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30s TTC. It was the BESHt of times,it was the worst of times, it was the age of rummaging in gussets, drinking gin.....

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ginhag · 03/06/2010 22:24

C'mon in BESHes to the beach bar...sprawl on comfy sofas while you wiggle your toes in the sand and watch a glorious sunset....and drink brightly coloured cocktails with sparklers in. Cos we're classy,innit.

I've got Adam and joe in as barmen, and we have a rather nice Cave of Gloom in the corner for those 'whyyyyyy meeeeeeee???' moments. We have a reggae sound system playing mob barley's greatest hits. It's a sunshine paradise!

Newcomers welcome,as long as they drag along a bucket of black humour and a vast amount of gin. And please note,some of us have been here so long we have forgotten the real world almost entirely.

Now,who's getting the next round in?

OP posts:
Muser · 15/06/2010 15:23

I would want black ones with all flames up the sides. Oh yeah.

Oh, and PooPoo I do not think I am diffed. I really don't. This is not going to stop me POAS if I get home and the free sticks someone is sending me have arrived.

PollyPoo · 15/06/2010 15:25

Well, I am still hoping that you are Muse. Surely the collective good will of the BESHes should be enough to impregnate you? [hmm}

Muser · 15/06/2010 16:00

If collective good will worked we'd all have OMGTWINZ!!!

Muser · 15/06/2010 16:01

And of course I am still hoping that I am too, while trying to stay realistic so as to avoid the Pit.

PerfectDromedary · 15/06/2010 16:04

Musetter Where are you at in your cycle? Unlike the lollster, I do not have a spreadsheet.

Ta for the gloves, LyraSMASH. Very annoying that they are gendered - if I'm going to hit things, I want to smash them up in true macho style - but very useful tip.

Muser · 15/06/2010 16:13

Day 24 of 28 Droms. I thought I was day 24 yesterday but turns out I was wrong. Which is annoying as I want to test.

tagine · 15/06/2010 16:24

I'm still hopeful for you Musee. Genuinely. I think loads of your symptoms are promising! And we need some more good news round here, so we do.

Where's saltyseasandwiches ?

RunLyraRun · 15/06/2010 16:29

slightly more macho - and come in size XS.

PerfectDromedary · 15/06/2010 16:37

Muse POAS? Seems like a long time since that chant has been done in this neck of the woods.

Me likey the giant wasp gloves! Get!

PerfectDromedary · 15/06/2010 16:39

Oh, and Muse, yes - we are doing the same 10k. I will be lucky if I finish in under 2 hours. See you at the end for a large glass of wine a refreshing energy drink.

Muser · 15/06/2010 16:49

That would be what I call 'Isotonic grape juice' Droms.

I swore I wouldn't POAS until I was actually late, so as to avoid the menkul. But, y'know, free sticks. It doesn't count if I didn't pay for them, does it?

Muser · 15/06/2010 16:53

Is it today Medee was off to the GP? I cannot figure out when I asked to go and look back to check. If so, hope it went well.

RunLyraRun · 15/06/2010 17:01

Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee Humpy - not a wasp!

PerfectDromedary · 15/06/2010 17:04

Yes, it was. MediumSized If you iz about, tell us how it all went, pliz?

CurlyCasper · 15/06/2010 17:07

Not been on for a bit - but wanted to send BESH love and postive thoughts to all dads, sisters, friends, nans and others in need. You all seem to be getting hit from all sides and deserve better. A baby each should be just the beginning of what the world owes you.

muser I crossing all sorts of body parts for you. Beautiful blanket knitting brings good karma, you see...

Anyone want to help me spice up some jugs of leftover mocktails? I think a splash of gin here and there would do the trick.

ChoChoSan · 15/06/2010 17:18

Muse...they are not internet cheapo freebies are they? if so, plz to remember that you need to colour the red line in on those even when you are diffed.

POAS!!!!!! remembering of course that it is way to early (when did you get + in the past?)

My doctor made me get confirmation of diffedness done at the local chemist, and they used that type of test, and I had to argue with the pharmacist that the very faint line was indeed a positive, and that I had been in this game long enough to know the difference between a positive and a negative test Bee-hotch!

