@50GoingOn30 sorry for the delay in replying, I've been at work. For some Muslim women, choices about wearing hijab or other hair coverings, choices about face coverings, and choices about clothing in general, aren't really made with a focus on men or men's desires, but instead are made with regard to a person's own relationship with their faith.
There are texts about the importance of dressing modestly, for both men and women. How people (who wish to do so) understand and put those into practice can vary substantially. Probably the most widely practised guidance is around covering hair for prayers - whether praying alone, with other women or in a mixed/public setting. Covering hair in that context is about covering it as part of a personal relationship with God. Many women may have very personal reasons for wearing or not wearing hair coverings, face coverings, different clothing styles, etc., and many of those reasons will not be about men looking or not looking at them.
There are men who control and oppress women and use clothing as a way of doing so. This isn't unique to Islam. It is, in my opinion, contrary to the values of Islam to do so, but some Muslim men do it anyway. If any woman - Muslim or not - is feeling coerced or is being forced to wear something, then I fully support her right to resist such oppression and make her own choices. There is plenty of guidance in Islam about the importance of people making their own choices.
Among the Muslim women with whom I socialise, I'm not aware of any judgement or criticism of people for wearing or not wearing hair coverings, face coverings or different clothing styles. A group of us were out the other night and our outfits crossed a pretty broad spectrum of choices. There's bound to be judgey people out there - there always are, just check AIBU or S&B for examples - but it isn't something I've really experienced.