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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

First time frolickers - old and new first time TTC'ers welcome!

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maamalady · 21/04/2010 12:43

A new thread! This is for anyone who is trying to conceive their first child - anyone welcome!

The current stats list is shown below, UCL means usual cycle length, and CD is cycle day.

In theory the person who starts the thread gets a BFP before the end, but I'll just be happy to get AF turn up again!

evilgiraffe TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 28?! CD82
Stiffybyng TTC#1 cycle UCL28 CD55
PinkiePoo TTC1, Cycle 2, UCL 28-40, CD48
Bellaby TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 32ish CD42
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 8 UCL 33 CD37
misshoohaa TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL-28-35 CD36
Papertiger TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28-32 CD30
Wannamummy TTC#1 cycle 2, UCL 28 CD30
Headbanger TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 24 CD25
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle11 UCL30 CD24
cherrycobbler TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL32 CD21
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 11 UCL 27-32 CD20
Mrs Wajs TTC#1 cycle 8 UCL 27-45 CD19
Ariesgirl TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 29 CD17
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 9 UCL31 CD17
Pipsicles TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL38 CD16
chico193 TTC#1 cycle ? UCL36 CD14
haloflo TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26-28 CD13
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 11 UCL33-39 CD12
applecharlotte TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL26 CD11
Dinkytinky TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL27 CD6
Claire 196 TTC#1 cycle2 UCL 25-28 CD5
Womanlytales TTC#1, Cycle 2, UCL28, CD4

Not counting days
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL ?
Aly323

Waiting to TTC
Sevans
FelicityFlick (Regulating cycles- Cycle 1-41 Days Cycle 2-57 Days Cycle 3- 38 days)
seablue TTC #1 Cycle 12 UCL 28ish CD20
CaveMum
calligraphy82

MIA (stopped counting cds)
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD115
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD89
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL26/7 CD74
mrscinco TTC#1 Cycle 8 UCL 27-32 CD61
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD90
Hoping TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 32 CD89
lipstie TTC#1 Cycle7 UCL26-28 CD77
hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL28-30 CD74
lucieloo TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL 24-32 CD69
LinzRed TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD77

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
DesperateHousewife21 3rd Nov
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
Sky27 BFP ???
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov
vix206 BFP 8 Dec
HypotheticalMummy BFP 9 Dec
Ozziegirly BFP 16 Dec
NovemberAli BFP 24 Dec
Eleanora BFP 28 Dec
whiteroses BFP 11 Jan
hamsterlover BFP 11 Jan
Hobnob76 BFP 17 Jan
MadameG BFP 17 Jan
pixiestix BFP 18 Jan
ceebs05 BFP 22 Jan
addie81 BFP 28 Jan
WorrisomeHeart BFP 29 Jan
chancewouldbeafinething BFP 1 Feb
Hermya321 BFP 12 Feb
fudgecat BFP 19 Feb
honeymoo BFP ??
Pidgin BFP 27 Feb
YorkshireTeaDrinker BFP 29 Feb
DrewsGirl BFP 4 March
bunnygirl80 BFP 12 March
Mumnerves BFP 1 April
Spanishlady BFP 3 April
luckyseven BFP 8 April
Capricorn76 12 April

OP posts:
haloflo · 24/05/2010 11:45

Hello everyone! I arrived back from the wedding exhausted and a little sunburned about 8 last night. What a beautiful weekend! We had a great time, despite being bombarded with questions! I know its already been mentioned on this thread but I've never really been faced with them. Questions like "when are you getting married" (Erm I'm not engaged- maybe you should ask my DP and tell him to pull his finger out) and "when are you going to have children" (Err in the future I hope)

Do people with children think these are acceptable questions to ask? Mind your own business! I don't ask when they are having their next child as I know that's not always possible. Surely you never know if that's a delicate question? Anyway rant over because there were some very cute babies at the wedding who I loved. In particular an 8 week old girl (very cute) and a gorgeous 22 month old who was perfectly behaved and loved giving everyone in the family kisses.

Fortunately I didn't get upset once despite the quizzing which I'm quite proud of.

