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The 'Positive Mental Health' Corona virus thread Part III

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DaffodilThatch · 16/03/2020 18:27

Think would be good to keep this thread going! Will link to the previous threads in a bit.

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tobee · 23/03/2020 17:25

Looks like the daily new cases in Italy are down again after yesterday. Apparently this is a crucial week to see if there measures of lockdown are working!

thereplycamefromanchorage · 23/03/2020 17:28

There is also a suggestion that the infection curve in Germany is flattening, although they won't know for sure until Wednesday.

gingerbreadslice · 23/03/2020 17:34

@DianneWhatcock I might do that, there is a field at the back of where we live that's empty people call it dog shit park I don't even know why I'm laughing now but I might just stick the welly's on and have a walk around it to get some air. No body seems to use it so I could ppp us down there for a whilst. And I love this thread also it does help reading all the positive stuff x

gingerbreadslice · 23/03/2020 17:37

@tobee Hi I actually feel fine physically now so I'm wondering if it was tiredness. And this thread is a god send! How are you too

Cornettoninja · 23/03/2020 17:42

@thereplycamefromanchorage - I’ve seen tentative reports coming from Switzerland too. Apparently their leaders have also been pretty shit too and they’re a week ahead of us,

(I have to ask - what’s a chorage?)

DianneWhatcock · 23/03/2020 17:44

that sounds like positive news @thereplycamefromanchorage and @tobee

@gingerbreadslice yep do it!! Make it into a game, jump over the dog shit :D

tobee · 23/03/2020 17:46

Glad to hear about the physical bit gingerbreadslice .

My ds, stuck at university and household isolating, says the housemate who was sick, with classic "mild" symptoms, is feeling better still! Ds symptom less atm touch wood!

Alsohuman · 23/03/2020 17:51

Do try to get out for some air ginger, it’ll do you and your kids the world of good. We walked the dog this afternoon and it was a tonic. The sunshine, bird song, blossom and new leaves just help you realise that Mother Nature is still doing her stuff and it lifts your spirits.

We’re so, so proud of our girl, her life’s on hold right now and still she smiles and tells us it’s all going to be OK.

tobee · 23/03/2020 17:51

Ooh dear! My tv has just flashed up that sign which says it's about to turn itself off because I've had it on for so many hours without me touching any remote control buttons! Blush I just need it on at the moment to have distracting noise!

thereplycamefromanchorage · 23/03/2020 17:57

@Cornettoninja, it's 'The reply came from Anchorage'. It's from a song by Michelle Shocked, and it refers to Anchorage, Alaska. Thanks for asking!

Cornettoninja · 23/03/2020 17:58

Ah! That makes so much more sense Grin

Clearly I need to do some puzzles while we’re all inside!

CaveMum · 23/03/2020 17:59

@Bunnyflop, re how much homeschooling we are being expected to do, I saw this on Facebook and think it sums it all up very well:

Covid Distance Learning Q&A

Usual disclaimer, I'm a head teacher but I speak only for myself. Others may have different ideas

I'm seeing a lot of threads online with the same general theme, so I wanted to just given a schools perspective on it all and answer some FAQs. Also happy to answer any questions people have that I can answer.

Lots of people feeling stressed, overwhelmed and under pressure by the work being sent home for kids. I hope this can help with that somewhat.

Few points to note first :

  1. This is not homeschooling. This is an unprecedented emergency situation impacting the whole world. Let's keep perspective. Homeschooling is a choice, where you considered, you plan for it and you are your child's school teacher in whatever form you choose . This is at best distance learning. In reality, it's everyone trying to separate their bums from their elbows because none of us know what we're doing and what's right and wrong here.

  2. You are, and always have been, your child's primary educator. If you decide that your child isn't going to engage with anything sent home and is going to spend the entire period playing in the dirt, or baking, or watching TV, that is your choice. That is your right. It is clear in the constitution. There is nothing to stress or feel guilty about.