Can I be a really mardy differ for a minute...I've not made friends with any other differs online yet, as I am a bit in de Nile about pregnancy until this baby has to kick it's way out of my wombular common in full school uniform? I don't want to get over apologetic with me BESHies, but just point me to the Deli if this comes across like an 'isn't diffment awful' whinge

I am 7 weeks along now, and I haven't got a scan booked until 12 weeks. I am just blithely getting on with this diffment as though it's not really happening, although I am intellectually engaged so I am behaving properly and looking after mesen and that.

The question is - should I go and get an early scan? I don't really want to, as things seem to be progressing okay with me just ignoring it (and I am a bit scared), but at the same time I worry that it would be awful to wait until week 12 to find out if something is wrong; or for something to have gone wrong and me not have seen it when things were okay.

Obvs with my history I have anxieties, but perhaps things will bimble along nicely with my head buried in the sand. Opinions pls, fanks v much!

RunLyraRun · 15/06/2010 17:18

Thanks for thinking of us Curlz - when you list it like that, we do seem to be in the wars

How are you feeling? How is RA/SPD etc?

Muser · 15/06/2010 17:34

Cho I would probably not bother with the early scan. I will get one due to ectopic history. But seeing a baby at 6 weeks is not a guarantee that baby will still be doing well at 12 weeks. Likelihood of things going wrong do reduce, but I think the menkul would niggle anyway. Would it not for you?

You are going to feel awful whether things go wrong or not. And maybe it's more awful to know things were ok at 8 weeks but then went wrong at 8+2? Or maybe it's just equally awful. In any case, I don't think either is 'better' enough.

If an early scan would definitely reassure you, then do it. If not, stay in de nile.

Also. IT WILL ALL BE FINE. So don't menkul too much.

My freebies include a first response. I'm not entirely sure what the other ones are. But probably 'colour in the line' jobs.

PerfectDromedary · 15/06/2010 17:40

Cho I have no idea what your best option is. I guess the biggest question is what you, at this precise moment, will regret doing. Will a scan reassure you? Or make the Fear worse? You can't regret things on behalf of your future self.

Is not a decision you have to make overnight, anyhoo.

And the diffed are not banished. Popping between threads is de rigeur. We may not be able to sympathise with pregnancy woes of the swollen ankles/does my bump look big in this variety, but we are all BESH in a crisis. As evinced by the multitudinous crises on this thread.

CurlyCasper · 15/06/2010 17:41

A literal PITA lyra but mustn't grumble as it won't be long now and I know which side my bread's buttered on and all that. I meant to add sorry about your holiday plans At least you have the Club Tropicana style Palace. Gentle squeezes for Pops.

cho They do say that once you have heard the HB at an early reassurance scan, you have a 95% chance, or something like that, of baby going to term, so it can be massively reassuring (as it's supposed to be). But unless you are having it done at an EPAU because of a specific fear, most (private) early scans don't come with any medical support. If you were to go in the next week or so, you should definitely have something to see and hear (I did at 7+5), but if you have been relaxed about it all so far, you might be just as well waiting until 12 weeks. It's such a personal decision and I'm probably not helping. You can only really do what you are most comfortable with. Good luck.

ChoChoSan · 15/06/2010 17:46

Yeah, Muse the menkul will be here whatever happens, so I might just give it a miss for now. Also, last time I had an early scan and had HB etc all tickety boo, then when I had my mmc it dated to not long after scan anyway. I suppose I will get one if I suddenly start hankering after one enough to be bothered to book it...

I don't like First Response...simply because they gave me a negatory even when Clearblue were giving all sorts of dodgy and unreliable 'false' positives....all done way too early of course, but I took agin the FR because it didn't tell me what I wanted to hear...

ChoChoSan · 15/06/2010 17:49

Hi Curls...I got up to 98% chance of everything going well following my HB scan last time, so fuck that. I think I am going to forget about it for now and then hopefully blub with relief and joy at 12 weeks!

CurlyCasper · 15/06/2010 18:21

well, when you put it like that, waiting definitely sounds like the best way forward. Sticky thoughts being thunk here

Muser · 15/06/2010 18:37

Very sticky thoughts.

I have arrived home and no sign of sticks. Ho hum. I was quite up for POAS as well. I suppose I could go to Tesco.

saltyair · 15/06/2010 18:42

hello all.

How're things in this fine establishment this eve. I'm going to need an update plz thank you.

POAS action interesting....

In a shock update, I have yet again been required to work like a bastard, whilst also dealing with the stupid ass droid, which having come early and then disappeared (leaving me thinking no,no it is NOT implantation bleeding, whilst secretly thinking it definitely was) is now back like the flaming red sea.