Of course having a great time meant little sleep - maybe 5 hours each night. This has really taken it out of me, along with the mammoth journey (9 hours on the way there due to traffic and 6 hours on the way home) Of course rather than accepting its normal to be tired and grateful I took today off to lie in I'm now worried as to how I'll cope firstly being pregnant and tired, then heavily pregnant and unable to sleep and of course having a child awake at all hours of the night. Please tell me you must learn to adapt?!

aly as my last post was on my phone I just wanted to say congrats again. I hope you are taking it easy in these first few days.

cavemum I hope AF hasn't arrived on day 20? What's your latest? I hope you used protection this month because if you were TTC we'd all be shouting implantation bleed. (Well I would be) How was the parent's visit? Are they still there?

pinkie Sorry to read about the buble saga - I hope your naked apology isn't far away. Any more signs of ov? I had no signs at all last month apart from the temp rise - no cramps, no CM and it happened for me albeit only briefly. Fingers crossed you are quietly ovulating. I hope you got some SWI in anyway.

mumsnerves Thanks for the heads up - tests have been ordered. Is that site the fertility product which was discussed a while ago. £500 - I couldn't believe it! A thermometer is cheap and does the trick and you have proved to us all. I haven't been able to peek in the grads thread yet (I will) but I hope your 10 week scan went well and you are busy telling everyone the happy news.

Florin I hope you had a good time sailing and weren't too tired for SWI after!

kaloki A date for your wedding - how exciting! That's not too far away either. Fingers crossed for you this month. You started on the dress yet ? I really hope that you have to adapt it for a bump.

zippys I'm also glad to hear you are one step closer but I'm still sending you good vibes for this cycle. I mean now you have the appointment scheduled surely that's got to help your luck this time round?! I hope you are ok anyway and you haven't been too ill over the past few days.

pixie Thanks for mentioning me , I'm trying my best this month so it won't be from lack of trying I miss out on a BFP.

Thanks also for the heads up about trying. Congrats to her & I hope she & Emily are both well.

kkas Hehe, we SWI'ed with the window open last night too - I hope no one heard us Glad you shut the rowdy bunch up though. I hope your SWI'ing continues through the week and you have a lovely time in the hotel this weekend.

mrswajs I love that intercourse rating on FF - I got a high last month too. It's a VIP feature so I'll have to splash out if I decide to temp again. I've a good feeling for you this month and next. If it's not this month then surely with the CBFM and a holiday you are defiantly due your BFP.

felicity We miss you too! When you are back please tell me what date in July TTC can start? The cycle after next? If I don't get a BFP this month I might cross my legs and wait for you.

In case it's not obvious I'm in a really good mood today. If i've been a little too optimistic then i'm sure i'll calm down soon.

I hope this Monday is treating everyone else well.

Big wave to evilgiraffe, bellaby, claireinthecommunity and cherry and everyone else. xx

haloflo · 24/05/2010 13:21

I've just read that child trust funds will be scrapped by January 2011 so that probably means most of us won't benefit from the scheme. Such a shame as I thought it was a great idea which could create a savings culture for our children.

CaveMum · 24/05/2010 13:46

haloflo AF did indeed turn up on Day 19 would you believe it! She's still hanging around now but is very light.
No chance of any 'accidents' this month, what very limited practise we did get in was protected. Plus with DH living away during the week I don't think timings will have worked out.

When we do get down to the actual ttc it's going to have to be planned with military precision! It's a good thing several of my friends refer to me as 'Monica' (from Friends)!

I'm considering using ovulation tests this month to make sure that I am actually ovulating. I got 10 free cheepies when I bought my thermometer so it won't cost me anything to find out.

All fun and games!

haloflo · 24/05/2010 14:35

Sorry to here it was AF, didn't you say that you had very short cycles before you went on the pill? Hopefully its just a one off whilst your body settles down. Is your DH based far away? I can imagine the mid week sneaking around might actually be a lot of fun!

I'm trying ov sticks this month too as I can't do nothing. Yesterday I got a very very definate negative (CD10) but hopefully they will turn positive over the next few days. How did the temping work out in the end?

