TTC after a Miscarriage - Keep Trying!!!!

[Diddle]

Well ladies, its about time we had a new thread, the old one is getting very long. Plus I think we need another fresh start, with lots of positive babydust:

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Get a big handful girls, i think we all need it.
I was trying to think of something great and positive to put, but this TTC lark is getting us all down, i'm fed up of trying, but we will all succeed eventually, our times will come.

It will be much better for our little ones to have a good start when our bodies are truly ready to carry them.

Diddle I'm fine wishing I could stay away from you lot and give up for good.
Hellkat I'm soooooo pleased the results were fine!! although you have taken away my reason to lurk on this thread. I had a Breast biopsy when I was pregnant with no2 and I remember asking the consultant if it was going to hurt and she said yes! Hump, I would have prefered it if she'd lied to me . I wish I could be as laid back as to 'just let it happen' but even this month I was obsessing and there was only 1% chance I could be.

HK- Great news about the biopsy. Soo relieved for you!
Welcome to the newbies and hi to the usual suspects!
Just back from the hospital visitig my friend who had her twin boys on Tuesday and so got a lovely cuddle of them both. Wondered how I would feel but it was lovely seeing all of those babies and all of the happiness around them. It will happen for us, too!
My AF should be due on Aug 3rd so looks like I am clumping with a few of the rest of you cyclewise. Know it can happen when you see people but didn't realise it could also happen in a virtual environment
Hugs all round.

Maybe thats why my AF hasn't arrived My cycle adjusting to you lot!!

Evening ladies

AF stay away (for all those facing the weekend with me.....)

Been shopping (again)This time to Clarks for shoes and got £95.00 worth for £20.00

DD is the Imelda Marcos of nursery!

Weather horrible and not helping with gloomy mood.Been craft making with dd and neices.Just love to hear them play.DD is learning new words by the hour so neices sit and get her to repeat things like a performing monkey.No wonder shes shattered by bedtime
DH keeps ringing me from work "are you ok?"Bless but he has not a clue.He said last night "no point getting depressed about it,it might never happen" Cheers luv.Made sure he got extra hard prods for snoring in the night

Convinced self not pg and today went through 'should i give up' as HATE feeling like this.But know i have to continue as will regret if dont.

Bella23 I too have dark moments.I day dream about delivering a baby that is alive (dd was a c section)its like i justhave to go through the experience and have a positive outcome.Its v hard

thanks for the message shelly, its nice to know that others know how i feel and not to feel like a neurotic woman (well at least not all the time lol!)my af due monday and im keeping everything crossed that goes for everyone on here too we must all be in sync with dates its a woman thing!!! x

Morning all,

Hope you're all a bit happier today, not we have much reason to be really.
I had the new Blooming Marvellous catalogue arrive yesterday, and juts looking at the women in maternity clothes made me really broody, i want to buy everything and need to wear it. Maybe if i eat lots of chcolate i will need some
Now watching the baby whisperer on dscovery health, first time i've tried to watch these baby programmes since the m/c. Not doing too well.

It is so hard to believe that I would be having my baby in 7 wks ITS NOT FAIR!!!! I want a baby.
i'm fed up of all everything going wrong, we all deserve to be happy.

Xena - nice to hear from you, no harm in loitering here. you stay with us, we'll keep you sane, maybe.

HELLKAT - Whats all this about DP soon to be DH??? are you getting married??? should i have alreayd known that? have you told me before?

Morning All. Feel a bit better today. had belly ache all night and cm is as dry as a bone (lovely) so af will be early this month i think. Still gonna do an early test in a minuete though, just incase but if it says negative then i must execpt it and wait for af like a good girl. Its a shame though as i really wanted a April baby, it would have been born on my other halfs birthday. The longer this ttcing goes on the nearer i get to my ex due date and i want to be healithily pregnant by then so i dont dwell.

Anyway i see you lot have been gossiping away all day yesterday like old fish wives can you imagine if we all met up what it would be like.

Also had another bad dream last night I know dreams are not meant to mean anything but its still disturbing to dream that my children die

oh maddyd - I hate bad dreams, they stay with you don't they, they're always the ones you remember. Glad you're a bit happier today, let us know what happens with the test - fingers crossed for you.

Wish i was pg by the time my due date came, going to work out if its possible. ok done that. It is possible, but this month is my last chance.

