Friend cancelled because she's scared of catching coronavirus..aibu to be annoyed?

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Saturday night we are going to a concert in Newcastle (well we were meant to be )
We've paid for train (over £100 each ) and hotel (£150 split) and £80 ticket each.
Tonight she text saying she isn't coming as she is scared incase she catches coronavirus.
So I have nobody to go with and we only reserved hotel so I will have to pay £150 for that.
Aibu to be Annoyed?
I told her to get a grip,and was she planning on not going out till after this has gone.

Neither Corbyn or Johnson are particularly bright. Obviously Johnson received an excellent education at Eton (when he could be bothered to participate - see his ex School Master) but that is not the same as being bright. However, he would have prioritized saving lives over squeezing out every last drop from the economy before we shut down. Obviously, in a perfect world Nicola Sturgeon would be the leader you’d want right now but alas we’re stuck with the privileged clown.

by he obviously I mean Corbyn. Not the one whose university society refers to the electorate as “plebs”.

To be honest, I went to a gig last night and the thought of Coronavirus made me feel a bit 😬 even though I was trying to enjoy myself. I wouldn’t be surprised if your event is cancelled, it’s still a few days away and I saw on bbc news they think the delay phase is imminent.

My DS at 7 is in the least amount of danger. My DGM at 89 is in some of the most. I have had to make a decision to keep him away from her for the foreseeable future because young people with barely noticeable symptoms are so very dangerous to the vulnerable. Tbh, I think I as a healthy 41yo am also a danger to her. My brothers in their 30s have come to the same conclusion.

So right now at a point in time where we feel there is a huge threat to our grandmother’s life, we can’t even go see her and spend this time in her company. Because we just really need to do everything we can to give her the best chance of surviving. It’s actually a form of torture.

We don’t have to stop living our lives but we do need to change the way we live our lives until the virus burns out or a vaccine is developed. It’s really, really fucking hard to get our heads around. Westerners of every generation since the baby boomers have been so used to relative safety that this is nearly impossible to get our heads around. But this kind of major disruption and threat has always been the norm for most people who have ever lived. We need to adapt now to change for the next 3-18 months. Accepting that sooner will make it easier.

We've only been testing 1500 people a day - and they are those with symptoms who have had contact with a case. We haven't had the capacity to test more. Of course the reported figures here are low.

Could you go to the concert on your own?

You aren't trying your best. If you were you wouldn't be looking to go to a large concert, which with a bit of luck will be cancelled anyway.

YANBU your friend is being ridiculous. There are 60 million people in this country and 460 have it ffs.

How many days ago did Italy have 460 cases?

It's a personal choice to go or not to go - there are pros and cons for each side of the argument. However unless it's possible to get a cheaper room then she should pay her half of the pre-booked commitment.

There's no way I would go. But she needs to cover the cost.

I can't believe somebody at work has suggested a night out in the city next week!

I'm doing everything I can to be responsible to the best of my ability, but this doesn't work when others scoff or when your boss continues to travel for unnecessary business meetings and football matches, such as last night's Madrid one.

It's minimised at work and people continue to cough, then touch doors, photocopiers, lifts...

Four we are two weeks behind Italy if we continue on the same trajectory.

But they had better healthcare and took measures like minimising social contact/gatherings, so I dread to think.

I don't know whether I should say this, but I'm a nurse and I know for a fact that they aren't reporting the true number of cases that are currently in hospital! They also aren't testing anyone without major symptoms so we're probably only hearing of 10-15% of cases. They're will be significantly more and its spreading like wildfire. I've friends living in other parts of Europe and they think we're absolutely stupid over here for not moving on this faster.
I've got two concerts booked in the next 3 weeks and I'm not attending either of them. DH is due to be visiting his 98yo Nana in April but I doubt he'll be going now. Our daughter is prone to respiratory infections and I'm pregnant. I'm not going to be taking any unnecessary risks. You sound pretty naive OP.

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@MissBax
Apparently we are not allowed to try to protect people from a pandemic because we are British and our grandparents persevered though the Blitz or something, I can’t quite remember.

So is this the worst virus in decades?

Some experts (WHO type experts) have said it has the potential to be as serious as the 1918 flu pandemic, which killed more people world-wide than the first world war. Please note the word 'potential'.
But yes it's probably the worst virus in just over 100 years.

@*Soph7777
Another one burying their head in the sand

We're better equipped to deal with it now, but it does require an individual effort.

I think with me my parents are very much(who are in 70s)
I'm not changing my life,going shopping etc
Telling me not to over react,more people die with flu
I can't even get my dad to wash his hands after he's came home.

MissBax I'm glad you said that. If more people came out and said that then others might take this seriously.

It depends what you mean by worst?

It's going to kill 2% of people who catch it. Most people are going to catch it.

It's new. Imagine there was no flu and we could have prevented there being flu. So in years to come people will continue to get ill from flu but also Covid 19. At least with flu we already have a vaccine and not so many people get it at the same time that healthcare is overwhelmed and 20% of the population are going to feel ill at the same time.

Up until your friend cancelling, have you not read anything into COV-ID at all?

It is more lethal at the moment than Spanish flu, so the worst in a century.
The number of confirmed cases is not the number of infected people, as they are not testing extensively. Numbers increase exponentially, so , as with Italy, we may be in the hundreds now, we will have thousands very soon.
I think it is insane to keep attending events. Unless we all start putting social distancing in place, we will end up like Italy, where they are having to choose who to try and save. I live in Wales. We have the lowest number of intensive care beds pp and the oldest population. I am extremely worried about what could happen here if measures aren’t put in place.

Your friend is being sensible. It isn’t just about your risk, it is about risk of spread.
And waiting for government action ? My friend has just had a frantic last minute plane ride back from Italy, as the country locked down while she was on holiday. She was lucky to get a flight. She went because there was no government advice not to, so she felt safe. Look at what is happening all over the world, none of us can just go on as though nothing is happening !

I'm not changing my life,going shopping etc
I’m speechless at this level of ignorance.

She’s liable for the costs
I’d go without her

As for the snide “you’re one of these people who think it’s just flu” comments sorry but it is just A flu
The world has gone fucking mad