Ariesgirl · 24/05/2010 15:25

KKAS YOU SHAMELESS HUSSY!!! Well done - hope it does the trick.

Hi to all

CaveMum · 24/05/2010 15:31
MrsWajs · 24/05/2010 15:43

Halo you do sound particularly cheery today I like how the weather can make people happy! Mind you in saying that ours isn't so great now Dull & cloudy but still warm, which makes it impossible to sleep at night! Hence the reason I probably slept in for work this morning - oooops!

Well my temps having taken a rise again (seriously it's been ridiculous the ups and down I've been having since ov!) so hoping now it just keeps going up! Trying not to get my hopes up too much again but just can't help thinking that surely it must be about my turn now!
Had a sore right nipple last night (?TMI) - not sure if that means anything but it's the first time it's happened since I've been off my pill. It's still a bit sensitive today but nothing major and the left one is totally fine - weird! It would just be my luck that it wasn't a symptom at all and just something wrong with it to add to my list of ailments just now! Have a cracked filling, which is making eating torture and have a scratchy sore throat too, really hoping it doesn't turn into the cold before this weekend. And to top it all I'm working right through until Friday (bearing in mind I started back last Friday, just incase any of you were thinking I was struggling with a 5 day week there!)
Anyway all that aside I am pretty chipper today, I know it doesn't sound like it, but I am!

PinkiePoo · 25/05/2010 08:38

mrswajs sounds promising. If truth be told i find all this temping really confusing haven't given it a go yet.....my little brain can only take so much in one day

halo grrrr it gets me so so angry. People have no right to ask that, i get it all the bloody time, and quite honestly close to punching someone in the face. Ok maybe not quite, but maybe a little chinese burn or a flick to the back of the head!!

Anyone know where i can get a cheap fertility monitor...ebay?? I am really confused as i just don't think i am ovulating AT ALL!! I never know if i am doing it at the right time, really peed off today. Got the cramps, had for last 2 days, but no CM. When i came off pill in september last year i had 2 months of getting CM and nothing since.....WTF??!!

So any idea on cheapies which could give me an indication if things are happening down there or not?!!

MrsWajs · 25/05/2010 09:53

Tuesday's list:

evilgiraffe TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 28?! CD116
Bellaby TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 32ish CD76
Headbanger TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 24 CD60
Pipsicles TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL38 CD50
chico193 TTC#1 cycle ? UCL36 CD48
Dinkytinky TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL27 CD40
Claire 196 TTC#1 cycle2 UCL 25-28 CD38
moulesfrites TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL 28 CD34
Papertiger TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28-32 CD31
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle12 UCL29 CD29
Junglebob TTC#1, Cycle 6, UCL31-36, CD28
cherrycobbler TTC#1 cycle 4, UCL32 CD24
Mrs Wajs TTC#1 cycle 9, UCL 27-45 CD23
Wannamummy TTC#1 cycle 3, UCL 28 CD23
Ariesgirl TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 29-32 CD19
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 10 UCL31 CD19
PinkiePoo TTC1, Cycle 3, UCL 28-40, CD19
applecharlotte TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26 CD19
wakarimasen TTC#1, Cycle 2, UCL25ish, CD18
Florin TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL ??? CD13
takethatlady TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL32 CD13
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 12 UCL33-39 CD11
LankyLady TTC#1 cycle UCL29, CD7
Womanlytales TTC#1, Cycle 3, UCL28-33, CD5

Not counting days
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL ?
haloflo TTC#1 cycle 6

Waiting to TTC
Calyx
Sevans
FelicityFlick (41,57,38,33)
CaveMum
calligraphy82
chalky3
hairytriangle
SaorAlba

MIA (stopped counting cds)
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD115
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD89
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL26/7 CD74
mrscinco TTC#1 Cycle 8 UCL 27-32 CD61
Hoping TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 32 CD89
lipstie TTC#1 Cycle7 UCL26-28 CD77
lucieloo TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL 24-32 CD69
LinzRed TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD77
Stiffybyng TTC#1 cycle UCL28 CD75
misshoohaa TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL-28-35 CD56