I think it would be great if we met up, such an obsessed bunch like us.

Im going to wet myself in a min, how come the posty is always late when i need somethingg important. I bet hes hanging about at the end of the road with a ciggie

Diddle you will have to really go for it this month. Are you using ov sticks. I will be as im sure im missing my ov date. Its worth a try for one month isnt it?

maddyd - yep it is worth a try, I must make sure i use them as a guide only and just do it as much as we can. Last tiem i used them, we stopped bd a few days after the pos, until af came. Think we need to start getting at it every othe day now, all month and then every day around ov, just so we don't miss it.

CP - I'm going through that "perhaps I should just give up and then I won't be so miserable about failing all the time" thing too at the moment. Not for the first time. It will be 9 years in September since we started trying, and still only ds (who's nearly 4) to show for it. But then I think that if anything happened to dh and I, ds would be totally alone in the world for most of his life, as he doesn't have aunts, uncles, cousins, etc - and I can't stand the thought of that so I have to carry on.

On a more positive note, welcome to Carla, Nic, Shelley - and anyone else new that I've missed.

Diddle - we could do a midlands meetup sometime, there's at least 3 of us not a million miles from Birmingham I think!

lunarsea, yes i think there are q few near the midlands, or even find somewhere halfway beween here and London. do we have anyone up north on here??

Morning all! Well AF is still here . Really torn at the moment, as it's been 9 days now, and today was meant to be the day she was due to arrive. It's just that it's soooo light, just a few spots when I wipe a couple of times a day (sorry, tmi) my mind is now playing tricks doing the "maybe you are pg, and this is just implantation bleeding". Just wish it would sort itself out one way or the other - stop completely, or get going properly. Am having to try and assume this is just a funny af rather than anything else, as couldn't bear the thought of my body not holding onto another little bean .
Diddle it's so hard counting away the weeks, and what could have been isn't it? My due date was 3rd July and I was somehow hoping I'd get pg this month. Just in my head it all tied up nicely, conceiving in the month my lo would have been born.

I'm way down south in Portsmouth.

nimum2boys - thats mile away!!!!

Yes its horrible having a date not to lok forward to. I think if i think about it, nothing will happen. So yet again this month i am trying not to think about ttc, yeh right, as if thats possible

Have just worked out that my approx time of ov will be next weekend, I will be staying at my in laws. oh bugger, might be some very quiet bd that weekend.

I am in the North.Near Rochdale in Lancashire.

Actually managed not to test this morning as AF due sun and after 3 bfn i reckon it will come.Used ov kit and bd like mad on ov day so????

dh taking me and dd shopping today so at least it takes my mind off it....

Anyone watch Dispatches last night about Supermarket meat?? I am sure to call at the butchers today......

Re meet up - I'm oop north - in Scotland!!
Can you imagine the scenes if a bunch of conception obsessed lunatics like us were to meet up en masse?
Shades of "league of gentlemen" style mayhem methinks!

Diddle - LOL at the in-law proximity for next round of bding!!!

well none of us are very near one another. maybe we should all get a cheapie flight up to scotland and have a good girly day. I bet you we would all be quiet as mice, its not as easy to talk to people face to face about this stuff, we might all clam up. much safer typing, where we ca laug and cry in private

I have never been described as quiet

Is it me but when you are ttc (TMI coming up) do you go through loads loo roll?!

Apart from the bd theres the constant trips to the loo to see if af is putting an appearance in

Morning all.
Yep Diddle, dp decided high time we got spliced lol. So tempted to let him do all the organising!
Do me a big favour all.... shh about af's! Mine's been here for 5 weeks!! Thoroughly, well and truly, mightily p*ssed off with it I can tell ya! No sign of going neither! Please, someone, anyone take the cow away .
How's everyone?

Morning all ladies.
Well its Friday....Thank God!!
Have been soo good all week and haven't touched a drop of alcohol (very difficult for me as I do soo love a glass of wine).
I may have to treat myself to a glass tonight though. I decided that if I am going to give acupuncture a fair go that I needed to be healthy at the same time so have been drinking lots of water, having all bran for brekkie and generally been very dull!! Very hard I must say but determination is kicking in so am willing to try anything!!

Hellkat - no more talk of AFs....but you've had yours for 5 weeks??? Lord above poor you!!
Mine is being shown the door today and I am not going to be welcoming the old bag back hopefully!