You're not going to win this argument right now.
There is a concerted, well funded campaign in order to effect regime change in Iran and manufacture consent for American intervention. You’re arguing with people on the same side as the War hawk Lindsay Graham and Tommy Robinson, who purport to know what Iranians want.
Iran is a country of 90 million people, however the voices being amplified are the voices of Iranians not currently in Iran.
There are also many unverified claims in the last week that amount to nothing more than misinformation. Like the woman lighting a cigarette using a burning picture of Khamenei (amplified by JK Rowling and many others) promoted by many to be in Iran. It turned out she was in a carpark in Canada.
The newest unproven claim is "12'000 killed" with this caveat:
"CBS News has not been able to independently verify the massive death toll indicated by the source"
Single unamed and unidentified source the perfect vehicle for propaganda and currently being reported by CBS, run by Bari Weiss who was hand selected by billionaire Larry Ellison, a fervent supporter of Netanyahu and Trump Donor.
https://www.972mag.com/ellisons-paramount-tiktok-israel-media-empire/
On American/Israeli involvement, former CIA director Mike Pompeo directly tweeted about "Mossad agents walking side by side" and ironically Israeli media has been open about Mossad involvement:
https://www.jpost.com/middle-east/iran-news/article-881733
What's currently hurting Iranians in Iran are the crushing sanctions that they've endured for over 40 years.