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Anyone else's Parents swanning about as if they are immortal?

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Namechange2020onceagain · 17/03/2020 20:45

Just had a chat with my Mum, she then asked if I want anything from B&Q as they are popping in there tomorrow! This is after they went shopping to Sainsburys this morning and then said they are going again on Friday.

I have said I will get any shopping they need, but they keep going out.

FFS they are both over 70 and my Dad will die if he gets the virus. They are not taking it seriously at all.

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Sal1977 · 17/03/2020 23:04

But don't you know it doesn't count if you add the words "just popping out to..."

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Waspnest · 17/03/2020 23:07

Yes in the way that stolen chips contain no calories.

theprincessmittens · 17/03/2020 23:07

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Frankiecandle · 17/03/2020 23:08

Is there any need for all these slagging off elderly people threads?

I've seen plenty of young people in coffee shops today. Not exactly sticking to the advice to avoid cafes, bars etc.

WhatNowFrantic · 17/03/2020 23:08

My mum, 78, went to the shopping centre to buy a load of wool today, in case she has to stay in, then she will have something to do. She then informs me she's going to dinner with Daisy on Fri, Daisys friend Pat will be there with her husband 🙈 Then of course she will need to go shopping to get her some flowers.
I have explained it to her but she thinks it's all a big fuss over nothing. She's had her flu jab so she's fineConfused
My dad died a few years back and he couldn't stay indoors for 1 day let along 12 weeks!! He would go to Tesco even if he didn't need anything!
I despair

SusieOwl4 · 17/03/2020 23:09

I despair . My DIL who has surprised immune system is isolating and she is 30 !

Fgs listen to the guidance

Frankiecandle · 17/03/2020 23:10

Stupid old fuckers?

What about the stupid young fuckers who were in Caffe Nero getting their fancy coffee fixes?

SusieOwl4 · 17/03/2020 23:11

theprincessmittens That’s not the point though . Other illnesses and emergencies won’t stop and the nhs is not ready , so they will make it worse for everyone.

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Namechange2020onceagain · 17/03/2020 23:11

WE ARE ALL FUCKED!

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planningaheadtoday · 17/03/2020 23:13

Yes! Triple bypass, heart failure and nearly 80, still going to his members club where the barman has been isolated due to symptoms.

I found this out after I'd found out he'd done a huge grocery shop on the way home.

I can't stop him. At all. Im so worried that I've stopped thinking about it. I'm powerless to do anything anyway.

Stubborn parents, that I take after.

deydododatdodontdeydo · 17/03/2020 23:13

Is there any need for all these slagging off elderly people threads?

People are genuinely scared for their DPs and this is how you interpret it??

Khione · 17/03/2020 23:13

I'm not quite in the 'lockdown' age at 65 and relatively fit

BUT

For me - I am dreading old age as being a time when I am less able to take care of myself physically or mentally (due to dementia)

I don't have to self isolate at this stage although I am following guidance and have cancelled a weekend visit to my sister 300 miles away.

The 'sweetener' I would want, in order to persuade me isolation is a good idea to prolong my life now, is for voluntary euthanasia to be legalised.

If I was vulnerable and immune compromised and thoroughly expected my independence to disappear within the next 5 to 10 years, I would prefer to die from CV19 now rather than go into a care home and would take my chances on the street.

Guarantee my right to die with dignity when I choose to do so would persuade me to isolate to prevent imminent death now.

Oh, and should I get CV19 seriously now - let me go, don't waste ICU on me.

Waspnest · 17/03/2020 23:14

TBF only one person (that I can see) has called the elderly 'old fuckers'. Most of us just don't want our loved ones to die and our children to lose their grandparents.

Shinesweetfreedom · 17/03/2020 23:14

Well as long as they know they won’t get a ventilator or hospital intensive care bed and don’t spread it to anyone else then you know crack on.
Perhaps when figures of deaths start to increase for the older ones with under lying health conditions they may start to listen.

toffeeghirl · 17/03/2020 23:14

To those with Parkinson's. My mam died 2 years ago aged 68. She had a fall because of poor mobility with PD and broke her arm. Her arm was opened up in surgery and it was decided not to operate and she was stitched back up. This is because her bones were destroyed with osteoporosis.