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
DesperateHousewife21 3rd Nov
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
Sky27 BFP ???
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov
vix206 BFP 8 Dec
HypotheticalMummy BFP 9 Dec
Ozziegirly BFP 16 Dec
NovemberAli BFP 24 Dec
Eleanora BFP 28 Dec
whiteroses BFP 11 Jan
hamsterlover BFP 11 Jan
Hobnob76 BFP 17 Jan
MadameG BFP 17 Jan
pixiestix BFP 18 Jan
ceebs05 BFP 22 Jan
addie81 BFP 28 Jan
WorrisomeHeart BFP 29 Jan
chancewouldbeafinething BFP 1 Feb
Hermya321 BFP 12 Feb
fudgecat BFP 19 Feb
honeymoo BFP ??
Pidgin BFP 27 Feb
YorkshireTeaDrinker BFP 29 Feb
DrewsGirl BFP 4 March
bunnygirl80 BFP 12 March
Mumnerves BFP 1 April
Spanishlady BFP 3 April
luckyseven BFP 8 April
Capricorn76 12 April
Homebound 30 April
Starberries BFP ?
Oneof8 BFP 18 May
seablue BFP ?
Aly323 BFP ?

pinkie I was totally like that when I first started temping but now I've been doing it for 2 cycles it is a lot easier. I suppose if you gave it a go it would help you to know if you were ovulating, although it doesn't tell you til after the event so not that much help for timing SWI but even so - cheaper than getting a fertility monitor. Also you could get some cheapy OPK's off the internet and just do them every day until you get your +ve. I think the only difference between the monitor and piss sticks is that the monitor tells you an extra few days before ov when you might be fertile whereas the sticks only give you the day before.

takethatlady · 25/05/2010 10:17

Hello haloflo, congrats on getting through that wedding. I don't know why people constantly ask these questions - it's so wrong! I got married at 22 and a year later I went to a family party and I heard this woman I didn't really know saying to my mum 'she's 23? And she's married? How come she doesn't have a baby?' - and my mum sighed and said, 'well, you know, she's a career woman'. I was 23!!! Now I'm 27 (for another five weeks, anyway) and half my friends will be totally shocked we're ttc when they find out, because we'll be the first in some of our friendship groups, and everybody else is worrying we're infertile because we've been married so long without procreating. Haven't these people heard of contraception?! My DH's nan keeps telling me if I don't have a baby by 30 I'll have a horrendous childbirth, too, which isn't a nice tactic!

Lol kkas at your window-open shagging. We did it in the garden on Sunday (secluded spot in the corner under a tree - nobody could see, but it's hard to keep totally quiet )...

And congrats kaloki and aly on your wedding date and BFP!

PinkiePoo · 25/05/2010 10:44

mrs i still have the ovulation kit from before so can i just get the sticks??

I ended going to my friends 30th bbq on friday, and it was just the girlies, and ended up telling a few of them i was TTC. They were saying 'we knew you were next'...i was like..WOAH!! I won't be next if its gonna take frigging forever...they all reassured me and told me of there worries and problems when trying to conceive...so felt a little better, but not enough, ha ha!

2 friends on Facebook, declared to everyone yesterday they were 13 weeks pregnant...

Bellaby · 25/05/2010 11:04

Morning Ladies

Hope you have all been enjoying the sunshine!

Am in a bit of a state of shock this morning. Did a Clear Blue test this morning and it showed as positive 1-2 weeks! I really can't believe it.

Am at work now and did a First Response test which had a very faint second line. Will test again tomorrow with both

I'm actually a bit of a nervous wreck for a couple of reasons:

  • there were 2 occassions in the last 2 weeks when I drank way too much. My DH will not be happy about this at all either as I had told him it wasn't at all likely we could conceive until after next AF appeared which I also believed as after this long it all seemed a bit silly
  • can the walls of my uterus still be healthy after 75 days with no AF??

I've had no symptoms at all other than I woke up on Sat with a painful ache in what felt like the womanly areas - any idea what this might have been?

