Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part2)

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Nice clean thread for us - may there be many a BFP on here

hello all
poor you hairy - its too awful but glad you feel positive and upbeat about the future of ttc ... i hate that false hope thing doctors can do without meaning to

kisses and thoughts tonight
x

well thanks for all good wished for erpc - day been stressful but that has been down to the family and NOT erpc!
It was fine - oddly fine. Went to hosp for 8am with three small kids in tow(!) dh dumped me on the ward and had to leave for school run - hosp far from home

got prepped and had to have mrsa wash and nose swabs but no pessary

walked up to theatre in gown at 8.50 lovely anaethestist and assistant but all men

they chatted to me and stuck heart things on me etc and
The odd thing was he put catheter in hand and then 5 mins later i looked up as he was messing with it and i thought i could feel blood dripping - he said' i am just putting something in there to relax you before the anaesthetic' i said 'oh ok' and felt a bit sicky and got a funny taste in my mouth. Then i asked to see surgeon ( just wanted to...) he came and said hello.
I just watched the BP monitor and was quite alert he said ' i will just lower the head of the bed' and carried on for another maybe few minutes.

I suddenly panicked and told him I still had my knickers on ( and shoes but that did not bother me!) and he said 'that's fine they will take them off in theatre' ( the nurse had told me to put them on) Then he said 'Is it cold on the day ward' and I said 'much warmer than here'

The next thing i knew I was waking up thinking I was at home!!

I felt absolutely fine and just said to the nurse outright ' Bizarre' then I kept repeating it but it was .......

It was 09.45 and the last time i had seen the time was 08.55

No pain at all just a bit woozy ...they wheeled me down to the ward where two minutes later i had tea and was told when i could - I could get dressed

I felt a bit sicky but not sick

they brought me a phone to ring dh and he came around midday.

It was 100% more positive experience than medical management which was awful awful for me.

ANyone else not 'told' they were about to be anaesthetised?

Sorry about essay - strangely therapeutic x

Pauline - pleased your erpc was ok. It is definetley very strange when you wake up an hour later and it feels no time has passed. I knew as soon as I saw the anaethetist inject liquid into my cannula that I would soon be asleep but I don't think he said anything. Hope you are ok over the next few days and take care of yourself.

What a remarkable bunch of ladies we are here - being so positive through all the crap and supporting each other .

Poodlemum - you are exactly the same as me - I mc'd at 12 weeks on 7 Jan, first baby, 4 months of trying. You are in the best place, right now as we have all been there. My advice is take each day as it comes, don't rush to 'get over' it and cry as much as you want. I had days when I hurt so much (not physically) that is hurt and I had some very dark days of despair which was the bereavement side of things, but you must know this - time will help enormously and knowing that you are not alone. You will get through it.

Hairy I am really sorry to hear about your day - what a lot to go through. I hope you are getting support from your DP/DH?

Ladybee I'm impressed at the support from your GP - mine has been hopeless.

Laff My first period after mc also shook me up a great deal. I think this is quite common as it brings it home you are no longer pg (as the miscarriage is just that - not a period) and it's such a shock after not having one for a while. I hope it's not too difficult.

Digitalgirl Thanks for the info on cervical positions - will look up the website.

Dorcas I also agree you should have that massage. I was nervy of using the steam and sauna rooms when I had my break 'just incase' but I think relaxing is more important at the moment (especially in light of the difficulties I posted about on Mon).

Littlemiss Have you tried out the new bed yet?!

Pauline Hope today wasn't too bad and that you are recovering well.

As I am working at home tomorrow, I am contemplating staying up a bit to watch the election results - anyone else feel a bit excited about it all? x

WYG, you are very strong.

This m/c has focused me. Maybe before I was scared of pregnancy and giving birth but now I know that I would give anything to go through it and have a happy healthy outcome.

I share all of your tears and hope that we all have a happy outcome.

it is such a lonely experience...

