The 'Positive Mental Health' Corona virus thread

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There are a lot of posts of people worrying. I thought it could be helpful to share positive and assuring information in one thread.

For me, the most reassuring thing so far is the fact that of approx. 1500 people in the UK suspected to have and tested for CV have come back as negative.

Hope nobody minds me asking this question, I have been googling and no answers so presumably a silly question.

I know I am totally over the top scared with this but I have literally not kissed or even hugged my husband in the last week because of my anxiety. I think he has tried to be understanding but is just struggling with the anxiety and fact that I am not even sitting next to him on the sofa for a hug. Sorry if it us such a pretty question.

@tud41 Not all kids would have finished content by now and everyone has to take them at the same time so whole scale reorganisation a night mare.

@Orangeblossom78 - a good read!

Ah that makes sense...

@Keynote1 please don't neglect your husband with all of this... We all know it's not but just imagine it was the end of the world... Is this how you would want to spend time with him?

Or just do the no pants dance with rubber gloves and a face mask :) that's hot stuff haha

@Keynote1 im the same. He keeps asking for cuddles but i cant let myself.

For the people who were worried about italys high death rate, this is on world o meter:

Percentage of deaths by age group:
90+ years old: 6% of deaths
80 - 89 years old: 42% of deaths
70 - 79 years old: 35% of deaths
60 - 69 years old: 16% of deaths

Their elderly population is taking the brunt

Keynote and Jrob why do you think he is more likely to have it than you? If he is happy to hug, you should be too.
206 cases out of 67million population is beyond miniscule.

Thanks @Orangeblossom78, I really enjoyed that.

Keynote, if you are in the same room you may as well hug him. Sharing the same air. Might make you feel a bit better to get come contact? Don’t shut him out. Go and give him a big hug now.

I worked it out earlier. Currently, as far as we know, approximately 0.0003% of the UK population has or has had Coronavirus.

Thank you, I know it sounds so silly, sure other people are carrying on normally in this respect. Husband is trying to be understanding but I am going to drive him.out of the house if I keep going.

Sorry for all the silly questions, you are a great lot and I am very grateful.

@Keynote1 I mean this really gently and kindly but I think you mentioned in an earlier post that you had recently come off medication for anxiety and were keen to avoid going back on? I understand why but I wonder if it would be worth a call with your GP to discuss that a bit further?

It sounds as though you really are extremely anxious and it's having a very significant and detrimental effect on your life. There's no shame in needing some help.

I hope you manage some sleep and, if you can, try to get out into the world tomorrow. Honestly, it's business as usual out there! Today we took the DC to their swimming lessons and then went to the supermarket followed by a birthday party at a soft play! All totally normal everywhere.

I have found that watching David Able on YouTube helps. He and his wife caught the virus on the diamond princess cruise ship. He is doing really well. His wife has been given the all clear and he is waiting. They are in a Japanese hospital. He said he had no idea he had the virus.

@Jrobhatch29 Where did you find that data on world o meter? I can find all sorts of other facts and figures but not those ones! I do find that info reassuring so thanks for sharing.

@Keynote1 Go and give your dh a hug. I promise you it would make you both feel a load better!

@Sunshinegirl82, I did mention it to the dr earlier in the week, they had done a blood test recently and found that I was taking too much thyroxine which she thought was making the anxiety worse so as I had been so well with the anxiety she wanted to get that sorted first do have to have another blood test to review in 6 weeks, so hopefully that should start reducing the anxiety. I think I am not helping myself, I have literally just spent days watching the news, looking things up and talking about it, which is why my husband is so frustrated. I went out today for half an hour and so many people just carried on as normal while I was on my nerves edge. I cancelled going out tonight as well as didnt think I would be great company. I know I need to STOP this now and get on with things .

I have just been out into the centre of Glasgow and it's business as usual. Saw one person with a face mask, an Asian student - not unusual to see them wearing masks anyway.

Kids cooperating well with handwashing, we have spun it as "we need to be careful because there are people who aren't as healthy as you lot and we all need to protect them". Have also deleted the BBC news and Sky News apps from my phone.

Anyway, it's pissing with rain in Glasgow so the virus doesn't stand a chance. It'll be washed into teh Clyde in no time.

Worldometer has added stats about the number of cases per million people in each country - very interesting because it puts the case numbers into context a bit. Anyway, despite being such a densely populated country, the UK looks to be faring very well (just 3.1 cases per million) and if you look at the 20 or so countries with the most cases, ours is lowest by far (except for the USA, where the figures are skewed by the fact they're not carrying out many tests)

The thing is with anxiety it can be 'free-floating' so this means we can kind of latch on to stuff around us and fixate on it...if this wasn't going on it might be something else. All the talk of mortality rates, treatment etc is reminding me I also have another condition, which when it flares, can have a15-30% mortality rate (based on age / health) as well, which also has no treatment and needs emergency care if / when it happens...

I mean it gets it in perspective a little - but still bring up those feelings I have struggled with for several years and makes it worse thinking of close family who may get it worse etc, it can all spiral. I have had CBT for this over the years to cope and trying to use it, that can help also (CBT) to some extent.

Something I try and do is turn the numbers around, so instead of 30% mortality I think of 70% survival which sounds much better. It does help.

And think of simple things to keep healthy, such as reducing stress, eating well as possible, exercising for example.

@ScarlettDarling its in the running commentary on cases underneath the main big table.
Its concerning me they seem to back tracking on children being less affected. Now theyre saying children in china were already off school and locked in their apartments so thats why they didnt get it. A few of the uk cases are children. I wish they would tell us how theyre doing x

Government has also revised the 500,000 deaths prediction and reduced it down to 100,000 within a couple of weeks it will be 50k and so on that figure also includes people that will die of normal flu which is 17-25k

Where did you find that info? Thats reassuring.

I am not an anxious person by nature, but this illness has really got to me. It's not the illness itself that worries me. It's the disruption. Will DS be able to sit his really important Higher exams in May? What about our holiday this summer? DH works in aviation - what about his job? It's the uncertainty and I'm starting to really struggle with it all.

This thread has been great for keeping things in perspective and helps a lot. But it's getting to the stage I'm going to have to come off MN completely because every other thread is a call to close schools, or recipes for your own hand sanitiser or people predicting doom, gloom and a total breakdown in society. It is all very damaging to mental health.

If it helps - I’ve hidden the entire Coronavirus topic. This thread still shows up in my threads I’m on list, but none of the others do.

It’s made my active threads a much more peaceful place.

And if anyone is wanting to do that, there is a post on here that tells you how.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/3840667-Question-about-hiding-topics?msgid=94500600#94500600

I've hidden the coronavirus topic. But people are posting threads in AIBU, Chat and everywhere else.

I think I’m going to hide AIBU as well. Then other than that, just be as self-disciplined as I can about not clicking on them.