Anyone worried that you, or someone close to you will die ?

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I am healthy with no underlying conditions , family are pretty much the same. But I just read a thread about a healthy man who is now in critical care fighting for his life with covid.

My mum - she's a fucking old bitch and has given me a he'll of a time these past few years. She's a fucking nightmare

But she is my mum.

I'm sick, i had high temp one day and a cough this week. Self isolating.

My mum has carers - up to four a day. She is addisionian and has copd and dementia.

I don't think she'll be here next year

Mother in 90s , youngest child at high risk and DH and I are key workers and patient facing. Already isolated from DM and considering sending teenager to his young adult sister in the country. He has been cocooned but with increasing rates of infection we are going to be more exposed and worrying about him is interfering with my decision making. He is 18 and not keen. Watch this space ! DM is missing interaction already ; we are a small family and used to seeing a lot of each other.

I am very worried but veer between panic/fear and trying to focus on the fact that the majority do survive.

I am not blasé about the chances of any of my family getting through unscathed, all ages are at risk and I have several family members who are 70s and 80s some with underlying health issues like heart problems. Also friends who are nurses and doctors some of whom have conditions raising their risk.

Yes - parents. They're self isolating but all it takes is for one of them to pop to the shops and get unlucky

Yep, 83 yr old MIL who was intubated in Intensive Care before Christmas. I am a TA so expected to keep working with children whose parents work in hospitals, so I am highly likely to get it. MIL determined to keep on seeing us, has been out and about going to the shops, she's an intelligent woman who knows the risks. FIL passed away a month ago, they were married for 53 years, I think she's taking a fatalistic approach Her decision 100% but I will be devastated if she catches it from us and it kills her.

My anxiety is through the roof. I have asthma and am isolating as much as I can. 1 food delivery a week. No going anywhere with the kids (both asd, 5 and 17). Husband is working in a supermarket though, he showers straight away, 60 degree wash of clothes, hand wash etc but I am still terrified he will bring it home and I will die leaving my girls behind.

If my brother gets it he will die for definite, he had pneumonia before Christmas and flu the year before both times in hospital and nearly died.

Yes!

@BunnytheBee No it doesn't.

Yes, my mum is 80 with respiratory problems and getting a bit frail. And is not overly sensible. She was out and about the day before yesterday and when I found out I went mental. Luckily my cousins have all had a word, as has her lovely GP who phoned her today to say she's sending a prescription for steroids to the pharmacy for her just in case she needs them in coming months and can't get to see a doctor. Also all her regular haunts (cafes and hairdressers) closed today. I think she has realised just how serious it is now.

She's in NI and I'm in England and I genuinely wonder whether I will get to see her again in real life, not just on skype.

I'm worried about myself. I should be isolating but my DD needs me for childcare.

I also worry about her, because she has a heart issue and the virus could make her seriously ill.

I worry for a few other people who are vulnerable and some of them are taking risks.

I've had two arguments today because people wil not give space when shopping etc. It will take for more people to die for people to take it seriously.

Our buses are dropping down their service so it will mean more people on the buses, so more risk.

Very worried about my 81 year old mum. She is ok physically for her age but has dementia, so needs carers to go in x2 per day. Just found out tonight that one of them also works in a hospital so just imagining all the cross contamination makes me terrified for her.

Trying to reduce my visits but she's lost her hearing aids so doesnt hear the phone ring. When i visit she's forgotten all about the virus and doesnt keep her distance. It's a horrible situation all round but terrible news you're not even given the chance of a ventilator if youre old.

My wee granny. She's 90 Also otter

Posted too soon! Also irrationally worried about me or DH dying, even though we are healthy, and leaving DD. If it was just the two of us I don't think I'd be worried for us, but with DD it feels a lot scarier and higher stakes.

I'm very worried. My dad has heart problems and is generally quite unfit and he just started with a fever today.
Worried for myself too as I have asthma but trying to keep positive - I read an article that says that people will well-controlled asthma aren't such a big risk.

I'm worried about my mum who is a nurse.

I have 2 elderly parents, elderly relatives, work in a school and will probably be the open key worker school. I also live on an island with 6 ICU beds with ventilators. That's it. No prospect of any more. I think the current population is approx 90,000. Y s I'm worried :(

I am scared, though I would hope either DH or I would pull through if we did catch it. We are isolating and only leaving our flat for absolute essentials. We live in an apartment though so I'm scared of going through common areas of the building to get outside.
MIL and FIL are very unlikely to survive if they catch it, but are being incredibly cautious and not leaving the house. My Mum is being less cautious but is overseas where things aren't as bad and the government is being stricter at an earlier stage.
God help us all.

Being immune suppressed I'm doing everything I can to protect myself and not worrying. If we all follow guidance, we'll get through this. Positive thinking. Stay safe x

Yes I'm worried for my dm who has health issues she has been self isolating but I keep thinking I may never get to have another cuddle from her also my stepdad he has COPD and asthma to name a couple of problems and although we have fallen out and are only just on speaking terms now I wouldn't want him to die ,my stbxh has COPD I again wouldn't want him to die it would break my dcs hearts to lose him would hurt like mad as we now get on , my DC are all pretty healthy but my ddil and dgc all have severs asthma and are self isolating due to my ddil having a chest infection ,my dsd has severe asthma and at the minute is self isolating with her mum I am face timing with them all just to keep in touch and see their faces

Have you got any more information on that please @Ffsnosexallowed? Are you in the UK?

My dad is just not listening & going about on his merry way. Thank goodness the restaurants are closing. He lives in Hertfordshire & thinks nothing of getting the train & bus into central London for a day out. He’s done that every day this last month & it’s so frustrating.

Really worried about my mum. She has a chronic health condition with a very weak immune system. My mil and a close friend both have severe asthma and my sil is due to give birth early May. Dh and I are both teachers with young children. We’re keeping well away from them all.

I'm worried about my parents and DH. And in-laws, and grandparents-in-law. And my friend who's on steroids. And all with good reason, as they would be vulnerable.

But I'm also completely unreasonably worried about myself. When I was a teenager I had PTSD symptoms from sexual abuse, including a sense of a foreshortened future. I was absolutely convinced I'd never get married, have children, have a job and that I would die before 50. Of course I got a job, got married, have a DS... but I've not reached 50 yet and with the stress as well, this feeling that I'm doomed has been triggered big time.

I'm not concerned in the same way that we never know what is round the corner. But I am worried the large number of vulnerable people that will catch it and the impact on the NHS and its workers. I am a care home manager and worry about my residents.

Both very elderly parents who already have half a foot in the grave. If they catch it they’re goners 😔😩

Not worried about me or DD. Massively concerned for my at-risk parents (who think I'm being dramatic with my social distancing and only going out for essentials).
I'm, also, massively concerned about the people I work with (very elderly) who will be hit hard should they get this virus and my fellow HCPs.