I too am fired up - actually feel much better as for me mmc is just the worst hopeless waiting game ...

good luck ladies I am trying to pick up all your diet tips too - though a bit premature it helps me focus on the positive

Morning lovelies x

poodle - welcome to our lovely and supportive home x

pauline - glad yesterday went well.

I remember after my ERPC, they kept me in recovery for longer than usual as I came out of surgery with a high temperature. Anyway, the lady who had the procedure after me (who was a dead ringer for Heather out of Eastenders) was brought into recovery, and when she started to come around from the anaesthetic, she started wailing and moaning and just making all sorts of really random noises - like an orgy of wild animals mating.

For some reason, this really gave me the giggles and when the nurse asked me if I had any questions, I was trying to stifle myself from laughing out loud. She asked again, and I said, "Well I do, but I don't want to ask it". The nurse pushed and pushed and pushed and in the end, I just said, "Please tell me I didn't make all that noise when I came around?"

The nurse smirked but just said, "No. No you didn't" which made me feel like the world's meanest cow.

Anyway, hope you're all well. I'm shattered after staying up far too late watching the election coverage. I've got another acupuncture session at 2pm so I reckon I'll fall asleep then.

Lots of love
xxx

Friday's list

Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD49
Redheadgal TTC#1 UCL 28-30 cycle WTF CD44
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD42
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD39
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD37
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD30
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD26
Gonnabe TTC#1 UCL28 Cycle 2 C23
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 3 CD23
Magic8ballhastheanswers TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD19
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 2 CD18
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle3 CD15
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD15
Dorcas11 TTC 1, UCL29, cycle 1, CD15
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle3 CD13
Clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 3 CD9
LucySnowe TTC#2 UCL 40+ cycle 3 CD7
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 6 CD7
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD6
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26-9 cycle 12 CD6
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD2
BUnderthebonnet TTC#2 UCL 28-36 CD??

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 Month 3 of 3 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 2nd cycle post ERPC self imposed TTC amnesty
Jollster TTC#2 MMC 26/2/10 couple of cycles wait on acupuncturist advice
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 1 of 2 or 3 cycle wait
LadyBee TTC#2 ERPC 08/04/10
Digitalgirl TTC#2 MC 11/04/10
NBelle TTC#1 MC 09/04/10
MrsG/PrettyV Enjoying the view and the great company.

GRADUATES
amyboo - baby boy - Matthew
totally - baby girl - Faith
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009 - baby boy - Benjamin
Memorylapse - Baby girl - Olivia
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Barrenbrook BFP 6th April 2010
Goodluckbear BFP 10th April 2010
Malteser1981 BFP 11th April 2010
Gilda BFP 19th April 2010
AlbaDeTamble BFP 25th April 2010
sparklyrainbow BFP 25th April 2010
BunnyBaby BFP 27th April 2010
Margie32 BFP 26th April

Hi ladies, just updating todays list. Hope everyone is well. Just thinking about what I can get hubby for our wedding anniversary tomorrow, 5 years is wood........(he he he) x

LOL

Friday filth - love it!!
Wood eh...? Brazilian? Trip to ann summers?
Or more boringly....
Wooden picture frame with pic of both of you?
Tree for garden?
Wooden keepsake box?
Wooden thing for garden?

Happy anniversary!!!

Mornin' all.

Sorry not been about, all I've done since Monday is work,sleep,eat,work,sleep,(drink)eat,work,eat,work,work,cry.

This may be a long one...

Viv fucksticks me luvvie, I too was waiting at the virtual airport waving POAS'.
Glad you had fun away and for a weekend full of SWI-ing.

Moo sorry to hear about your friends Mum,bless you for being so supportive.

Hairy So sorry to read your news,what a week it must have been for you.
I've been in a similar situation, waiting then going back then waiting again without any clear answers.
Good for you for being so positive.
Take care of yourself x

Hi PoodleMum and welcome to our lovely madhouse haven of support.

