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TTC after a Miscarriage - Keep Trying!!!!

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Diddle · 27/07/2005 15:15

Well ladies, its about time we had a new thread, the old one is getting very long. Plus I think we need another fresh start, with lots of positive babydust:

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Get a big handful girls, i think we all need it.
I was trying to think of something great and positive to put, but this TTC lark is getting us all down, i'm fed up of trying, but we will all succeed eventually, our times will come.

It will be much better for our little ones to have a good start when our bodies are truly ready to carry them.

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maddyd · 27/07/2005 19:26

Chocolatepeanut Dont fret about work. Theres nothing they can do and im sure they are totally sypmathetic to what youve been through.

Are you eating chocolate upstairs in your hidey hole

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 27/07/2005 19:40

came down as had to pick dd up from nursery,which always lifts me

we then had a play and now shes in bed (goes like a dream at 7.00

but to answer your question,i am sat downstairs flitting between here and ebay and watching corrie eating a v large bag of ......

Chocolate peanuts!!!!!!!!

strike1 · 27/07/2005 19:59

I knew that name must have come from somewhere!

cori · 27/07/2005 20:10

Welcome to all the newbies. We have a ttc statistics thread you can post your details on too. It helps people like me to keep with everyones stories, I get sooo confused.
here
Welcome back diddle, hope you are feeling positive again.

Choclatepeanuts, my AF is due on Friday, I did an early test on Tuesday it was BFN. No surprise really. If AF doesnt come I will test again, I dont have my hopes up at all.

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 27/07/2005 20:12

cori mine due sun and got bfn yesterday and today

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 27/07/2005 20:22

added my stats to said link.now you have it all!!

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Diddle · 27/07/2005 21:06

Chocolatepeanut - Love the stats, very good, made me sad about your darling Phillipa, its not fair we've all been through this. horrible world

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charleepeters · 27/07/2005 21:12

I added my stats - hope you dont mind! we will get there girls, were good people who deserve childrn to love and to love us back.

dont you find it annoying that all the time you hear f women who fall pg accidently, or who abort healthy babies or who have them then abuse them when here we are trying so hard for babies who we would carry for 9 month then love them unlike anyone else in the world and yet were finding it so hard! sad, sad, world - but WE WONT BE BEATEN

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Diddle · 27/07/2005 21:25

i Agree charlee, and of course you can add your stats, the more the merrier. It is a sad world, so unfair.

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CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 27/07/2005 21:27

life can be v unfair charleepeters

i see all sorts of lousy mums with my job,its heartbreaking and they have them like rabbits

But i do believe that if you try to be a good person (and thats not always easy,i get so angry ) that luck will catch up with you eventually.
xx

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Diddle · 27/07/2005 21:46

chocolatepeanut - what a lovely way to think, luck will catch up with all of us eventually.

switching off now, going to have a milky drink and big piece of galaxy caramel, yum yum.

Night night all

xxx

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CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 27/07/2005 21:49

night diddle

signing off soon to watch bb

x

maddyd · 28/07/2005 07:52

Morning Everyone. Was up all night with stomach ache dont know what t can be as i dont really get period pains. Must have eaten something off. Temp is back to low too, so not my month me thinks. But hey

Anyway

as i was laying there i couldnt help but think what a lovely bunch of people there are on this thread and even if i never fall pregnant again i will be rooting for everyone else.

((((((((((((((((((((((group Hug)))))))))))))))))))

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Diddle · 28/07/2005 08:14

morning maddyd - what a lovely thing to think, bought a tear to my eye, AF has made me even more emotional if thats possible.

That hug was lovely thanks

nasty weather here today, raining, and has been all night, not sure what to do with the kids.
Can't keep going out, i'll be poor.

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maddyd · 28/07/2005 08:20

Yeah we had a rotton day yesterday staying in. They get so restless dont they. Dont know what we will do today, may have to go out for a walk anyway and jump in some muddy puddles

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Diddle · 28/07/2005 08:25

have just found a site through the miscarriage and bereavement section, about lighting candles. You can read everyones messages, they are lovely, made me a bit tearful, there were messages for family members lost in 9/11. Anything to do with that makes me sad. so horrible.