  3. Schools don't know what they're doing either. They got no notice, no prep time and we're told 'continue to plan lessons as normal and just send them home' as if that is in any way possible. If it were, we'd all be out of a job very quickly. I won't rant about my thoughts on the Dept on this, but suffice it to say your school is winging it.

  4. It is absolutely not possible to facilitate distance learning with a primary aged child and work from home at the same time. The very idea is nonsense. If you're trying to do that, stop now. You can certainly have activities where your child learns, but your focus is your job, and survival. Again, unprecedented. Stop trying to be superheroes.

So, a few FAQs:

  • My school has sent home lots of physical work. Pages and pages, hours and hours. How am I supposed to get through it all?!

You're not, don't try. Your child's teacher spent a couple of hours in utter panic gathering things to send home so they could say they did their best and there weren't a lot if complaints that enough didn't go home. It's not a competition, or a race, it's unlikely the teacher will even manage to look at it all.

  • My school keeps sending home links and emails with more work. How do I make it stop. Ahhhhhh

See above. These are suggestions and ideas because the school is worried itl be said they're not offering enough. Use them if they suit you, don't if they don't. If you're getting stressed, stop opening the emails. No one will know!

  • X in my child's class has everything done and we've barely started. Will they fall behind?

Even if everything were equal in terms of support and time and number of kids etc (which its not) kids learn at different rates. In the class there's a wide range of levels in all subjects, there's different paces and there are many kids working on differentiated level of work. It's almost impossible for teachers do differentiate at the moment, so you have to do it. By expectation and by time.

Your child will not fall behind. This is all revision and reminder work. If kids could learn new concepts without specific teaching we wouldn't need teachers. They will cover all of this again, multiple times.

  • I'm not doing any work with my kids. All their doing is Lego, cooking and playing outside.

All of this is learning. Very valuable learning. Give yourself and them a break.

  • How can I get three different lots of work done with 3 different kids of different ages?

You can't, stop trying. If they're old enough, try to get them to do little bits independently. Otherwise try to do something they can all engage with, reading a story together, some free writing, baking etc.

  • So what's the bare minimum you'd expect?

For me, survival mode. I won't pretend that may be true of all teachers, but you know what if they can't have perspective in a time like this then I wouldn't overly worry about their opinion anyway.

My ideal for my kids in our school?

  • A bit of reading every day (independent or to them or via audiobook etc)
  • some free writing now and then. If they'll keep a diary or something, great. If not, would they draw a comic?
  • Practical hands on maths. Be that via cooking, cleaning, outside or some maths games physical or digital.
  • Some fine motor work. Lego, cutting, playdough, tidying up small toys.
  • Physical exercise everyday
  • Some art/music where possible through the week. Doesn't need to be guided.
-Stretch goal, if old enough getting them to independently work on a project is great for keeping brains ticking over. Get them researching in a book or online and putting together something to present to you or family.
  • If younger, lots of imaginative free play, the more independent the better.

You are doing enough. You are loving your kids and supporting them through a difficult time. Look after yourself. Minimising stress is absolutely vital in a time like this for mental health. Don't let this be something that stresses you. Only you can control that by accepting it is in your circle of control, you are the primary educator and this is all your call.

Apologies, this post is much longer than anticipated!

Noooblerooble · 23/03/2020 18:07

Gingerbread if you can get out it helps so so much. It's the thing keeping me sane. Just keep your distance from others. You can get through this. Day at a time. If you can plan treats like a nice meal or doing your nails (whatever floats your boat) that helps too.

