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The first suicide

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Autumn29876 · 27/03/2020 20:00

This is really sad.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/nationalfile.com/amp/uk-teenager-commits-suicide-over-coronavirus-self-isolation-fears/

OP posts:
Lynda07 · 27/03/2020 21:16

@2manybloodypets I am so, so sorry. Of course you matter, you're a living, breathing human being and when this world crisis is finally over, you will have a lot to offer others who have similar problems to yourself. For now, nurture yourself as much as you can, watch and listen to relaxing things and reach out to anyone who can help you, facebook has organisations and groups which may help.
Flowers

The news of that young woman is very tragic, I feel for her parents and siblings.

Unescorted · 27/03/2020 21:16

@2manybloodypets I care too.

Desperada1234 · 27/03/2020 21:16

I know posters suggesting the Samaritans mean well - but they can only listen. Which is fine, and good, and serves a very important purpose. In fact, the Samaritan I will always remember was the one who said: "I shouldn't say this, as we are only supposed to listen, but..." and then gave me some good advice. Which stopped me from taking my own life.

Corona will, as I have said under another name and on another thread, kill more people without symptoms than it will kill people with them. Yet our deaths will not be attributed to Corona. Even though the searing isolation that is imposed on us will have brought about our deaths.

MaxNormal · 27/03/2020 21:17

2manybloodypets thinking of you.

thereisfreedomwithin · 27/03/2020 21:18

Flowers Desperada1234
Also rueful smile about the I’m listening thing...

Sweeetness · 27/03/2020 21:18

I’ve been there @2manybloodypets. What has helped me is sertraline. It was a rough couple of weeks when I started on it but then the dark cloud has lifted massively since then and I’m coping better than I’d ever have imagined possible with all the coronavirus stuff. Mindfulness is also great! I like headspace but there are other meditations free on YouTube. Also, please remember that life is always changing. I’m sure there was a time in life when you were happy before? You WILL be happy again. And you matter to each and every one of us! Remember, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Definitely contact your GP. Sending you lots of strength and love Flowers

alloutoffucks · 27/03/2020 21:23

The newspaper article is against Samaritan's guidelines for reporting suicides. Because suicide is never just caused by one easy to explain reason, although often people want to believe that It is as Samaritans say the result of a complex range of reasons.
There will be many other things happening in this poor girls life that led up to this.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 27/03/2020 21:23

@2manybloodypets, please please stop and try to hang on to the fact that we really all are trying our best to get through this. You are NOT alone. I do know how you feel. It all seems so hopeless but just do whatever you possibly can to get through it.

PM me, or I’m sure many of the other posters, if you need to.

CountFosco · 27/03/2020 21:27

There will be many who have already tried to commit suicide because of coronavirus that haven't made the headlines. I have a distant relative who has ongoing mental health issues who tried to kill themselves last week, the fear of coronavirus was a contributing factor. Feels slightly unreal but wasn't a surprise to those closer to them.

Spacecudet · 27/03/2020 21:27

@2manybloodypets you do matter. You're contribution brought tears to my eyes. Please keep posting, we care. Life is hard at the moment it will get better, ask for help, keep going, it will get better x x x

BeijingBikini · 27/03/2020 21:27

@Desperada1234, if you're feeling really awful to the point of possibly doing something dangerous, then I think you should see your DP/family. Please don't hurt yourself.

Desperada1234 · 27/03/2020 21:30

Thank you for being kind, @BeijingBikini. I'm now crying at the thought of being able to see the people I love (other than my warring teenagers) without someone saying that I'll be single-handedly responsible for the deaths of a million people, and that I should also have boil-washed my HMRC bill before opening it. And so on.

user48675 · 27/03/2020 21:30

Desperada keep communicating here. Social isolation is a real thing. I have tried to talk to mental health professionals about it but it seems to fall on deaf ears. One of the things I found helpful was voluntary work in the environment for wildlife trust = a group activity, exercise and fresh air. Mental health provision has got a long, long way to go imo. I am going to need to spend hundreds of pounds for the sort of support I require relating back to my childhood = therapy not available on the nhs.

justasking111 · 27/03/2020 21:30

A GP friend is very busy with anxiety issues in patients. It is the main thing she is dealing with at the moment. Please talk to your gps they do know this is happening.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 27/03/2020 21:31

PTSD is going to be huge after this catastrophe. This makes for devastating reading and my heart goes out to their families.

