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Anyone worried that you, or someone close to you will die ?

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inthemoment1990 · 20/03/2020 12:47

I am healthy with no underlying conditions , family are pretty much the same. But I just read a thread about a healthy man who is now in critical care fighting for his life with covid.

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TheMemoryLingers · 20/03/2020 23:44

Thank you Hoof Flowers ((()))

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Writersblock2 · 20/03/2020 23:50

I’m not worried about myself, but I’ve always been quite pragmatic about my own life. Being a severely depressed teenager did that. I’m very worried about my elderly parents with health conditions though.

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CrocodileFondue · 21/03/2020 00:01

I am terrified. My parents are elderly and not in good health, my DH is very unwell, my little DS was in intensive care last month and has complex health issues, I have chronic asthma and an auto immune disease. Our entire family could be wiped out and probably will be by this virus. It's the scariest time ever.

I want to slap all these imbeciles who aren't taking it seriously because "it's only old and sick people who get ill anyway, it's just a bad cold for normal people." Angry

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CrocodileFondue · 21/03/2020 00:02

Even though I'm high risk, I wouldn't worry about myself normally but now I'm a parent I can't bear the thought of my poor little boy wondering why mummy isn't coming back. Sad

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CanIHaveAPenguinPlease · 21/03/2020 06:34

FlowersCake to everyone

I’ve lain awake wondering what the criteria is for an icu bed. Is it age, health conditions? I’ve underlying health conditions & am mid 50’s. Will I be given a bed, will my mil with dementia in her mid 80’s get one, will my dad early 80’s? I know there’s no point worrying & I don’t usually but this has stressed me!

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merrygoround51 · 21/03/2020 06:57

@Natsku I am really hoping well controlled asthma isn’t such a big deal

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Sipperskipper · 21/03/2020 07:00

I’m pregnant but not too worried about me really, although have the odd awful thought about ending up in ICU or dying and 3 year old DD wondering where I’ve gone. I’m mainly worried about my mum. She’s 65, overweight, diabetic and with (controlled) high blood pressure. She is actually taking this seriously, and self isolating, but the thought of anything happening to her, and especially me not being able to be with her if it did makes me feel sick.

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PhilCornwall1 · 21/03/2020 07:07

If I get it I'm more than likely a goner, as my immune system is shot to pieces by the drugs I take. I'm not at all worried about that for myself and totally at ease with the thought of dying. It's my wife and boys that concern me.

My chances of getting it? Who knows.

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peachsquish · 21/03/2020 07:13

Yes mid 40s with high blood pressure, especially after an article in the daily fail saying the sort of tablets I'm on could mean a more severe dose.

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Nogodsnomasters · 21/03/2020 07:22

Yeah I'm worried for myself and a lot of people. I'm young and healthy but I'm a light smoker and have been for a long time. My mil is immune suppressed, fil is over 70, df is over 70 with COPD and Parkinson's disease. My adult neice is a care in the community worker so going in and out of a lot of homes with elderly and vunerable people. I suffer from health anxiety and this really hasn't been good for it.

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SingleDadReally · 21/03/2020 07:23

I think the mathematics of this (infections doubling every 3-4 days), a percentage of cases requiring ventilation mean that it’s inevitable there will be overwhelming of capacity in many areas and a high number of deaths. It’s highly likely we’ll all know someone who has died.

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AmelieTaylor · 21/03/2020 07:51

Yes. Worried about several family members & friends as well as myself.

Scary times. Very scary times

@Forza14 posted this earlier. I’m going to try to focus on it! Rather than how terrified I am. TRY.

What I will say, though, is statistically even those elderly people with multiple serious health conditions (the most vulnerable group of all) are still more likely to survive than not. It’s not a automatic death sentence for anyone, thankfully.

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hennipenni · 21/03/2020 07:59

I’m worried for my daughter who lives with me, she’s in self isolation, unfortunately I’m a front line worker and will no doubt be in contact with this virus.

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adiposegirl2 · 21/03/2020 08:04

Not worried about the death of others or myself- its inevitable.

Death only affects me when it's a sudden death.

I do get emotional when thinking about the lives of medical staff though.

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Natsku · 21/03/2020 08:20

@merrygoround51 It seems to be so. Being extra careful about taking my preventative inhaler, on double dose at the moment after illness and supposed to go back to normal but wondering if I should stay on double

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Strawberrycreamsundae · 21/03/2020 08:37

I’m pragmatic about it, self isolating as much as I can by not leaving the house, DH going out to shop very early once a week or so.
I have a seriously damaged heart from a virus and it’s quite likely Coronavirus would finish it off (as could any other virus).
My family are well aware.
I’m lucky I live rurally and have a garden I can wander around.

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dollface19 · 21/03/2020 08:54

Latest data x

Anyone worried that you, or someone close to you will die ?
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merrygoround51 · 21/03/2020 09:12

@dollface19 that is great data we should all be focusing on to help us get out of this

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wrongsideofhistorymyarse · 21/03/2020 09:13

Yes. Terminally ill parent and stepparent, other parent who needs urgent cancer operation, sibling with COPD.

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LoveBeingAMum555 · 21/03/2020 09:13

Yes. DS is 21, fighting stage 4 Lymphoma, just finished chemotherapy. His neutrophils count is very low and he is at serious risk of infection. I am terrified. Doesn't help that I have seen the worst of the NHS over the last few months.

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CanIHaveAPenguinPlease · 21/03/2020 09:39

@dollface19 that’s great thank you. Can you tell us where that’s from. I’d like to send to my sil. Thanks

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MitziK · 21/03/2020 09:40

I'm not worried. I'm resigned to the likelihood.

If my mother gets it, which admittedly would be difficult when she hates everybody except my perfect fucking brother and his adult children, I'm sure she'll die, partly because she wouldn't want anybody coming in and potentially stealing her hoards of shit whilst seeing to her, so wouldn't call for help. But she's in her late 80s and my other brother who lived there and did all the shopping died last year; I accepted that she will probably die within the next year or so anyhow.

My half sister has lung problems and even a common cold can put her into hospital. Her husband is terminally ill with brain cancer anyhow - put the two together and you have two people around hospital lots and not likely to survive severe respiratory illness. One of my nieces is on strong immunosupressants as her autoimmune disease affects her heart and lungs - she's 40 but looks about 90 already.

DP's father has had two strokes and early onset Parkinson's. His Aunt is in her 70s. His Grandmother has dementia.

I'm not saying that they are all definitely going to die of it, but it would not surprise me if some of them were going to die relatively soon anyhow, and if it wasn't this, it would be their existing conditions or something like flu.



What saddens and scares me is the thought that the voices, accents and stories of Dartmoor, Devon and Cornwall could be lost forever.

Mainly because of fucking second homers.

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YukoandHiro · 21/03/2020 09:51

Yes obviously. Very worried. My dad's friend has it (mid 50s) and recovered in 3 days, but his partner who is 15 years younger and has no underlying conditions is now in intensive care.
I'm pregnant and my partner has asthma. We have a child. I'm worried about us leaving her alone, I'm worried about my parents dying, I'm worried about losing my baby - if not from covid then from the stress affecting the pregnancy

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Jocasta2018 · 21/03/2020 10:05

I'm worried about my Mum - she's in a dementia care home so not very likely to be treated. She knew who I was when I last saw her. I don't know if I'll see her again in 12 weeks and if she'll still recognise me.
As for my Dad? Well he's in very rural France and the village is taking things seriously. He's still very healthy & active at 78 so I'm just hoping if he does get it, it'll be very mild.

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beamused · 21/03/2020 10:07

Yes. Husband is immune compromised, as are my parents.

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