I have had a really good day. I have kept away from the news and absorbed myself with creative projects. The weather has been stunning and I am repeating to myself multiple times a day how this will pass. This is definitely how I'm going to get through this. Me not checking the news and getting in a panic has no impact on events or death rates anyway. By keeping myself focused on positive things I'll have more to give to people struggling. I am so relieved to be feeling more optimistic. If you don't do anything creative, now is the time to buy some supplies and follow some tutorials on YouTube. It's a sanity saver watching something grow or take shape

Millie2013 · 23/03/2020 18:12

Ooh, new thread time soon!
Bit of good news from me, OH almost has everyone who can set up to WFH now (nhs, IT, so really needs to work). 1500 people altogether
Once they’re all ok, he can set himself up. Likely that will be by the end of the week
Then he only needs to stay distant from us for the potential incubation period (he’s sleeping in a separate bed/using different bathroom) and I suppose I’ll have to allow him back into bed Grin

He’s on immunosuppressant meds, so I can’t bloody wait until he’s home

gingerbreadslice · 23/03/2020 18:16

@tobee Ah bless him that's brilliant news

Siameasy · 23/03/2020 18:17

Oh goldfinches are wonderful Booseys. I was so sad to hear that apparently they used to be popular caged birds cos of their song 😭

gingerbread glad you feel better. My motto is if in doubt go outside. I think those of us who are pale will all have tans at the end of this!!!

gingerbreadslice · 23/03/2020 18:20

I think I will have a walk out tomorrow I'm not missing going for coffee or anything like that I just miss breathing fresh air I never really used to go out as much anyway just doing the school run or my nana would come round.
She's staying at home thank god it's just us now I'm just so worried that I will go outside and bump in to someone or the lift will open up and someone will step in whilst we're travelling down. I'm looking forward to tomorrow now even if I go out for half an hour and just let them play in the field with a ball that will be amazing right now.

LaneBoy · 23/03/2020 18:58

Goldfinches are my favourite birds! We don’t have them locally - our most frequent visitors are pied wagtails, a jay, a created woodpecker, coal tits, blue tits and nuthatches.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 23/03/2020 19:03

And don't forget that quite recently, children didn't even go to school at all until they were five, or a bit before then until they were six, and they all seem to have done much the same developmentally as they do now with nursery from whatever age it is....

My mother spent about an hour a day teaching me to read, write and do basic arithmetic during the year before I went to school on my fifth birthday, mostly because I wanted her to so I could read books like my big brothers did, and I was one of two children in the class who could read and write when I got there; they all caught up by the end of that first year.

BooseysMom · 23/03/2020 19:03

Siam..yes i heard that too. Another beautiful song bird is the Yellowhammer. When i was a child in the 70s there was a large flock of them in the hedgerows by our house but sadly we never see them any more. Their song sounds like "a little bit of bread and cheeeeese"!

BooseysMom · 23/03/2020 19:08

My post of yesterday was inaccurate as i said apparently 1,700 die of flu every year but it's actually 17,000. I presume this is worldwide. It was an interview with Dr Fisher at the Marches Surgery in Leominster.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 23/03/2020 19:18

17,000 is the figure for the USA.

CaveMum · 23/03/2020 19:28

Another reassuring article from The Jerusalem Post, similar time the LA Times article: m.jpost.com/Opinion/Spread-of-COVID-19-begins-to-show-pattern-of-4-8-week-eruption-cycle-622035?fbclid=IwAR3_QneVWKPULWHns7jkuim3EHIsPv3ituwU5puq-j7LAN5Zz_bfNLNmkyE

M0reGinPlease · 23/03/2020 19:33

Went the full hog today and deleted all my social media. News apps already gone. I've also unsubscribed from nearly all my newsletter emails. For example, I shop in Fat Face occasionally, I don't need three emails a day telling me about the new social distancing measures they're implementing. I've put my diary away, as I usually like making lists and plans and it was a stark reminder there weren't any right now. I've put my daughters preschool things away because looking at them was upsetting me. I've barely been on my phone, just check this thread once a day. It's helped me considerably. Watching Mastermind now and avoiding the news. We can do this.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 23/03/2020 19:35

I am getting a bit worried about someone starting a new thread before this one is full -- is someone feeling like being a volunteer?