PaulinePetrovaPosy welcome to you too.
Glad yesterday went as well as it could.
I've had a few ERPC procedures and one medical management.
I agree that ERPC was the best way for me too.
All mine were different, all in all they have gone ok.
There was one that sticks in my mind,I have raynaud's and dodgy veins, one time they had trouble finding one for the canula they must have just about found a vein big enough and when they put the fluid through to knock me out the pain from my finger tips to my shoulders made me scream.
The last thing I remember was the look of horror on the Anesthetists' face, I thought it was funny, laughed then zonked out.
The next time, they must have remembered me as they kept me warm and didn't ask me to count down

I love your name btw, I loved Ballet Shoes.
Hope you're recovering well and taking it easy.

LAF How you doing today? Have a squeeeze x

LittleMiss hows the new bed working out for you?
Cheepz
wot news news on the job frontage laydees?

Welcome back Slim and Hopefully

Waves to everyone else to.

8theball this would give him wood

Update on me and the epic battle with getting results and answers.

Got letter from Hospital saying I'd been refered to Clinical Genetics to phone a number to speak to a *genetics counsellor.

Phoned, gave details, to whom I thought was a *GC.
Nope.

Waited 4 days for someone to call me back, gave details again went through history again.
Then was told that an app. would be made for me to have a telephone consultation with a GC on the 24th of June this would be to discuss my history (again) and discuss the blood results.
and we would have to wait 6-8 weeks after that to see someone.

I stamped my feet somewhat expressed my dismay and asked if it was at all possible could I please have an earlier appointment so I'll be seen earlier.
She called back within 5 mins and said a letter will be sent out to say that at 10am Wed 12/5 I will be contacted by a real life Genetic Counsellor! Whoo-hoo!

AAAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!

Sorry

Lesson to remember: Be pushy when needed or someone else(me) will get in there first.

Hello everyone, liking the filth too! I might need some of those suggestions myself- OH has been working flat out with election stuff (he works in the media) and has had very little sleep, but I'm mid-cycle and don't want to miss out on SWI-ing at this crucial time. He's promised he'll be ok, but he was high as a kite with sleep deprivation this morning so I am worried...

But here's another sensible suggestion for you Magic8 -a small tree for the garden? I have a lovely dwarf apple tree that lives in a pot if you are short on room. And a small olive tree too, they're really nice.

I went for the massage and it was just what I needed. The masseuse was really sweet and asked me lots of questions, which normally I think I would have been a bit embarrassed by (it's a bit weird to be discussing sperm and being asked about the last time you had sex with someone you just met) but actually it felt reassuring that she knew what she was doing. I think I need lots more pampering and general niceness in my life right now
(I just reread that and want to make it clear I meant discussing with a stranger the last time I had sex, not talking about having sex with strangers! If that makes sense... )

Dorcas i thought you had been having sex with strangers too! My word, between that and saucy suggestions for 8s this morning - what a bunch!

I'm hoping to catch up properly later when DH goes to work. Missed a lot this week I see - hello to the newwbies, hope you're all doing ok. Sorry things didn't work out after all Hairy - what an emotional rollercoaster, you poor soul.

Glad you gave them a roasting MrsPrettyG and got your appointment. You're not asking for a lot after all, the medical profession can be so complacent. Hope it is useful, looking forward to hearing about it next week.

As I said earlier in the week my best mate's Mum died on Sunday after a 6 year battle with cancer. She was an absolutely amazing person with such a positive outlook and lust for life - even before she got ill. A truly inspirational person. Its been horrible watching the family go through this and saying goodbye to her, they've all been amazingly strong. My best mate has been through so much, including 2 unsucessful cycles of IVF since Nov last year, and now her rock has gone. She was desperate to give her Mum a grandchild before she died and all her Mum wanted to see was her on her way to getting her baby. So, so sad - I've done lots of reflecting this week and am amazed by people's strength. I see lots of it from the ladies on this thread too.