Sorry this post is all Me, Me, Me. In complete & utter shock, can't concentrate at work at all

Writing this from my iPhone so will try to get on again after work

Obviously you lovely ladies are the absolute first to know - I wouldn't have it any other way!

Lots of love

Bellaby xxx

womanlytales · 25/05/2010 11:33

Bellaby - congratulations

felicityFlick · 25/05/2010 11:53

Oh wow bella Such exciting news! SOOOOOOOOO pleased for you and what a shock it must have been Yay!!!

See, I am still here lurking when I should be marking! Just popping out of the wood work for special occasions like this

Will be back at the weekend and can't wait to catch up- big waves to you all. Hope the weather is still holding!

PS. yes please flo, keep those legs crossed and wait for me! You're right- cycle after next and AF is due any day so not much longer!

xxxx

takethatlady · 25/05/2010 12:16

Congrats Bellaby!!!

Honestly don't worry about the drinking - it's only damaging if you get steaming drunk throughout the pregnancy. According to a Potsdam report which collated all existing studies into alcohol and pregnancy, if you have one glass of wine a day throughout the pregnancy your baby will actually be cleverer and healthier! (Not suggesting drinking throughout pregnancy, of course, but still it's good not to put too much pressure on).

Good to know that even after 75 days no AF it can happen!

kkas · 25/05/2010 12:32

congrats bellaby so happy for you!!!!

nice one takethat! hope it worked for you!

MrsWajs · 25/05/2010 12:33

Oooh Bellaby congratlulations!!! I guess your Dr was right after all then!

Bellaby · 25/05/2010 13:19

Haha Mrs Wajs - there was me thinking what do doctors know she is probably covering her own Back

anyway having a blood test done to confirm but will get results tomorrow

OneOf8 · 25/05/2010 13:24

Bellaby Congrats!!!! x

CaveMum · 25/05/2010 13:42

Bellaby massive congratulations!

PinkiePoo · 25/05/2010 13:50

bella congrats....what fabulous news!!

PinkiePoo · 25/05/2010 14:21

bella i am somewhat confused....did you not have an AF for 75 days?? LUCKY GIRL....I didn't have one for about 80 something and bloody well did not happen to me.... but for you x x

Bellaby · 25/05/2010 16:30

Pinkie I too am very surprised hence I won't believe it until the results of the blood test. On top of that we've not been particularly active in the SWI department recently so definitely more luck than anything else.

Just hope DH takes the news well this evening!

haloflo · 25/05/2010 17:36

bellaby!! I am so thrilled for you!! Congratulations. I'm sure your DH will be delighted!

If you want reassurance you won't be the first person to have drunk whilst being a few days pregnant try not to worry. The bean is just implanting and is supporting itself at the moment. Until the placenta develops(about 6 weeks I believe) there is nothing to worry about. If CB put you at 1-2 weeks since conception then you are only about 4 weeks pg. Also I'm sure the walls of your uterus will be fine even after so long and very comfy for your bean. Your doctor can tell you more I'm sure.

I'm loving this run of BPF's - we will have no one left!!

mrswajs How's the tooth today - have you got to a dentist yet? I hope the temps keep on rising.

pinkie I think temping is the only way to know for sure you are ovulating as ov sticks only record whether you produce the hormone which triggers the egg so you might get the hormone but not the egg. If you take a couple of hours and read up on FF you would soon get the knack of temping i'm sure. If you buy Taking Control of your Fertility by Toni Weschler she explains the theory very well.

However you can still give ov sticks a go - as mrswajs says it gives you an idea when to SWI. You can get v cheap OPK's on ebay - the dip stick ones. Have you tried them? The CB ov sticks and CBFM plus ov sticks get very expensive they advise you don't use them for long irregular cycles. Like your friends said I'm sure something is going on in there - let bellaby be your inspiration.

takethatlady Naughty lady! There are going to be a few BFP's this month with the warm weather making everyone frisky I am taking a vow to never ask such personal questions. I can't believe DH's nan.

haloflo · 25/05/2010 17:38

Oh and theres not much new with me. Just in the SWI phase. We weren't in the mood last night so gonna give tonight a go. Enjoy your evenings everyone!

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