I'm only 58 and not at work, can I see my 6yr old grandson during this time ?

[Poliann]

Both my husband and I are not working due to the coronavirus and live on our own. We have not been working for 2wks and neither of us are showing any symptoms. My 6yr old grandson is an only child and is living with mum and dad who are also not working at the moment. Do you think it is ok to have him stay here for a few days ? I recently read that young children of divorced parents can go from home to home. None of us have any underlying health conditions. I know what stay at home means, I know what social distancing means so please don't be rude. I'm just missing him so much and as we don't come under the vulnerable age group I wanted some advice.

Let me ask you a question. Do you think it's ok for my niece and my nephews wife to put themselves and their families at risk by continuing to nurse during this emergency? If it was you or your grandchildren who were ill, would it be ok for these two women to continue to put all they old dear at risk to nurse you/your family? Do you?

Christ is there any need for such an unpleasant, patronising post? Read the fucking thread properly and you'll see the OP has taken the advice on board and won't be seeing her grandson.But never mind, have a pop at someone just to make yourself feel big and clever why don't you..

@Applejax I couldn’t have said it better.

@Appljaxx. I was not trying to be unpleasant or patronising. I'm a bit slow to type, may be don't see everyone's post while I'm posting, that does not mean I am trying to be hurtful, big or clever.

All I feel is frightened

These adults looking like they are about to burst into tears should get a grip.
It's not about them, they understand, the Grandchildren perhaps don't.
Seeing them could kill them.

My 8 year old dgs has been using WhatsApp, my 2 year old dgd keeps stealing it to ring me 🤣 it's shit but its how it has to be. My ds's are 9 and 7 and also missing their dns as the older one is their age

Why anyone needs to be so nasty I don’t know. This is a theme on most posts currently. No need

You know what, physical closeness with those we love is a basic human need. Show me any area of psychology that denies that.

We are allowed to feel bad about this and to wish it would end. Expressing sadness and wishing it was different are ok. What’s not ok is telling folk that they’re selfish dicks for feeling that way. We are all struggling and internalising that isn’t going to help.

Sorry, no. It sucks, but things arent safe atm. There's a chance one of you could have been infected when shopping, or going for a walk, or taking in a delivery. It's a small chance, but not one you should take. We are all stuck in the same shitty boat in afraid

Although, my two children spend half a week with me, and half a week with their father. That is two households and therefore entirely the same situation?

Glad to see you’ve acknowledged it OP, but just to add. No. It’s not worth the risk & the worst is yet to come. Please don’t.

I totally get where you are coming from OP, but you know it is for the best. It is great breaking, but the risks are too high. Life or death. That makes me stiffen my spine and get on with it.

But I so miss the cuddles and the smell of little boy 😟

No

No - but you might want to also enlighten my neighbour's who think having the gdc over to play is okay

No, but it is very understandable to want this and be sad

However, the govt said no mixing of households

No sorry. It's hard but the rules apply to everyone.

One nice idea I've seen is for GC to keep a cuddle chart - then every time they miss their grandparents (or anyone else) they add a cuddle to the chart - the idea is that when we can hug with abandon again they know how many cuddles they have to catch up on :-)

I'm 10 years older than you OP, and my grandson is 3 years younger than yours.
We are used to having him for a night or week-end about once a month and seeing him more often for family occasions.
We have had to stop all of that and it is heartbreaking.
I worry about the effect this is going to have on this whole generation of young children who can't really be expected to understand.
I really feel for you but we have to do it.

Thank you so much for all the understanding posts. I was having a weak moment and was just missing him so much. But of course your all right, we have to stay strong and follow the rules and get this thing gone. Thank you for your support it has helped a great deal ❤

Night, night, OP
Sleep tight 💐

My mum is in a similar position to you. Mine are a few years older. She is finding it so hard. She came to our house yesterday knocking on the window. Left loads of chocolate in the porch and blew kisses at the window. My kids were loving it. I got on the phone and told her off for going to the shop. Love her so much. I’d rather have her alive at the end of this all than eat a big box of maltesers and actually so would my kids as dizzy as they are at all the gifts.

we're very close as I looked after him from a tiny baby.

I'm in the same position. I was a primary carer. Saw my GC everyday, from the day they were born until just a week ago

You are all correct and I'll have to be stronger, it makes it easier knowing other grandparents are feeling exactly the same but thanks for the advice.

My mum's the same OP - my DSis has just had a baby, and she feels she's missing months of her early life. It's really difficult. Just tell yourself it's not forever and stay safe.

My DH has it. Believe me, you don't want to take any risks. Not a single one.