Feel a bit guilty moaning about TYF now The bathroom looks like summat from a showroom now (albeit a showroom filled with half-empty bottles of Philosophy shower gel, ahem) and he actually does about 60% of housework and is tidier than me. The only things I can complain about it that he leaves the toilet seat up, uses every utensil and implement in the kitchen when cooking, if there's washing up already in the sink, he'll only ash what he's just used unless nagged, whereas I'll just wash everything, regardless of 'whose' it is, is incapable of putting things in the bin (leaves used packaging and food out, grrr) and unfortunately was taught about hygiene by MIL (she of the refused meat-juice foil and black, suppurating plasters whilst handling meat) and therefore sees all dirt as equally hygienic, ie urine, faeces, mould, chemicals, etc., are as bad as dust, crumbs, spilled water, etc., which is obviously mental [JD Face] And 'cos of her, has to be nagged about hand-washing after handling meat.
Whereas I:
leave everything where I put it, don't put anything away, have piles of books and mags everywhere, have to have my stuff in front of me instead of put away (is common habit amongst people with bad astigmatisms, in my defence), have a gazillion toiletries and crap spread all over bathroom, am a massive hoarder, have allergies and leave used tissues everywhere... I could go on.
He tells me off about tidiness, I tell him off about hygiene and point out that being sanitary trumps aesthetics.
Considering that his parents' relationship is totally Conservative and his Mum does EVERYTHING around the house (my parents do everything 50-50), I should be bloody chuffed that he genuinely doesn't see housework as my domain.
Poll, am so on your behalf. TG is taking the piss there. Colourblind and agrophobia, my arse. I mean, they're real conditions but they don't stop you respecting your partner and pulling your weight! TYF is cripplingly shy but goes to the shops for me, etc. Tell TG you've developed a neurological condition that makes you punch people every time they act like a twat