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I'm only 58 and not at work, can I see my 6yr old grandson during this time ?

72 replies

Poliann · 29/03/2020 19:44

Both my husband and I are not working due to the coronavirus and live on our own. We have not been working for 2wks and neither of us are showing any symptoms. My 6yr old grandson is an only child and is living with mum and dad who are also not working at the moment. Do you think it is ok to have him stay here for a few days ? I recently read that young children of divorced parents can go from home to home. None of us have any underlying health conditions. I know what stay at home means, I know what social distancing means so please don't be rude. I'm just missing him so much and as we don't come under the vulnerable age group I wanted some advice.

OP posts:
IHaveBrilloHair · 29/03/2020 19:54

No!
It's shit, we get it, I can't see my own daughter for 10 and a bit weeks at least, but rather that and she's alive at the end of it.

Standrewsschool · 29/03/2020 19:54

No, FaceTime him or use zoom to chat to him.

Cillmantain · 29/03/2020 19:54

No

Shinesweetfreedom · 29/03/2020 19:55

You said you know what stay at home means.
So why do the rules not apply to you.
You missing someone does not trump the NHS message
“We go to work for you,You stay home for us”

Original poster
Poliann · 29/03/2020 19:55

Thank you. I suppose in my heart I knew this was what people were going to say. I face timed him today and could see in his eyes he was upset seeing me, we're very close as I looked after him from a tiny baby. You are all correct and I'll have to be stronger, it makes it easier knowing other grandparents are feeling exactly the same but thanks for the advice.

OP posts:
Gran22 · 29/03/2020 19:56

None of our grandchildren live near. So we don't get to see them every week, sometimes not for a month or two, anyway. I'm just hoping that we all get through this strange time ok. Time then for big hugs.

SummerHouse · 29/03/2020 19:56

No. If both parents were front line key workers then yes for childcare rather than mix them in a bigger pot at school. That's the only exception I personally would make.

user1471453601 · 29/03/2020 19:57

Let me ask you a question. Do you think it's ok for my niece and my nephews wife to put themselves and their families at risk by continuing to nurse during this emergency? If it was you or your grandchildren who were ill, would it be ok for these two women to continue to put all they old dear at risk to nurse you/your family? Do you?

Justgivemesomepeace · 29/03/2020 19:58

No. Whats so hard to understand about 'you cant mix with other households'.
Sorry if i sound sharp but im so frustrated with this. Im constantly arguing with my 17yr old who cant seem to understand the rules either. ,

5zeds · 29/03/2020 20:01

It’s like mixing laundry. You’re whites, they’re bright reds and pinks. It doesn’t matter how small the little red sock is or how gently you wash ... he has the potential to turn your household pink.

Thefaceofboe · 29/03/2020 20:08

No.

crustycrab · 29/03/2020 20:10

No.

JustMySize · 29/03/2020 20:14

Use FB to have a video call, free and it works.

ViciousJackdaw · 29/03/2020 20:18

No. I don't care how cute his little face is, your wants do not trump the public interest.

Hopeisnotastrategy · 29/03/2020 20:19

NO.

EustaciaPieface · 29/03/2020 20:19

Of course not!

rootsonshow · 29/03/2020 20:21

I face time grand daughter every night with a little bedtime story, I know its hard to stay away but its just not worth the risk.

RobynSH · 29/03/2020 20:21

Nope

We're all in the same boat.

We've gone from daily contact with my parents to FaceTime only and me dropping shopping at their door and then stepping back so they can take it

To be honest the face time is a lot easier than seeing my mum in person but having to stay apart.

yesterdayhasgone · 29/03/2020 20:27

I feel exactly the same Op, I facetimed my grandson today, which is great but obviously not the same. I yearned to have a cuddle and feel his little arms go round me. It’s all just so surreal whats happening isn’t it. Look to the future Op, it won’t be forever please God.

organisedmother · 29/03/2020 20:32

Oh op I can imagine how sad this is for you, my children’s grandparents would do anything to see them and face time seems to be making it all worse and they look like there about to burst into tears! I’ve told my children we are having a big family holiday together as soon as all the germs have disappeared and this seems to keep there spirits up that we are having a holiday with nanny and grandad (probably Christmas holiday Smile) sending you hugs you will see them soon.

AnneTwackie · 29/03/2020 20:34

Each household is at risk so to see you would be doubling the risk for him and for all of you. Please stay strong.

Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady · 29/03/2020 20:36

No I'm sorry.

My son is an only child and missing his grandparents and cousins very very much.

Unfortunately it's still a no

LesLavandes · 29/03/2020 20:38

No

AgentCooper · 29/03/2020 20:39

@Poliann gentle hug for you. You could be my mum writing (except she’s 63 but still in brilliant health) and DS is two. She and my dad normally have him the three days I work. We went over all the ins and outs and decided it was best not to, just in case.

It’s so, so hard and I really feel for you. I’m going to be a sobbing wreck on the day my mum and dad get to cuddle DS again but that day will come. This is shit and you have my sympathy Flowers

Carrie7469 · 29/03/2020 20:44

No, definitely not

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