Dp voluntarily going to north italy! AIBU

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Dp is booking a trip to north italy to watch a few sporting fixtures. Regularly has sporting holidays with his mates.
It is only a long weekend, but will be flying into and staying in the areas that have been affected by coronavirus.
He is booking it this weekend and going next weekend. Although advice is not to go to these areas of italy he said he isnt bothered and wont catch anything anyway.

AIBU to persuade him not to go? I know its his trip, im not going and nothing to do with me but think its a stupid move to still book and go!!
Said when he comes back he will not self isolate and will carry on as normal. Am i over reacting, is it not as bad as the media make out? He cant see my problem!

I’ve just seen on the news some are cancelling flights to northern Italy?

But most sporting fixtures in north Italy are being cancelled

I woukd make no objection at all to his going, but do ask him where he plans to isolate himself for a fortnight on his return because it sure as heck should not be with you!

He alone must take the risk. This is exactly how epidemics spread.

he is being really selfish. the thing is that if he gets Corona virus he will probably be absolutely fine - assuming he's relatively young and fit he will experience it as an unpleasant but entirely recoverable illness. however, by going to an affected region and coming back and not self-isolating get will almost certainly infect at least a dozen others, who will have no idea they were exposed and will each infect a dozen more before they get sick, and some of those will be vulnerable people who will die - and your DP would be the one who caused their deaths.

I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who would callously do that.

There has just been another case confirmed and they came back from Italy so not unreasonable at all and agree that if he insists on going he needs to self isolate away from you.

He’s being a complete prat.

Tell him it’s entirely up to him but you won’t be seeing him for 2 weeks when he gets back, and if you’ve got kids neither will they.

I woukd make no objection at all to his going, but do ask him where he plans to isolate himself for a fortnight on his return because it sure as heck should not be with you!

This, exactly. Fine if it doesn't bother him, but he's selfish to think he can just come home and risk giving it to you.

What Tala said ^

Are you sure the event is still going ahead?

Let him go and then don't let him back in when he gets back

I would make no objection at all to his going, but do ask him where he plans to isolate himself for a fortnight on his return because it sure as heck should not be with you!
^This

As well as suggesting he checks his travel insurance will cover him if he gets there and flights are cancelled. I suspect it won't and he could end up with a huge flight and accomodation bill as he is knowingly visiting a restricted area.

He's also a selfish arse.

He might not get there - EasyJet has already started cancelling flights to Italy. And as PPs have said, Italy is cancelling events in affected areas.
He is being very selfish and careless in going. It sounds like he is in denial about the risk he would represent to other people when he gets back.

According to the bloke I heard on the radio just now, Northern Italy is fine unless you're going to one of the 11 specific towns affected - which is highly unlikely as they're not normal tourist destinations. They reckon that because the Italians acted so quickly to lock down those towns the dangers elsewhere are no greater than anywhere else in Europe.

It's pretty selfish attitude to have. The chances are his selfish behaviour could lead to him coming back home carrying it and passing it onto innocent people.

Is he sure the event is still going on?

Where is he going to self isolate ?
If he is with you and your children you will all have to isolate.

He should check his employers policy too, he may find himself unable to work for two weeks when he gets back and possibly unpaid if he travelled against foreign office advice

He can go where he likes but he's sure as hell not got the right to walk back in and put you at risk.

Although advice is not to go to these areas of italy

Advice from whom?

When is he supposed to be going? A lot of sporting fixtures have already been cancelled or will be played behind closed doors.
We now have positive cases in the south because a few twats who were supposedly in lockdown in the affected towns in zone 1 decided not to stay but caught planes home down here.

As well as suggesting he checks his travel insurance will cover him if he gets there and flights are cancelled.

If an airline cancels a flight it will usually refund you.

I would be very unhappy with that. It’s completely unnecessary travel + carries a heightened risk = why take the risk (on his own behalf and yours)?

It is not even about the size of the risk.

According to the bloke I heard on the radio just now, Northern Italy is fine unless you're going to one of the 11 specific towns affected
Precisely.

Foreign Office advice is only against going to the ten towns identified.

It's also being said that the scale of the problem in Italy has been exaggerated because they have chosen to include in their statistics people who have tested positive but who have not developed any symptoms.