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VJay · 04/06/2010 17:54

...thanks to all the support we get in the greenhouse

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MrsKate · 17/06/2010 16:47

hi all sorry not been on in while

just a quick post to say my sisters friend is doing well she has a great family and friends my sister took her out the other day for a bit of pampering .

i need to catch up

just to say JD is sleeping through hes been sleeping from 9pm to 6am for over a week now i hope it lasts i feel like a new woman. im getting a bit worried tho he is getting to big for his moses basket but i cant fit his cot in my room and i dont want him to go in his own room sad i know xxx

VJay · 17/06/2010 17:07

Hiya did any of you sign up to test the appletiser, mumsnet asked for 250 mums to test it, I signed up and forgot all about it, then a parcel arrived today with 4 bottles in it, 2 are fruitisers, 1 appletiser and 1 peartiser. What a lovely suprise , just have to drink them and leave feedback, simples

justshaggy sorry you've been outed in RL, it has happened to someone else on here before, I don't think you can change your name from earlier posts, but let us know how you get on. You sound like you've had an awful virus, hope you feel your normal self soon

pfj boo to hayfever

mrskate glad your sisters friend is getting the support she needs
Well done to JD for sleeping through the night, Ajay is still sporadically doing it , what a shame he can't fit into his moses basket now, what will you do?

Right off to enjoy some fruitiser, yum

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cupcakefairy · 17/06/2010 17:52

Hi girls, as always sporadic catching up from me.. HV has just been and Jude is now 8lb 8oz...8oz more than his birth weight at just 12 days old. Porker!

jools I did post my birth story about 2 days after the event but actually the acute pain hadn't started then...I developed a haematoma in my episiotomy scar 3 days after Jude was born (v unusual for it to take that long apparently)
Don't be scared! Physio, health visitor and midwife have all said there have been a spate of these bad episiotomies in this area over the last few months & they're actually having new policy meetings over it at the hospital now to work out why. So it's probably just some scalpel-happy doctors in south wales

I have been discharged from physio today and can actually sit on my bottom for a good couple of hours now, hooray!
MLS forgot to answer the other day- I did ask how many stitches but apparently it's a continuous stitch so not quantifiable whatever that means. Glad you're getting your notes back

bq so sorry to hear your bad news and as always- you must vent on here all you like!

shaggy hope you're feeling a lot better v soon! Love MLS's cheeky comment about pregnancy and illness though

iggy I don't have a monitor. We have Jude in our room & he naps where we can hear him so not necessary until we go away somewhere maybe? We have the babygros with scratch mitts but haven't actually turned them over yet cos J always sucks on his fingers/hands so seems cruel! Breast pump I would also say wait a few weeks post-birth. You don't want to express too soon or your body will produce too much milk (and it's really not fun when you get out of the shower all lovely and clean then 3 seconds later there's milk running all down you
We use ordinary blankets to swaddle J. But yes- muslin squares, definitely!! Sorry, I know you didn't ask about all those things but I feel a need to impart my 12 days' worth of wisdom

Neeko loved the email poor Vjay you aren't going to be able to forget this reference for a while are you!!

louey there is an official 'list' of everyone's email, mobile number, real name etc. gracie probably just hasn't had time to send it on to you. You'd have a hard time trying to work us all out just from our email addresses!

Yay for all the bd and 2ww!! I'm excited

Well, AFM, I have one very sore cracked nipple thanks to J getting v lazy and not opening his mouth enough to feed. BF counsellor has shown me a new position to feed him in to let the nipple heal but is v stressful latching him on and he gets v cross when I pull him on and off to get it right...culminated in dh calling him an idiot at 2am this morning cos he was fussing so much he apologised today though and J has been so lovely and playful today- they are cheeky the way they make you forget their bad nights!

Have just ordered a food hamper for dh's first father's day I'm v excited by it!

Right, I should prob go catch 40 winks while J sleeps.

Neeko · 17/06/2010 21:02

Cupcake That's what they told me about my stitches after my DD1's birth. It's code for lots!!!