In the meantime, an infection set in. An infection she'd have been able to fight off just 6 months before. Within 6 weeks I was saying goodbye to my mam on a palliative care ward. Please make your parents see sense.

Comfortzone · 17/03/2020 23:14

Same also. Mother 70yrs old (mortgage free baby boomer) thinks it's all a Chinese conspiracy to achieve world domination & why should we lockdown to give them what they want

Father has yet to ask me how I'm feeling about it all or even have a general conversation about anything normal (never gets in touch)

Mother asks daily for me and our young DC to drive 400 miles to stay indefinitely in their huge house (ours is tiny) 'you'll all have so much more space here with us'

Doesn't get it. At.all. Argh

Selmababies · 17/03/2020 23:14

This thread is so ageist! And patronising to older people!

Does anyone think there won't be people of all other ages going out more than they should, once they too are directed to stay at home? People of all ages seem to be in denial of the risks, or not understanding what is required of them.

There's many many people of all ages on mn on other threads that have clearly indicated that they're not isolating themselves or their family, when they clearly bloody well should be!

What about all the kids and students whose schools and universities have closed down? Surely they should equally be told to stay at home now, if the aim is to flatten the infected numbers- they're probably mixing with many more people than the older people just going out for a bit of shopping and the odd coffee.

I'm not condoning the behaviour- I've been in self imposed isolation for a week now as I have underlying health issues and in my early 60's

  • but really, stop demonising older people and patronising them at the same time.
We need to find a way of pulling together and supporting each other in respectful ways, not demonising any particular demographic.
mindproject · 17/03/2020 23:15

The elites want us all in isolation or fighting amongst ourselves. Wake up. You are being manipulated into giving up all your rights/freedoms/social contact/life outside. The elites are psychopaths, this is what psychopaths do.

PickleBottomNo3sMum · 17/03/2020 23:15

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius My DP’s did the same. I rang them mainly to give them the heads-up on the supermarket shortages and suggested they avoid the shops so as not to catch it and book an online delivery in advance for next week (they had enough to be going on with and have milkman for milk and bread). SO...what did they do? They went out to the supermarket to ”stock up”.

Also my mum is claiming she’s 68 now, but is definitely 72 🤷🏻‍♀️

Bathroom12345 · 17/03/2020 23:15

The facts are fairly or unfairly that this virus affects the older generation much more than the young.

It is bloody selfish and entitled that the over 70’s are generally carrying on as normal. Who they think they are! They will swamp the NHS, they will be calling their families to come and sort it out, get them on ventilators etc. Not all of them of course but having gone to M and S cafe, there were couples, people having a good old chin wag just like normal.

This could kill them and they need to think of others and the people who need to sort out the consequences when they fall ill. Why should I have to go into lockdown because someone wants to have a coffee, go to keep fit etc.

Sorry but we are facing a crisis and some older people just don’t get it.

mindproject · 17/03/2020 23:16

They are scaring everyone into submission. Don't be a fool.

Potkettlexx · 17/03/2020 23:16

Yesterday in-laws are and the majority of customers in my work today (large bank) were the elderly going about their normal day to day stuff.

It actually made me mad. I thought we’re all having to change the way we live, lose income from when the schools end up closing and we have to tahr time off etc... And for what?? To protect those vulnerable who by the looks of it aren’t that arsed!

The amount of people coming in to my work paying cheques in fur minimum amounts when they had tens of thousands. Absolutely no need. Colleagues and I were discussing it and saying its disgusting the way they appear to not be taking it seriously.

Potkettlexx · 17/03/2020 23:18

I mean in-laws are not taking it seriously and one was in the pub and the other exercise class 🙄

Frankiecandle · 17/03/2020 23:18

Judging by what I've seen today a lot of younger people don't get it either.

smileyoureoncamera · 17/03/2020 23:19

My dad fell ill a few days after returning from holiday, but says he can't possibly have had covid as he doesn't know where he'd of picked it up. Um the airport probably, he's not stupid, just to stubborn to admit that he probably caught it. He was actually very ill so luckily couldn't leave the house and spread it.