I wonder how much actual support staff are receiving. Very little beyond that given by their co workers.

Lovemusic33 · 27/03/2020 21:32

alloutoffucks I agree, suicide is usually caused by many things, there’s usually a history of mental health not just one event/reason. I do feel for teenagers the most as it’s a hard enough age without this in top, many teens do already suffer mental health issues and something like this could tip them over the edge. When your young a few months can feel like a life time, it much easier for us to see that there will be a end to this and “it’s only a few months” but not so easy for teenagers, many have had exams cancelled, not been able to say goodbye to friends, not being able to have a school prom or end of year party, there’s so much uncertainty for them right now (or so it must seem to them).

I worry about how this will effect people who already have mental health conditions. I work in mental health with people that suffer psychosis and schizophrenia, something like this will have a huge effect on those who already believe the world is out to get them.

People need to talk to each other if they are feeling down, people need to talk to their children and teens, let them know it’s ok to be anxious and scared, we need to remind them that this will not be forever and things will eventually return to normal.

Desperada1234 · 27/03/2020 21:34

The little bits of kindness here mean a lot. Thank you.

I haven't seen the GP as I know they will be inundated with people with Corona symptoms and I don't want to burden the NHS when I could just do the job quickly and easily (I Googled this a couple of years ago and didn't do it because I could go out and see friends and have a life. Now this is all closed to me).

More than that, though, I don't want to derail the OP's thread. It's her thread, and she needs support and kindness, or she wouldn't have started it.

user48675 · 27/03/2020 21:35

Sorry Desperada, must have missed your post about missing family and already having family. Wise post from BeijingBikini.

Desperada1234 · 27/03/2020 21:36

BTW, I feel like a fraud as I don't care about catching Corona, or about my teenagers catching it. We are all fit and healthy. The thing that kills me is that we are all sticking to the rules and are not going out other than once a day, alone, for exercise. This is what is killing me. I want a hug from my partner. Just a hug. Not a telephone call.

BeijingBikini · 27/03/2020 21:36

@Desperada1234 of course you won't - 2 weeks ago people were still going to football matches! I personally think lockdown is ridiculous but MN is not the best place to say that. If I was struggling to the level you were (without my husband), I would absolutely go and see him. You don't need anyone's permission or to feel guilty. I'm pretty sure I've seen teenagers meeting up on park benches around here, I've turned a blind eye.

Some people are really struggling with this and any rational person would get cross at the gangs of teens driving souped up cars around town rather than someone who just needs to see their family.

user48675 · 27/03/2020 21:37

GP's here consulting on telephone first. I am sure they would be happy to spare some time talking to you.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 27/03/2020 21:40

Hi @2manybloodypets...if your user name reads right,how many is too many pets?! Do you have pets? If so do you know anything about guinea pigs could if you do I could do with some advice! I only have 2 pets and its too much for me? Can you help me? if you do have some pets? please...a fellow mumsnetter in need here and you could be just the woman to help me!

user48675 · 27/03/2020 21:41

If I was struggling to the level you were (without my husband), I would absolutely go and see him.
This.
But be mindful that the virus could be transmitted if your partner is still working/coming into contact with others.

somm · 27/03/2020 21:42

'Sweetness' has said what I was just about to post - 'Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.' Do we ever expect that when we're experiencing a great time in life that that will last forever? They won't, so nor will the horrible parts of life last forever.

MarthasGinYard · 27/03/2020 21:47

2manybloody

How many pets do you have

Do you have cats

My lazy boy makes me chuckle

Would love to be him

Oblivious

Thanks
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