Talking about trees for the garden, we bought a Japanese maple to remember our little bean and its only gone and died. I held off planting until a few weeks ago becuase of the frost and planted about 8 plants and shrubs and its the only one not to have made it. I know its silly but I'm gutted about that.

Sorry - that was quite a morose post! Hope everyone is having a good Friday - here comes the weekend!

Hi Moofold, sorry about your mate's mum. What an ordeal for your friend to go through- I'm sure she appreciates your support.
Sorry about your Japanese maple too. I had thought about getting something for the garden but that is the one thing that is making me hesitate- the fear of it dying. I think I would be really gutted too if it died. I bought a necklace yesterday in memory of the baby, and I'm going to find a pendant with November's birthstone to hang on it. (November would have been my baby's birth month). I already find it comforting wearing it, it's like even though they have gone it is a part of them still here in the world, it makes the baby seem more real if that makes sense?

I knew that I should have deleted that bit about sex with strangers , just to reiterate I meant talking about having sex with my partner to a stranger who was about to massage me. And by stranger I mean fully qualified professional masseuse. God, I think I'm making it sound worse, maybe I should stop...

Thanks for all your suggestions ladies, I am going to drag take dd1 to the garden centre and look for a woody planty something now I am over mid cycle LOL!!! X I love your saucy ideas though Clare & pretty and I am so very glad you spoke your mind and got bumped up to next week - fingers crossed for you x Ahhh Moo I can totally understand why you would feel gutted, those Maples are so sensitive though hun. Sorry to hear about your friends mum too but what a fighter. I know what you mean though, DHs partner at works wife has been battling leukemia since Oct 2008, she has all treatment possible and just struggles day to day with little quality of life as she is so poorly at the mo but she just fights on .....makes me feel like I should stop bloody whining...... maybe a little miracle will happen now and your friend suddenly falls pregnant.x
Dorcas maybe you should try some of prettys suggestions? General niceness and pampering is just what the dr ordered - I went for a spa day a couple of weeks back and it really helped.
PPP glad all went well, on the up now x I had the loveliest aneathatist for mine (she had been there too) very warm and tactile, all I remember was her saying was you are going to go to sleep now and then I woke up 20 minutes later staring at the clock - weirdest feeling. Viv I was really para when I came round too and also heard another girl all moany down the way...she was in for some dog bite thing?!
WYG how late did you stay up?

Hi all
have been lurking but mad busy (not with anything exciting or media/election flash, just dull selling house stuff).

Can't believe we're a week into May and no BFPs..... what's occurin'?

have been reading the memorial tributes with much interest and agree on the hesitating to plant stuff, but LOVE LOVE LOVE your idea Dorcus on the birth month stones. I can get a March and a September, and add it to DS's May, and have a lovely way of keeping my three babes close to me.

Only news here is that we will be NOT TTC again this month, whilst acupuncturist gets to know my cycle better . My progesterone result was a good one, but she's thrown by the fact I had 4 days of spotting pre RTD, ususally a low prog indicator.

DS will be 2 in a few weeks, and that will be one year since we started TTC#2. Most days are really fine, and then something will trigger that thought that things are meant to be different by now. I'm meant to be a mum of TWO.

Hope you all have splendid weekends. xxx

PS - forgot to say; Oyster Bay SB 25% off at Waitrose. Bollocks, off the wagon again ....

Linda, I think it sounds like you've really thought through your decision and it does seem to make a lot of sense. You just have to do what feels right for you (and know that you can change your mind). However, if you go, you'll be missed.

As WYG wrote in a recent post, you really are a remarkable bunch. Although I may not always post commenting about it, many of the posts here ring so true and close to my heart. It's so nice to have you all as company!!

I'm still in my wtf cycle and am now understanding exactly why it's called wtf. My body makes no sense right now. It's almost like my womanly parts are getting off on taunting me. I just keep getting crazy mixed signals.

