctimony and shove it where the sun don't shine.

Almost nine months pregnant, husband still working, two under four at home, feeling scared, worried, quite down, tearful and slowly going insane.

The thought of this going on for another 60+ days and having a small baby at home as well is completely overwhelming to me. So no advice but I do understand how you are feeling.

I have BPD and shopping makes me happy. That’s sad I know. Even a mooch round asda makes me happy. I don’t even have to buy anything or spend anything.

My mental health isn’t good atm.

And my mum died a few years ago at 59. I’m
Fully aware there are worse things going on atm.

Tell DH he has to limit his practising or you’ll end up smacking him
Over the head with the goddamn thing!!

Limit ‘school time’ fir the older ones -use the tv babysitter.

Order some soapy bath paints for the youngest. Or some chalk if you have paving slabs -if you have a garden?!

Poor wine /nice cup of tea & float above it all.

There’s no need to wear your pants over your tights!! Dial down the expectations of yourself and get through it!

Maybe ask MN to change the title if your thread. It does come across as a bit insensitive (which I know wasn’t your intention)

Take care of yourself
🌷

I have traits of BPD, fully understand how you're feeling OP. Sometimes it all gets too much and you just need to have a break for yourself. Can you try leaving DH to keep an eye on the kids and even go in the bath or sit in the car, anything just to give you some time to just recharge? I try and listen to a funny podcast or read my kindle or to be honest just scroll my phone even, just something mindless so I can switch off! People don't understand how utterly exhausting it can be to live with a mental illness - unfortunately isn't just as simple as 'growing up'. I'm wfh at the moment but I usually have a Friday off to spend with my daughter and it's these days that I start feeling restless and impulsive and I am exactly the same, I will just go to the shops for a wander to occupy my mind (obviously not now) so it's really difficult when you suddenly can't. A little bit more empathy from some people wouldn't go amiss. Hope you feel better OP.

I think you choice of title is awful when so many people are dying and you are just fed up with it all. I understand it’s stretching most people’s mental health to the limit and beyond but that’s no excuse to be so uncaring.

Much as I love my kids dearly being cooped up with three under 4 and a half was a bloody nightmare.
Especially as the baby had special needs.
So I’m right there with you op.
We got a static caravan when the middle one was 6 weeks old. I think it saved our sanity. In 1981 there still wasn’t much doing in Sunday’s, add a cold , dark, wet winter Sunday into the mix and i was just about ready to be taken off in a straight jacket.
I used to get in the car and just sit for a couple of hours and gaze at the sea or read a book until my murderous tendencies had calmed.
Now you can’t even shove them in the car and take them to a park and swings for the day...it’s just rotten

Boo to anyone jumping on you like this.
I get. I get it totally.
By the time my baby was one I was in hospital with pneumonia as I was just too exhausted to eat or look after myself properly .
Try to get out every day for an hour on your own for a run , a walk, or just somewhere where you can sit and look at your phone without interruptions.

It’s inhumane what we are being out through and I sometimes doubt if these measures have just gone too far.

I had a 6 hour plane journey 15 days ago with another 300 strangers, having spent three hours in an airport so crowded people were practically hanging from the rafters..hardly anyone in masks...yet ive been fine. Surely if anything was going to happen that was there it was most likely..

Closing parks and council car parks and saying people can’t drive to recreational places and saying you can’t buy Easter eggs...
That’s just too crazy for me to get my head around.

This has only just started, with all due respect and in the nicest way possible, you need to get a grip. This is going to go on for months, you MUST mentally stabilise yourselves and get some grounding for your sanity.

If you have kids and responsibilities then unfortunately you have to deal with it, so suck it up and get a hold on this situation before it ruins yours and your kids lives. All those fluffy safe spaces we were so used to, our little kinks of indulgence have evaporated, the stark reality is that this is the new normal.

Please, I mean this from the bottom of my heart, relish the fact you are able to get up in the morning, relish the fact that you have the chance to do what is right and please accept this new reality. 👏🏼

I've had mental health problems and I cant think of anything much worse than browsing around a store in the middle of a virus pandemic. I cant wait to grab the damn bread and milk and get the heck out of there and keep the change thanks

What is this obsession with shopping and browsing anyway. Is it a form of addiction in itself. A type of mental illness. What the hell is wrong where there is a medical condition that requires daily trips out for chocolate or total mental collapse unless allowed to rifle through racks of clothes.

Seriously why do so many people now seem to suffer from this browsing related affliction?

Flax conditioning. Retailers want you to feel safe and secure browsing their wares in the expectation you might treat yourself.

conditioning. Retailers want you to feel safe and secure browsing their wares in the expectation you might treat yourself

Yes brain washing, to be blunt about it, plays a part I'm sure

Oh so that’s what we need to do! Just “get a grip!” How fantastically constructive! As I said before, the Coronavirus has bought out the absolute worst in MN, judgy, condescending, sanctimonious, unhelpful comments left right and centre. People reporting their neighbours for taking the dog on two walks. I don’t know what’s got into people.

Sorry you’re feeling this way, I totally understand how you’re feeling. Try and get a few minutes to yourself even if it’s a walk round the block, trust me it makes you feel so much better.

I almost had a panic attack last night thinking these are classic Aktion moves - shutting everything down and isolating us all.