Anyone worried that you, or someone close to you will die ?

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I am healthy with no underlying conditions , family are pretty much the same. But I just read a thread about a healthy man who is now in critical care fighting for his life with covid.

Not overly worried about myself: mid 40s and healthy. V concerned about DD who has asthma: not especially because of CV but because I don’t want her landing in hospital any time soon for obvious reasons.

Worried about the over 60's in my family - they are lot of them so odds are some wont make it through they are none in dire health currently.

Oh sorry I missed the "you" part in the title. Umm yes I'm quite concerned I might die from it. I have two health vulnerabilities including a respiratory issue. I've seen stories of much fitter, healthier people than me catching it and getting a real bartering, I don't know it my body is strong enough. I'd leave behind a husband and two young children. Pretty sobering really.

Very. All parents and grandparents have fairly serious long term health conditions and half of them live 150 miles away. I work in the NHS so can’t properly socially distance or offer much help to them if things get tough.
I’m worried. Very worried. And trying to do the right thing but getting increasingly pissed off at the eye watering number of people who really don’t seem to get the seriousness of this.

Suppose my neighbour is the most likely person i know to die if she gets it - mid 70's frail and was in icu last year.

My parents, both in their 60s, DM has MS and DF has COPD, and neither of them have taken much notice of the warnings about staying home or social distancing until today.

I’m not particularly worried as no one I care about is old or vulnerable. Our family are all healthy, but we are following all the guidance and staying inside as we don’t want to make things worse for people that others care about.

I'm not worried about myself, although I do have the symptoms and my chest is getting worse. I normally run up and down our stairs with zero issues but today I found myself getting breatheless very fast. Ds is very worried about me and after I coughed down the phone many times so is Dr SiL.

My mum and inlaws. They have co-morbid conditions and are swanning around like they are immortal. It's my Grandmother's funeral on Monday. I obviously am not going but the rest of my family... absolutely even though most of them have spent time with my cousin who also has symptoms.

Yes because some people are so bloody stupid and are not following guidelines about non essential social contact. This is going to massively increase the number of people who get Covid19. Even though the fatality rate is about 1% if 80% of the uk population get it that’s about 500,000 deaths so the chances of that including someone I know is pretty high. whereas if people stuck to the social distancing rules far fewer people would contract Covid19 and far fewer people would die making it much less likely that it’s going to include someone close to me.

Worried about my parents. Both in their late 70's, with some health issues. Feel a bit helpless about it because I live too far away to do anything useful.

Also worried generally about the NHS and how it will cope.

Yes, very elderly dad with COPD. I know his time will come soon but please not like this. Carers coming in 4x a day. I'm terrified they'll give CV to him. My mum there too. And if they both catch it, and hospital won't take them, I can't see them... I have a knot in my stomach all day. I'm thinking of bringing them both to ours, ditching the carers.

I am scared and very mindful of the Italy situation. Dh had brain surgery last week and is susceptible to infection of any kind for about 4 weeks, I am chronic asthmatic who has had steroids and nebulizer twice last year and hospitalised once. Every time I get a cold it turns into chest infection or pneumonia and I need antibiotics and bed rest. My sister has heart problems. My FiL has copd and cancer and he is 80. We are worried he might not even be given a ventilator. I watch the news a lot and have seen whst is happening in Italy. Even younger people are in ICU. My dh is worried he might not ever see his Dad again with the lockdown.

Yes I am now. I was keeping things at the back of mind, but my son's a doctor working on an acute medical ward and the stories of lack of PPE have scared me. Also my mother has dementia and her care home has gone into lockdown, the possibility that I may never see her again struck me this afternoon. Good luck everyone.

My dad has pretty severe COPD, agina, type 2 diabetes and is prone to blood clots. If he gets it he will die.

I have asthma that reacts very badly to a simple common cold. If I get it I probably won't die but I will be hospitalised, I worry about the effect that will have on DDs mental health and fear it will push her from having suicidal ideation to actually being suicidal. She relies on me a lot and won't cope with living with her dad or alone. Due to my dad's health issues if I do come down with it my kids won't be able to go to my parents.

Yes - my mother. She's 67 and had kidney transplant 3 years ago and suffers from asthma. I am terrified that she will not make it if she catches this virus. We haven't seen her for two weeks.

very worried about DD1 who is a front line nurse and volunteering for extra shifts. She is adament that she has the skills that are required to help but I am worried about her ability to being able to stay health in the long run

I'm afraid for myself and for loved ones - my parents, my sister and a number of friends who have underlying conditions. It's awful.

Yes. Very worried for the over 60’s in my family. Also worried about myself as a nurse. In Italy 9% of the infected are health workers, there’s a high death rate and we don’t have the correct equipment. I’m terrified. And people around me keep going to the frigging hairdressers

Yep. Worried about elderly parents 200 miles away. DF has a host of chronic conditions, diabetes, heart failure, kidney failure and just this last few weeks dx with prostate cancer. I keep thinking if I hugged him hard enough last time I saw him, which was at Christmas.

Also my DSis, history of respiratory illnesses and seizures.

And lastly, I’m worried about myself. Because my two DCs have each lost a father so I’m the only living parent. I wasn’t really too concerned about my own mortality until they put obesity on the risk factor list. I’m definitely fatter than I should be.

I’m trying to be philosophical about it all but it’s the thought of my children being bereaved which keeps me awake at night.

to everyone going through similar. These are scary times. Stay safe.

I keep thinking if I hugged him hard enough last time I saw him, which was at Christmas.

Yes, I keep thinking this - same as you, Hoof my parents are 200 miles away, elderly with chronic conditions. I can't stop thinking about the last time I said goodbye to them, which was at the start of February. We were all looking forward to Easter, but now that's gone for a burton - my mum told me she'd cancelled the cattery yesterday.

You know I nearly didn’t open this thread as I thought it would be too upsetting/terrifying etc. But there’s a strange sort of comfort to be gleaned from knowing that you’re not alone with these fears. I mean, intellectually I already knew that but reading every last word of these posts has had quite a profound effect on me.

I think what frightens me the most is the arbitrary nature of who gets which strain. Those with health anxiety must be in a terrible way.

I’m waffling now so I’ll shut up. Probably time for me to go to sleep. Just terrified what I might wake up to in the morning, like a PP said.

memory may I offer you a virtual hug in lieu of one from your parents? ((()))

yes.
My two elderly parents in law.
My 19 year old daughter with cystic fibrosis and diabetes
My mid 70s parents, one already with a terrible lung and heart problem
My partner with adult onset asthma.
Me.
My 14 year old son is just about the only person in our home who Im not worried about.

Outside I have my coming up 60 year old friend who is alone in Scotland. Im worried about another friend alone in New York.

I’m not partially worried about anyone I know.

I’m 30 and my parents had me young and are 49/50 with no health conditions. My kids are young with no health conditions.
Only one brother with no health conditions.

Only one I’m slightly worried about is my nan who’s 78 and has copd and has to keep going out as her husband (my grandad) of over 60’years is in a hospice dying so she cannot self isolate yet. I’m worried one of us healthy ones will pass it to her unknowingly while taking her to and from the hospice

Yes, mum, 90 and heart condition. TBH, I’m prepared for the fact that I’m going to lose her soon anyway, but the thought that she might die alone and in distress ........