Hairy, I, too went through a similar experience. Your post actually brought a lot back. I had slow rising levels and sometimes they were really good, others not. Things would look great, then not. It went on for weeks and was hell. It was almost a relief once it was over. I'm sorry to see you go through a similar experience.

LAF77 and PaulinaPP, I'm feeling fired up, too. That's such a good way to describe how I'm feeling.

And, finally, thanks to all for the Friday filth. I catch up on your posts at about 6 am when I'm miserable and hating the world- I am always greateful for a laugh. You're such a dirty bunch!!

lindalinda - What a tough decision that must have been, but I'm glad that you've found peace with what the future holds. Good luck for you and your family, and don't be a stranger x

jolls - I've just come back from session #3. I managed a quick catnap which is good, given my late night! As today is day 6, my acupuncturist tells me she did some work around helping me regenerate my blood cells as I will be quite low after AF. She was interested to hear about the achey boobs and the mild nausea I've had this time around too, and explained how it could be some blockage or other (Hmmm... ????) Interestingly, in the hour or so since I got back, I've had a couple of twinges in the ov area, so who knows if it's working!

prettymrsG - good on ya love, for stamping your feet. Sounds like it got things moving pretty quickly!

hi moo honey - sorry again to hear about your best friend's mum, but you sound as though you're a wonderful friend x

Am off home soon as I'm shattered. I think even a bottle of Oyster Bay would be beyond me this evening. xxx

Really sorry to see you going lindalinda but can understand why you are. Thinking of you.

On the memorial issue, after my first miscarriage I finally did something I'd meant to do for ages and sponsored a child. Costs me £12 a month and I'm helping support a 5 year old girl in Burkina Faso. I may not have the child I should have right now, but at least I can make another child's life better.

There are some really sad, emotional posts on here today. I shed a tear reading about Moofold's friend. That is just heartbreaking. So so so sad. I just can't imagine how hard that must be for her.

Also,lindalinda. It's an enormous decision, but it sounds like it is the right one. With these gigantic life-altering decisions, I think, sometimes, once they're made - after the grieving for what might have been - life can settle down and be really okay. I hope that makes sense - what i'm kind of trying to say is that I think it's all the should we, shouldn't we, how long should we continue with this etc that is so stressful.

Hairy - I'm so sorry. To have that hope, then for it to be dashed, is hell.

Pauline - glad yesterday went as well as can be expected.

I can't scroll back cos I'm doing this on my phone, but someone wrote yesterday about the first AF/RTD post MC being really hard. I think it is. In fact, I found the first two after mc really emotional. It's an unwelcome, painful reminder. Plus, for me, I had read so much about being extra fertile after MC and kind of assumed that it would happen quickly. But it doesn't always work that way. And I think our bodies (and minds) can take a bit of time to recover.

I'm so sorry not to name-check everyone. Just dashing in and out. But have lovely weekend all xxx

Also wanted to offer a big hug to hairy. It must be so hard having that hope only to get bad news. When I was waiting to have the ectopic confirmed and they couldn't decide if it was a miscarriage they kept telling me how low my progesterone levels where. Then all of a sudden they climbed massively and the nurse got a bit excited. Next scan the ectopic was confirmed.

It's just devastating having that glimmer of hope.

I am getting closer to the end of my 3 month wait. In 11 days it will be exactly 3 months. I'll then have to wait until the end of my cycle. Then it'll be time to start trying again. I am terrified at the prospect. One miscarriage and one ectopic, what will I get next time?

Linda X post with you earlier with a flippant advert for discounted wine. How accidently tasteless of me. Your post is very moving - I wish you all the very best.

Muse what an appropriate and worthwhile action. That's really stirred me.

viv haven't really felt anything post session yet .... but I DO think she's good, and I DO believe in its power.

gotta dash and get DS
x