4everhopeful · 18/06/2010 00:20

When i asked how many stitches i had I also got told they dont count them as its continuous! Good news for me finally & thankfully though, the midwife & health visitor came yesterday & both agree the hole left from my burst episiotomy stitch has now started to heal & close & the bruising & swelling has subsided! Its been agony & will be so nice to be able to walk & move around & sit down properly instead of only on right bum cheek & without my memory foam ring & 1000mg of paracetamol every 4hrs & diclofenac 3x a day! I cant believe iv been housebound for 3wks now, only been out once for slow painful & throbbing walk to MIL 5mins round the corner, & last drove my car 4wks ago! I think iv been really brave about it & soldiered on but obviously been times iv just been sobbing with the pain & worry if id ever heal, or end up readmitted was my worst fear! Iv strived to remain positive tho, but has got me down not being able to do simple things or move around properly to look after Summer, but obviously she makes it all worthwhile & id do it all again in a flash! Anyway im patting myself on the back for bein brave! I really must do my birth story, thats worth several pats in itself! Tomorrow im a little nervous, but am gonna attempt outing no 2 to finally register her birth with Dh! Have been packing the nappy bag & Dh brought formula dispensers & thermos for making up feeds! So much to think about! Really am quite nervous & anxious about it tho!

VJay · 18/06/2010 11:13

Morning, huge pat on the back to you 4ever, enjoy your outing today, registering the birth is lovely, don't know why but I enjoyed doing it, made them official Am looking forward to your birth story

mermaid another big hug today for you {{{{{MERMAID}}}}}

blue safe journey home looking forward to seeing holiday pics

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4everhopeful · 18/06/2010 13:10

Morning & thanks vjay am feelin ickle bit less apprehensive about venturing out again this morning! Your right, registering her is something iv been longing to do! ... Also sending massive hugs to our brave lovely Mermaid, know we have been in touch lots but i think ur just amazing.. X X X X X

chocciechip · 18/06/2010 16:10

Hi all - I'm having to name-change. Not sure, but have a feeling, that I've been outed in RL ... now a bit paranoid. So, I am now chocciechip, (formerly known as shaggy). Such a pain.

VJay · 18/06/2010 17:41

choccie your new name makes me hungry

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QuestionsAgain · 18/06/2010 18:42

Hi everyone

Sorry I haven't been around for a while, have been too poorly. Things have eased off now and I am on medication to help and at least they now know what is wrong with me.

I will try and catch up over the weekend, but for now I really need your advice please.

I am not sure what to do about trying for a baby, my condition means that I will most likely need surgery over the coming months, I can't have this if I am pregnant unless I get to Emergency state of affairs and having surgery when pregnant is not ideal from a risk perspective! Obviously I may not get pregnant in the next few months and can go ahead and have the surgery, but if i do it will mean that I will have to wait at least 9 months. My condition means that there is a small risk to a baby if I have any problems, though I may not and there is a small risk to me by delaying surgery, but, but, but, the idea of putting off ttc and waiting is making me really upset and I could be waiting ages for the surgery anyway?

I know I am asking a lot for you to advise when you don't know exactly what is wrong, but I really need some advice right now, as I know you will all understand how I feel

MummyLovesSadie · 18/06/2010 19:32

QA it's hard to give advice without knowing what the problem is. I'm presuming it's not life threatening?? All I can say is what I would do & that is that I couldn't wait to ttc. Having a baby has so many risks as it is (sadly as we all know) & I don't think one more 'small risk' would make any difference. There are many healthy babies born under less than optimum circumstances, e.g. the mother having cancer or some other disease. When your body is telling you that you must have a baby it is very difficult to ignore that voice.

ThePFJ · 18/06/2010 20:08

QA My gut instinct is to say go for it girl!!
My rambling thoughts on the subject:

I think my body didn't want me to get pg when I had the ectopic because my recurring absesses were a problem with my immune system overeacting to everything, and I had only just recovered when I started to ttc.

Unless you think your body will have any reactions to your surgery (have you had surgery in the past? How well did you recover?) then as long as you truly think in your heart an early baby would be safe, then you should go ahead.

I do know stress is a massive factor though. Would worrying about ttc and surgery AND a possible baby tip the balance as to whether you would be up to the challenge? The important thing is that you are healthy and well enough.
If you are pg when the surgery finally comes up then surely they will account for that and make sure everything is safe for you both?