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nicmum2boys · 28/07/2005 09:28

Phew, can't beleive how much I've missed 42 messages already, and will probably take me so long to type this it'll be even more by the time I post!
Hi Charlee, so sad to hear of your miscarriage. You have been through so much, and you are still so positive, you have amazing strength.
Hi too to Coupe, and so sorry for your loss. Must be horrible having to wait for your body to get back on an even keel again. Here's hoping things sort themselves out really quickly.

Well I don't know what my body is playing at. Still bleeding, have been on and off for 7 days now, and AF isn't even meant to arrive til tomorrow, really is outstaying her welcome already.It's really weird as I'm having cramps like it's my heaviest day, but bleeding is next to nothing. Starting to panic I'm going through early menopause or something, just can't think why after coming on 14dpo like clockwork as far as I can remember, why now when I've got the chance to have the 3rd baby I thought I'd never get does everything go pear shaped??? sorry to rant, really could have full on temper tantrum about this, want to scream it's not fair. Will go and make a cup of tea instead though, and then add my stats to the other thread.

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Diddle · 28/07/2005 11:40

nicmum2boys - i have screamed its not fair a lot, it makes you feel that little bit better.
Hope AF buggers off for you soon.

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Diddle · 28/07/2005 11:45

shelly24 - have read your stats, so sorry to read about your loss, I know that workign with children makes it that little bit harder, I am a childminder and its tough, but i think it also makes you appreciate the children you look after even more, it did for me.

nicmum2boys - I've read yours too, and think i have read another thread you've been on, when you were deciding whether to TTC or not. I'm very pleased you've decided to try again, and you're DH will soon realise if it happens that it will be Joy, joy, joy most of the time.
But by setting a deadline, you must make sure you don't put too much pressure on your body, that could easily stress you out so much that your body won't be well enough to carry a child. So stay positive, and healthy and try as hard as you can not to get as obsessed as we all are about TTC hope you don't mind my advice. Good luck

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Bella23 · 28/07/2005 11:58

Hello all ladies,

Have been with some of you before but keep drifting off into the land of obsession and get too upset to post!

Can I rejoin??
I have posted my stats, basically missed m/c at 10 weeks.

You all sound like you are keeping your spirits up. I am very much up and down. My "would be" due date is fast approaching in a couple of weeks and am dreading it. My BF who got pregnant at the same time as me is due in a couple of weeks and just hearing her talk about it gives me a lump in my throat......which makes me feel very horrible indeed as hate being a crap friend!

Anyway sorry for rant, just wanted to introduce myself xx

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Diddle · 28/07/2005 12:07

rant as much as you want Bella23, we are trying to stay positive, not easy though is it, I can't imagine what its like having someone so close to you who is due so soon, I'm not sure how i'd react to that. My due date isn't until Sept and I am not looking forward to it.
Welcome back

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maddyd · 28/07/2005 12:09

I am completeley miserable today so not posting much. Aonther friend had a baby girl this morning. Im pleased for her but im just so tearful now.

Plus i have low back pain as well as my belly ache which isnt as bad now. Ive never had this before expect when i miscarried obviously.

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Diddle · 28/07/2005 12:35

oh maddyd - sorry you're feeling so low, your friend is very lucky. Our times will come. Go and get some chocolate and have a nice easy day, are you working? A nice hot bath always makes my back and belly feel much better.

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Bella23 · 28/07/2005 12:42

Thanks Diddle.

Maddy - so know how you feel. The only thing that makes me feel any better is having a really good cry and wallow and getting it all out.
Its difficult to keep being happy for other people all the time. Have time out and have a good cry. Also chocolate afterwards always works!!

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 28/07/2005 13:21

Hi Bella23!!

We are all a bit miserable today i see.

Ive been wallowing as much as i am allowed (with dd on the go)
Chocolate helps!!

Been waiting for 'ultra early pg tests' to arrive for a week.They did this morning and i am sorry they did.AnotherBFN.(3rd in 3 days )

AF probably on way (due Sun)

My due date was last weekend and i feel terrible.Think its never going to happen and i am not getting any younger...........