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Losing the will to live..

54 replies

Woman31 · 02/04/2020 16:26

Anyone else?!

My mental health is at breaking point. I can’t take painting with the youngest anymore, I can’t take trying to teach the older two anymore. I can’t listen to Dh playing the guitar anymore.

I want to go shopping. I want to go to a national trust property. I want to be free! 😩

OP posts:
jenganinja · 02/04/2020 16:50

Can you go for a run or walk on your own? Have you asked your DH to take the kids for a few hours while you have a bath/read a book or something else that is time to yourself.

Monkeytapper · 02/04/2020 16:53

If you have a car, go sit in it for an hour on the driveway with a coffee for a bit of peace.

AnonAdvice · 02/04/2020 16:54

Nothing to add just to say it is okay to have a meltdown. Just remind yourself you are doing okay.

BMW6 · 02/04/2020 16:54

Hide the paints etc
Give the kids an early Easter break from school
Smash the guitar (or ask him to please stop playing as it's driving you mad)

PumpkinP · 02/04/2020 16:54

Yep, I’m a single parent and I can’t take my kids fighting and arguing anymore they are so bored they just now wind each other up and I am getting no peace from it.

Rupertpenrysmistress · 02/04/2020 17:00

I hear you I know the signs and they are creeping in. I am still working (frontline) DH WFH so cannot support the dc with homework so I do that on my days off, my DH has low immunity so that bi am also doing the shopping. I feel the walls closing I need some space.

Was thinking of going for a run but feel I shouldn't waste my one exercise a day on me but should take my dc out.

Nothing useful to add just some understanding.

jenganinja · 02/04/2020 17:00

Hide the paints Grin

How about telling DH your dcs would love him to play them some tunes on the guitar. Get yourself some earplugs and biscuits and go and sit in a room on your own. Wink

Harder for you Pumpkin how about more TV or a star chart where they get one for each day not fighting?

Vikingess · 02/04/2020 17:01

Finding your post quite offensive. Many people today are fighting for life and you can’t cope with a healthy family living loudly. Suggest you grow up.

jenganinja · 02/04/2020 17:02

Rupertpenrysmistress You should absolutely take time out for yourself and have a run. dcs can do Joe Wicks.

Anniegetyourgun · 02/04/2020 17:05

There's always someone worse off. Does that mean we have no right to complain unless and until we are that person in the very worst situation? Rubbish. Get an empathy implant. Join the human race.

Anniegetyourgun · 02/04/2020 17:06

That was to Vikingess if it wasn't apparent.

Original poster
Woman31 · 02/04/2020 17:14

Of course there are people worse off, but you could say that at any day of the year. Even if coronavirus wasn’t around ;)

OP posts:
mbosnz · 02/04/2020 17:19

Offensive? For saying they're finding things tough? Get a bloody grip.

OP, I've taken to hiding myself away for an hour or so in the afternoon, to read my book, bitch to myself and generally not be the lady in bloody waiting for the rest of the family, and that's maintaining my sanity.

Could you perhaps negotiate that DH takes over facilitating the painting and shuts the guitar the hell up for a period each day?

Krazykitty · 02/04/2020 17:29

@Vikingess I think you should grow up. You’re clearly a person with zero empathy.

OP I totally get you and you have my sympathies. Sorry not much help

anyoneforbingo · 02/04/2020 17:44

@Vikingess oh your such a good person being offended on behalf of those in worse circumstances HmmHmm

OP perhaps your DH could teach the kids guitar? While you're in another room! I like pp suggestion of sitting in car with a cuppa . I often sit in the car for ten minutes when I get home from work before going into the house. It's nice having proper me time just flicking through crap on my phone!

Sunshinegirl82 · 02/04/2020 18:45

I’m right there with you OP. I’m not built to be a full time stay at home parent, I have just done 11 months mat leave with DS2 and was really looking forward to getting a bit of my life back when I went back to work and DS2 started nursery. Now it’s all gone backwards and everything just gets harder and harder as the days go on. DS1 is bored out of his mind with no one to play with and misses nursery like crazy. He is nearly 4 and due to start school in September. I’m worried about what all this means for school and that the transition will be really hard for him if he never makes it back to nursery.

If this was going to be my life permanently I’m honestly not sure what I would do. I just keep telling myself it’s only temporary and that every day I get through is another day closer to the end of this. I can honestly say that this has had a bigger negative impact on my mental health than anything I’ve been through before and the last few years have had their challenges.

Solidarity and sympathy from me.

Original poster
Woman31 · 02/04/2020 20:24

Exactly the same here. Dd3 is bored out of her mind. Only so many little walks we can do around the same place away from everyone.

Iv never baked or ate so much. I can feel myself getting fatter but I’m eating because I’m bored and fed up 😩

OP posts:
formerbabe · 02/04/2020 20:28

Finding your post quite offensive. Many people today are fighting for life and you can’t cope with a healthy family living loudly. Suggest you grow up

Newsflash....in a world of seven billion people, there will always be people dying or starving or living on the streets. Doesn't mean anyone not in a life or death situation is meant to love every second of their life.

I'm struggling too op...Flowers

Duchessofblandings · 02/04/2020 20:29

I think a lot of people are placing very high expectations on themselves at the moment. The lengths some are going to to home school, for example are admirable, sure, but quite staggering. We all need to relax a bit. Let them play, do what makes the majority of the family happy. If that’s Netflix? Meh.

When this is over, allowances will be made in every walk of life, schoolchildren/
workers/pensioners and everyone in between won’t be expected to hit the ground running. Be a bit kinder to yourself.

SnoozyLou · 02/04/2020 21:44

Finding your post quite offensive. Many people today are fighting for life and you can’t cope with a healthy family living loudly. Suggest you grow up.

Considering the post before this one was from someone whose relative has just died, I agree with you.

Thoughts and prayers for your trials and tribulations finger painting with your own children, OP.

formerbabe · 02/04/2020 21:54

Nice thing to say to a woman who had said her mental health is at breaking point @snoozylou

Perhaps we should do away with all mental health services in this country on the basis that some people are dying?

Sunshinegirl82 · 02/04/2020 22:28

My Dad died 2 years ago at 71 from sepsis. That was obviously completely shit. I am still able to understand that people will struggle with all sorts of things and empathise with them. Or is nothing short of death worth any consideration now? I honestly think Coronavirus has brought out the absolute worst of MN.

definitelygc · 02/04/2020 22:38

Your mental health is just as important, if not more important, than your physical health. Don't let anyone tell you different. I say this as someone who has been affected by suicide and who dreads to think what impact coronavirus will have on suicide rates.

Pishposhpashy · 02/04/2020 22:38

Proof that MH will be collateral damage in this whole situation. So many people clearly think those with MH issues ought to just shut up and put up. Yes people are dying. They always have been. Some due to poor MH.

YouAreTheEggManIAmTheWalrus · 02/04/2020 22:55

Try looking at this from a different perspective. Look what’s happening in countries where the health care system has already collapsed (Ecuador for example) or countries where millions live in shanty towns with poor sanitation or refugee camps. Being able to isolate is a privilege not afforded to everyone. We are incredibly lucky and millions would give their right arm to be cooped up safely, even with noisy family members.

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