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Anyone worried that you, or someone close to you will die ?

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inthemoment1990 · 20/03/2020 12:47

I am healthy with no underlying conditions , family are pretty much the same. But I just read a thread about a healthy man who is now in critical care fighting for his life with covid.

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lubeybooby · 20/03/2020 12:48

No. My concern is for the NHS and it's staff and the country in general

I have some slight concern about my very elderly grandparents but that pales into nothing in comparison to my worry for the what the NHS is about to go through

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TheMemoryLingers · 20/03/2020 12:49

Yes, I'm very worried. I'm middle-aged and not especially healthy; same goes for DH. My parents are elderly with various health problems, so is MIL. My sister has asthma. This thing could wipe out my whole family.

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AnotherEmma · 20/03/2020 12:52

I am not worried for myself (despite being pregnant) but I am worried for loved ones, yes.
I also worry about the general state of the NHS - it was already struggling and will now be on its knees.
When you hear about ambulances taking hours to arrive and seriously ill people being refused hospital admission, it's scary for everyone.

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endofthelinefinally · 20/03/2020 13:05

Yes. If I get it I won't have much chance. My dc are isolating themselves from me, which is hard.

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TheBestUsernamesAreGone · 20/03/2020 19:43

Yes. My parents live on the other side of the world. We were going to visit them for the first time in 4 years at Easter. Now we can't. Dad has COPD.

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boomshakalika · 20/03/2020 19:51

Yes. I am worried for my folks. My father would never make it given his condition. My mother wouldn't either.

I am worried for myself too.
I never bought into the idea that only the elderly and those with.underlying health conditions should worry. Look at the emerging patterns in other places - younger people are dying in huge numbers.

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LovelyBitOfSquirrelJackie · 20/03/2020 19:56

Yes. I’m very concerned about my mother.

Flowers to all in a similar boat

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Blondiney · 20/03/2020 20:02

My sister inlaw is due to give birth in a few weeks. I'm terrified of the thought of her going into hospital.

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SoundofSilence · 20/03/2020 20:06

Yes. My stepdad has just had his heart procedure cancelled to free up hospital capacity. Even if he doesn't catch the virus, his chances of seeing next year just dropped significantly.

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meredithgrey1 · 20/03/2020 20:07

Yes, my 85 year old grandmother who had open heart surgery a couple of years ago is probably unlikely to survive it (and if it gets really bad, unlikely to be given a ventilator).

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PlywoodPlank · 20/03/2020 20:07

Yes, numerous people.

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bloodywhitecat · 20/03/2020 20:08

My daughter, she's 30, asthmatic and the common cold usually put her in the back of a blue-light ambulance. I am very scared for her.

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LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 20/03/2020 20:08

@soundofsilence that's awful.

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BathTangle · 20/03/2020 20:09

Yes. Family members in various vulnerable groups. My four closest friends who are all doctors or nurses on the front line. I don't like thinking about it, but yes I'm very scared.

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FatAlbert · 20/03/2020 20:10

I have underlying issues, as do my parents and many of my friends.

The NHS is my biggest concern though, as death rates will be much higher when they can’t cope with the numbers coming in.

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LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 20/03/2020 20:12

But yes

I'm worried about me because l've had a respiratory disease recently, my grans, my dad..l'm worried about my friend's mental health, another 2 friends who is due to give birth in 4 and 6 weeks...l don't know, those odds aren't good. At least one of them or me is getting it.

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ruddydogg · 20/03/2020 20:14

Yes.

DH has asthma and has in the past been hospitalised for severe attacks.

Both parents over 70 but mum has diabetes & heart problems.

MIL has heart problems too.

I haven’t seen either of my parents for just over two years as they live abroad and it seems so silly now but our schedules just never allowed us to meet up.

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EightNineTen · 20/03/2020 20:16

My stepmother is treating it all like a big joke, so I wouldn't be surprised if she either caught it or carried it and my dad got it and died. He's well over 90 and after another week or so, they'll be limiting ventilation to those with bigger chances of survival, so he won't stand a chance. She's elderly herself but is being so irresponsible and selfish, if she got it I would shrug my shoulders. I'm really angry with her.

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Ffsnosexallowed · 20/03/2020 20:17

Yes. I've spent this week planning community palliative care services. There is no treatment for this. People who are elderly will not be admitted to hospital. We're arranging a palliative centre for people who don't have family to come and die - there'll be virtual palliative specialist support. Dying from breathlessness isn't nice. Please please please keep your elderly parents or grandparents safe. Please don't visit them on mothers day. While I was picking up face masks for staff today I drove past older people out doing their shopping and I just wanted to stop and tell them to go home. I've cried every night after work. You should be scared for your loved ones. You should be isolating.

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EightNineTen · 20/03/2020 20:17

I mean if she died from it.

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Ffsnosexallowed · 20/03/2020 20:20

@EightNineTen older people won't be ventilated now. Something like 15% of people who are hospitalised will need ventilation. Over 85% of people who are ventilated will die. Average length of stay in hospital is 7 days.

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LynetteScavo · 20/03/2020 20:22

Yes, I'm terrified of my mother dying. I'm am taking social distancing very seriously. I'be told my colleagues from
Monday I will only be in the same room as somebody else if absolutely necessary. My boss is supportive.

I will do what it takes to "flattens the curve" so my DM stands more of a chance. She's being sensible, much to my relief.

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BunnytheBee · 20/03/2020 20:23

@EightNineTen It sounds like you are angry with your SM because she might put your DF at risk but you don’t care if she dies. Would you care if you didn’t think she had caused this?

I worry about my mother who is on immunosuppressant drugs and has been going out to work, shopping and the gym until yesterday but I worry about her getting it as well as my dad who lives in the same house and wouldn’t say I wouldn’t care if she died because she’s been stupid.

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FlushedZebra · 20/03/2020 20:25

God yes. I'm terrified. Not unreasonably IMO - you only have to look at Italy to see how bad things may get here Sad

I have vulnerable people in my family, over 70s/health conditions - all in self isolation now thankfully. I have 3 children - 2 at GCSE/ A Level stage - who insisted on attending school as long as possible. I applaud their dedication, but I was one who thought the schools should have closed earlier. So we may well have already been exposed to it.

I am thankful we're all home now - and can socially isolate. I just hope it's not too late. The news that younger people can end up on ventilators/ in ICU too was very sobering.

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Gertie75 · 20/03/2020 20:26

People only seem to think about the risk of dying from the virus, there will be many more who die from other things that led them to needing a bed when there aren't enough.

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