I will be thinking of you anyway, whatever happens. xxx

barbie1 · 18/06/2010 20:20

Sorry not been on, sleeping problems (again) will be back once rested love to all x

CurlyBigPants · 18/06/2010 20:25

Hello lovelies. I started writing this yesterday then curlygirl decided not to sleep any more and much time later here I am again... so sorry if some of it is out of date already!

I'm hoping to do a proper catch up today but also just wanted to send a massive hug and some hairstrokes to the lovely mermaid. I cried reading her email and it really brought home how much you all mean to me. I would never have thought that I would consider a greenhouse full of women I have never met to be close friends but I do xxx

Big hugs also to baking. I hope you and dh can work through this lovely. If you do need any advice on IVF I have a good friend who went through it. And it only takes one of those swimmers to get through. Check out this article for improving his sperm quality

chocciechip great new name I am so gutted for you too lovely. Offload all you need to, we'll be right here x

vj post some pics of the seagulls!! You are such a born mother How is the study going with all these distractions?

barbie I'm definitely on for a meetup in London in October. It would be fab if gracie could come too as well as the london crowd, as Isabelle and Devon and curlygirl are practically triplets Glad you are coming out of the other side of the growth spurt. Curlygirl was doing much better with the sleeping but has regressed again over the last two days. You are so right about the key being putting them down relaxed. How are the dreamfeeds going? I've no idea how it works really but maybe her bodyclock rather than hunger is waking Devon. Could you try shushpatting her to sleep without feeding her at 12:30am if she has had a good dreamfeed already?

louey I hope you get a chance to talk to vj about her gorgeous ds And the pompoms are out for you tonight! Just ignore us is you see some random strangers jumping around in your bedroom

monkey it's lovely to hear you sound so breezy. If AF has started then lots of fairy dust is coming your way and hopefully it will also be the first day of your pregnancy x

neeko hope the feeding is going better. I had one problem after another for about the first 8 weeks They really don't tell you how hard it can be. I definitely recommend the nipple shields, I would have given up without them and they really helped curlygirl to latch on. They seem enormous but somehow worked, and as barbie says, they definitely slow down the flow.

4ever you sound like such a yummy mummy. Make sure you take it easy though tomorrow You have been very brave and I know after the c-section it felt like I was ripping open sometimes but it is all part of the healing process and honestly it will get better x

4ever and jools let us know a date when you would like to meet up? I think Mon - Fri daytime would be ideal but if it means we get to meet jools too then a weekend is fine. Looking forward to our practice run on Tuesday with iggy and sabs though

iggy where did you buy the (.)(.)??? I'm with barbie on the Angelcare - we only used the sound part in the moses basket but the heart monitor has given us a lot of comfort when curlgirl moved to her own room. For breast Pump/ Bottles - tommytippee manual and their bottles too - I found it good and I didn't feel like I was being milked . mls suggestions were all good. Small soft blankets are very handy. We bought loads of sleeping bags and curlygirl would only sleep swaddled!

jools nice work on mission seduction!! Are we allowed to obsess??? what day is testing day??? I hope cutting down on the ADs goes well, you really do seem to be your lovely happy self again these days so I have high hopes

Very excited for the lovely pfj too I love your posts too (and that you always bring food!!!)

blue hope your ds is fully recovered and out and about again I'm so glad you are okay with stopping bf. Curlygirl is now 4.5 months old and I'm giving her a formula feed at 11pm and now another one during the day. I am pretty sure I will stop by 6 months. I love breastfeeding her but need to get some independence back. Part of me wants to bf her forever though

mls and lbm are you close to London too? Our meetup will probably be near waterloo I used to love the babynames threads too. Have you any ideas for mini-mls?

lbm poor babyj. Hope those three nappies sorted out her blockage! I used the tommee tippee manual pump and found it good. I found it a lot easier to express in the morning though. Generally in the evening there is a lot less milk so it can be a bit of a thankless task

cupcake Hope you had a lovely trip out with dh and aren't too sore. Ouch ouch ouch poor love. Where have you bought the food hamper from? I likes the sound of THAT!!!

mrskate well done jack!!! I know what you mean, we just moved curlygirl to her cot and it was a wrench. But I love racing in there each morning when she wakes up - well except when it's 5am - I don't love that so much

qa big hugs honey. Maybe you could email us more details? If age isn't an issue, then personally I would go ahead and have the surgery but as mls says it is hard to ignore that desire to have a baby x

big waves to everyone I haven't mentioned. It's a bit quiet! Is everyone watching the world cup????

CurlyBigPants · 18/06/2010 20:27

waves to PFJ

I think Devon and curlygirl are conspiring with each other barbie... it was all going so well till yesterday

CurlyBigPants · 18/06/2010 20:29

And where is the lovely moon?

barbie1 · 19/06/2010 08:00

5 wake up's at night for the last 3 nights........... can't

stay awake...

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

But D can roll over now! doing it all the time, cant keep her still!

I hate the 4 month sleep regression phase

Once i get a clear head and lose the sleepless fuss ill be back, love to all....especially mermaid x

monkeybumsmum · 19/06/2010 09:45

Just popping in to whisper that AF has finally started

Got my dad here at mo so not got time to keep up or write, will be back soon though!

Love to all and hope you're all okay xxx

ps very naughty of me but Gracie asked me to say hello to you all last week, and I completely forgot, sorry Gracie Her dd wasn't sleeping much and she was exhausted, so I hope she's okay...

CurlyBigPants · 19/06/2010 13:06

Yay for AF arriving naughty monkey so hears hoping this is day 1 of your pregnancy

barbie curlygirl decided wakeups were fun and especially that morning time is 5am, she stretched it out to 6am for the last couple of days so hopefully our subtle hints are getting through

Big massive hug to the wonderful mermaid. I hope you are befuddling along okay at this sad time honey xxx

VJay · 19/06/2010 13:26

Hiya,
qa I think that if I was in your situation I would have to wait to ttc, even though I would be desperate to do it. I am a worrier and would worry about the condition and baby etc too much.

monkey yay to AF, you are now cd1

curly that was a lovely message to the lovely mermaid so I will just say 'ditto' . The studying is going really well at the moment thanks, I just got a TMA mark back, 96%, which has given me a huge boost after my 67% mark last time

I've caught the bug the boys have had, but I am feeling better at the mo, and it did last just 24 hours in both boys.

blue hope you got back ok and had a really nice holiday, despite poor I's pox

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Joolsiam · 19/06/2010 21:39

Barbie -hope you got some sleep

QA - I don't have an answer for you = would be equally torn, but then again I am 40 ...

4Ever -is Summer registered now

4DPO here and,up until today, I had complete conviction that I had conceived - dangerous

Today, not sure - too early to tell anyway. Had a really wierd dream though, involving giving birth to a Siamese cat - not usual for me unless PG. I then was wide awake when it was still dark ...

Somebody shoot me if they catch me symptom spotting - that way madness lies !!

barbie1 · 20/06/2010 17:18

Gosh its v quiet here today!

Im just popping back quickly to say the 4 month sleep regression stage has really hit us hard....5x plus night wakings and my body is feeling the effects from the lack of sleep...headaches, dizziness and feeling sick. So its not too great but we have bunkered down and we will get through it

I really wish i had the time and energy to post to you all individually but i cant afford for the headache to get any worse, im thinking of you all and when we are through to the other side ill be back!

xxx

barbie1 · 20/06/2010 17:19

jools

VJay · 20/06/2010 18:15

Hiya my sis had her baby today, a wee boy

barbie when we go through these sleepless periods I always think to myself that it will get better in a matter of days, the cahnces are if not tonight then very very doon, D WILL sleep normally again. I do feel for you, tis crap

jools

I'm feeling a tad better today, finally had something to eat that stayed put

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CurlyBigPants · 20/06/2010 20:28

lovely news vjay I find myself missing those newborn snuggles. Curlygirl is way too busy taking in the world as it goes by to be snuggled by her mum for long Glad you're a little better. Take it easy lovely lady x

barbie big hugs girl. Sound advice from vj I think

jools

Big squidgy hugs and baby snuggles to mermaid. I'm thinking of you lovely x

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